Requesting Prayers For My Son (Another Update)

Good healing vibes, good second opinion vibes and happy thoughts vibes all heading your son's way...

Prayers and good thots for sure!

I will definitely keep your son in my thoughts and prayers! 

 Well it looks like our son will be home here within a few weeks. He is taking it pretty hard and is very dissapointed. Please keep him in your prayers that he will be able to move on quickly and get excited about something else.

 It has been very hard for us reading his letters. Where they were so upbeat and positive and feeled with pride and love for the Army they are now sad and dark, and depressing. We cannot contact him or send him letters as he is in a holding area and mail is not allowed there.

 His last letter was very hard for me, I have cried for days and am even angry. I guess his drill sergeants and his company have all shaken his hand and told him how very sorry they are to see him go, but for a while he was stationed at the front desk and he told us in his letter that the hardest thing was putting up with the insults from the other drill seargents who do not know him. I guess a lot of kids quit and want very much to leave and the drill sergeants treat everyone who is sick or injured as weak and cowardly. My son told us that this was very difficult for him, watching them treat him with such disdain and contempt not knowing that he would do anything to stay.

 At this point we are just praying that they will send him home soon as it worries us that he is being subjected to this treatment and fear it will only further fuel his dissapointment and possible depression.

 We greatly appreciate your prayers and thoughts given to our son.

It saddens me to hear this.  I am so very sorry.  Your son as well as you are in my prayers.  Please keep us updated! 

The prayers are ALWAYS there !! With our deepest love and thanks, we pray your son and others get all of the great Karma and things they deserve!

Bonita of Bwana

Once you get him home you can help expose him to things that will change his mind -- and the best thing this will do for him is allow him to leave the service without too much "mourning" the loss of being in such company.

He's still a whole person in his heart and the military is never very good at dealing with that.  Do some thinking now about people, groups and things he will be able to do HERE that will be able to help educate folks here.  Either to the plight of the servicemen/women who are coming home severely disabled and what they DO need to hear and do, or those skills he's learned that will help him excel HERE.

Generally companies LIKE to hire folks who have been in the service -- they know how to work, they know how to apply themselves, and they are used to taking orders and doing what's expected of them (which many folks in the workplace today just are NOT good at). 

Think about the soul of THIS kid -- what's he good at.  In his heart of hearts (you ARE his mother -- no one knows him better than you do) -- what can you direct him towards here that will fill the void in him. 

Is he an animal person?  Does he excel at training? 

Is he into sports?  Would he be a good Big Brother or something?  If you can get him involved as soon as possible with helping OTHERS, it will minimize his own pain and it will help restore his confidence. 

I know at the lowest part of *my* life, I took a class in sign language half-heartedly (long long story -- I had been beat up BADLY emotionally in a really horrible situation and it all but destroyed my life). 

I had a cousin who was Helen Keller's housekeeper many years ago after Anne Sullivan passed away.  As a kid I was SO proud of that -- but at that low point in my life, not only did I take that class, but I went with some others from the class visiting deaf elderly people as sort of a service thing.

One of the girls I went with discovered my wobbly 'connection' with Helen Keller, and introduced me to an elderly deaf-blind woman who lived alone (yes, she lived ALONE!).  Alfide changed my life.  Really -- **nothing** in MY stupid life even compared with the drive and zest for life this 90 year old woman had. 

That childhood "pride" coupled with that service "obligation" (that was something I did kinda because I got prodded into it) was instrumental in setting much in motion that enabled me to survive all of that. 

If you can re-direct him into something completely *opposite* from what he's been thru -- it will at least keep him busy and give him something to think about and 'do' other than feel bleak.  Keep him busy if you possbly can.  Idleness becomes a self-destroying disease when you've "lost" your motivation for life.

Things like that build self-esteem -- help him draw on parts of himself that he hasn't used in a while, so healing can take place (in body and heart).  Just some miscellaneous thoughts.

There is no shame in him coming home due to a medical problem.  I hope he can take care of his tibia and adjust to life at home quickly.  We'll be praying for him.  I bet one thing he's looking forward to is seeing the dogs again!

Once you become a warrior you are always a warrior.  It is only the battles that change.  Prayers and good vibes to him for a successful life in the next phase. 

First off thank you all for your prayers and thoughts and vibes.

 He is still there, he has a follow up appointment on 9/6 and they will be evaluating him, he could be sent home within 2 weeks of that date. He may be able to stay if he chooses another job, we are advising him to consider this option but he is stubborn and young so I do not know that he will.

 He says it is very hard being there because he has nothing to do all day. He just sits around by himself, his platoon goes out and trains and he is going crazy from sheer boredom.

  We still do not know the extent of the injury, we are asking him in letters to fill us in but so far he has not done so.

  Anyway, keep em coming please, it is very difficult just waiting around not knowing all the details, but the good news is he seems to be in reasonable spirits in his last letter we received.

dgriego

  Anyway, keep em coming please, it is very difficult just waiting around not knowing all the details, but the good news is he seems to be in reasonable spirits in his last letter we received.

  It's good to hear that his spirits are improving. I have four grown children, all older than your son, and he may be young and stubborn but he can change his mind about what he wants to do quicker than you may think; I'm speaking from experience. I'll keep him in my prayers; it's an honor to pray for someone who has been serving our country. Try not to worry too much; young people are very resilient and with your support he will be fine.
 

Just wondering how your son is doing now? I have been thinking about him.

Linda

I, as well, will continue to keep your son in my prayers.  Please let him know that there are many here that are honored to be able to pray for him and that we are here to stand along with him through this very difficult time.  From one mom to another-- you are also in my thoughts and prayers.