Good thoughts for my daughter

My thoughts and prayers with be with your daughter for a full recovery.  A loving, supportive family is so important and she has that going for her. Give that new baby a kiss for all of us and keep your thoughts as postive as you can.  I know that is the type of advice that should come with a warning to "do as I say, not as I do".  Will be thinking of her and you.

diane303

I know that you are going through a rough time with Willow.  I haven't read the whole story.  Is it Hemolytic Anemia?  I have to tell you that our dog Socks survived a primary and relapse of it and survived until the ripe old age of 17.  Good luck with your outcome, too.

Thank you very, very much.  It's not IMHA but a similar disease that can turn into it and is treated the same way. 

((HUGS))  So many good thoughts are coming from me to you & your daughter.  Good, strong & healthy thoughts.

Please don't forget to give your new grandson a kiss from me.

 I'm so sorry about your daughter and will be praying for her; congratulation's on your precious grandson.

So sorry that your family is having to deal with this.  Good  thoughts and prayers coming from us.

Joyce

I'm just now seeing your post about your daughter and am sending good thoughts to her and the rest of your family.   A friend of mine had a similar experience when she was barely 30, pregnant with her first child - a lump was discovered, cancer diagnosed, but she was too early in her pregnancy for radiation/chemotherapy.  She had a mastectomy, then they waited as long as they could to deliver the baby (several weeks early), and she had the rad/chemo after that.  There were issues due to the prematurity of her son, but he's now a healthy young teenager.  A lump was found in her other breast a year later, and despite lumpectomy being advised, she opted for a mastectomy to be 100% sure (she also said she'd like to get a "matching pair" of reconstructed breasts, so she was trying to be positive and humorous about it).  She came through it great, and even went on to have two more children, who are also strong and healthy. 

It was a difficult time for everyone - she had to deal with the rad/chemo while adjusting to new motherhood and a preemie baby.  The best thing is for your daughter to feel the support of all her family and friends and draw in the love from her new baby.  Again, sending lots of good vibes your way.

 We'll be praying for your daughter.

 Thank you so much for your response.  tacran's story really hit home.   Her husband is worried about whether they can afford the second mastectomy and reconstruction.  I had to shake him a bit and give him a few (figurative) smacks in the head.  They have insurance and the insurance will cover the majority of the first surgery for the first bread.  I told him to buck it up and just do want they should do to give her peace of mind.  They will find someway to afford the final bills - even if the rest of the family has to chip in.  I told him to take her in his arms and reassure her that money isn't an issue and she will get the best that they can find. 

 Sending all the healing vibes (and gentle smacks) that we can from here.  Sometimes people worry about the financial because they have a hard time coming to terms with the more devastating aspects of such a serious disease.  I think it's just their way of expressing some fear without having to confront the harder things, like what happens if the cancer has spread, or what happens if the relationship is affected.  This is all still new for him.  Hopefully, once he gets his bearings, he will be the supportive man she needs in the ways she needs.

spiritdogs

Sometimes people worry about the financial because they have a hard time coming to terms with the more devastating aspects of such a serious disease.  I think it's just their way of expressing some fear without having to confront the harder things, like what happens if the cancer has spread, or what happens if the relationship is affected.  This is all still new for him.  Hopefully, once he gets his bearings, he will be the supportive man she needs in the ways she needs.

I think that what you say is "it" in a nutshell.  It's his way of dealing with it.  I just heard from my daughter and she tested positive for the BRCA2 gene mutation.  This is good news and bad news.  It gives the other young women in the family a chance to see if they also have it and it will allow her second mastectomy and reconstruction to be covered by her insurance.  It also means that I have the mutation.  I've had cancer but have been OK for 11 years.  Time to get a thorough check up.

Thank, Anne.  I hope that everything is going OK with your family as well.

diane303

I just heard from my daughter and she tested positive for the BRCA2 gene mutation.  This is good news and bad news.  It gives the other young women in the family a chance to see if they also have it and it will allow her second mastectomy and reconstruction to be covered by her insurance.  It also means that I have the mutation.  I've had cancer but have been OK for 11 years.  Time to get a thorough check up.

Yes, it's definitely time to get a check-up and talk to your Dr. about the ovarian cancer risk as well. Is it possible for you and other female family members to also get the genetic testing done? My mom died of ovarian cancer at 44 and my sister was dx with breast cancer at 41, so I finally got up the nerve to have the genetic testing done over a year ago. Mine was negative for both BRCA 1 and 2, so it was a relief, but I'll probably always worry more than most people. It wasn't super easy to get the testing approved thru my insurance co., but they did finally agree. I believe that once one member has tested positive, the test is less expensive for the others but I'm not really sure of that.

I wanted to check back in and let you know we are still thinking of you, your daughter and family. . .

I am a breast cancer survivor, My daughters both not only carry the gene but have some very poor habits that will increase the likelyhood they will also have to deal with it. All this being said you have our deepest hopes  and prayers that she handle the adventure that she is being handed.

Not all adventures are ones we choose. At times merely surviving some of them is the best we can all hope for.  I am sure she is aware of the obvious love that surrounds her.  That is an amazing bonus in the fight that is ahead of her. I know it helped me. 

Bonita of Bwana