9/11 Chat

 Lisa - I would be direct or polite and set some boundaries. 

Poor Bugsy, I hope you can figure something out for him.  Give him a big smooch for me.  

Ari has arrived at crazy town.  The cooler weather has upped her energy level to a spectacular degree.  She gave our neighbors a chuckle with her puppy like pouncing on moving leaves the other day.  

Found out that the gym nearby that I went to many years ago has expanded their facilities to include more equipment, but also changing rooms and showers.  So, I'm going to rejoin.  Working out at home just does not, well, workout for me.  I find too many excuses.  I need a shower though, since the best time for me to workout is right before work and I don't want to have to go back home to shower and change.  Going to go tonight and pay for a month and go from there (love they don't have contracts!)

 (((Deb)))

I always find this to be an odd day, when they play the things on the radio from the exact time it was happening. It wasn't until about 2:30 in the afternoon that I really fully knew what was going on. I was in 10th grade, and a friend came in to lunch and told us a plane hit the World Trade Center. Just the week before, a few of us had been discussing the likelihood of imminent terrorist attacks on US soil. The school shut down the internet, and told the teachers not to say anything to us.  The friend who had some info happened to be on the computer in the few minutes between when it happened and when the district shut down all the internet access at all the schools. We really didn't think he could be serious, and thought he was just messing with us for having discussed it the previous week.

The change in seasons is not treating me well.  I'm completely congested, and sneezy, and just blah. I've never been to the 9/11 memorial here. I debated going to the ceremony this morning, but I felt like such crap. I've heard it's beautiful, so I will go check it out some time soon.

 The sitter who has watched the kiddo since he was five weeks has decided to not sit anymore after January 1st.So, we have to find an actual day care facility now. (Not comfortable leaving him with a stranger on a one on one situation..we did this situation because she's the wife of my husband's coworker.

It's extra stressful, because people are not at all helpful. Everyone generally likes the day care they're currently at, and can only have negative things to say about others, even if they're referencing something they heard about years before.  Several coworkers use one facility, but I'm not comfortable with some of the things I've heard from them (that they've been fine with and mentioned in passing)...sending kids home in the wrong shoes on several occasions (the shoes had names on them, I believe) as well as the facility workers sharing a little too much info on kids with them.  If, for example, a child bit mine, someone saying 'hey, we're sorry, this is an issue with that child, we're speaking to parents' is fine.  To mention something like that randomly, or to mention that such and such child is small because they were born to a drug addicted parent is violating privacy, in my opinion.  My child doesn't bite (that I am aware of) nor was he a drug infant, lol, but if they're sharing that, what else do they share?

The school my husband works at has a daycare (it's open to the public as well, I believe). We toured the infant area when we were deciding where our kiddo should go when he was a wee guy, but didn't see the toddler area beyond passing the play area outside.  The upside would be that my husband could visit him at lunch, etc.

We'll probably visit several facilities though.   Stressful and frustrating. 

Oh Grab, I'm sorry you're having to deal with that stress. It would be something I'd agonize about too. If the facility at your husband's school works out, that could be the ideal situation. Good luck!

I finally heard from the benefits person and at first she acted like she didn't know who I was, even though the email she was responding to went back weeks and had several replies from her. She then said she had been waiting on the document saying I was losing my benefits, so I again forwarded her the email where she acknowledged receiving it and that was on July 31st. She told me she'd contacted Kaiser and I was now insured, effective Sept 1st.

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I finally heard from the benefits person and at first she acted like she didn't know who I was, even though the email she was responding to went back weeks and had several replies from her. She then said she had been waiting on the document saying I was losing my benefits, so I again forwarded her the email where she acknowledged receiving it and that was on July 31st. She told me she'd contacted Kaiser and I was now insured, effective Sept 1st.

I'd probably confirm that by calling Kaiser myself since this person seems not very on top of things. 

Grab, sorry you're losing your sitter.  I hope you can find a decent place.  I'm sure you're right about how people feel about the daycare they use.  The shoes being on the wrong kids feet would worry me less than the gossip and sharing of personal information.   I get my shoes wrong now and then so maybe that's why that part wouldn't bug me much. lol

 Doubly stressful is that I have shifts that end at 6. Most day cares close at 6 and charge you by the minute after that, this means I'll have to leave early.  If we use the one at the high school, my husband will be able to grab him, which is helpful (we have one car), but part of the year he coaches a sport, which means he'll have to either leave practice early or take him TO practice (he's not quite at the 'sit quietly with an activity' age yet) and then there are the out of town trips.  Blah.  

However, that stress aside, Clive and I have had a decent day :) He did not nap until we had to take a short drive. Thank heavens. Our evenings are horrible on non nap days. I was going to take him to the park, but we'll see what time he wakes up now :)

Wow.  Another slammed day today, but, I would rather be busy.  Gives me far less time to think about things that make me sad.  It's my down time that's hard for me.

Today is emotional for us as well.  It's sad to think of the thousands who are grieving who all lost their loved ones on the same horrid day.  They are tho, in my heart and prayers today.

Julie, I too am sorry to hear about your grandparents.  FWIW, in my experience it's very difficult to find an assisted living facility that has enough staff to actually care for someone with dementia and a severe, insulin dependent diabetic.  A slightly higher level of care might be needed.  Prayers for all involved.

 My neighbor trapped a fox this morning...it was underneath my bedroom window...  She managed to get it to a Vet because it seemed either sick or hit by a car.  At 6am, Buffy was sound asleep and clueless as to what was going on.  My dear sweet Biscotti (RIP) would have had the whole neighborhood in an uproar! 

Lived here since 1983 and have never had this happen.  About 5 years ago, we had an incident with an armadillo...that's about it.

My sister drives me up a wall. She came into the house with my niece. She put her bag down, with food in it, on the floor in reach of the dogs. I was in the kitchen, where you cannot see in the other room. She left my niece there with Luke, she is 20 months old, and went back out to the car to get more stuff. I realized this when I heard Luke rummaging through to bag. He took out a bag a freeze dried peas( and they went all over). I don't care what dog it is, or how trustworthy the dog is with kids. I picked him up, took the food, and put him in his crate to clean up. I don't know that he would let her take food. I don't let her. If she wants something from the dogs because she is playing with them, I take the toy, or make her wait for them to drop it. If anything had happened, it would have been the dog who was blamed, not the adult who left the toddler alone with him. I also know, if she will do it with Luke, she probably doesn't think about this with other dogs. He is probably fine, and so are Callie and the other dog in the house, but not every dog can handle that kid. Hopefully she got it when I told her it was not okay, not even with Luke. On second thought, she loves Luke, and might be more likely to Pester him. I'm still so fricken congested. I need this tO be gone when I wake up.

 Jen I was at my nephew's birthday party last summer and one of the guests put her toddler down and she immediately started pestering one of the dogs. I watched the poor dog give warning after warning in a room FULL of adults.  When I realized no one was going to step in, I stepped up and picked up the little girl.  The mother comes in and is more worried about a stranger holding her daughter then she was about the dog!! Her reasoning.. Well she does it to their cat all the time...