I am new here. We had to put down our Chihuahua of 14 years last summer. It was definitely one of the hardest things ever and I swore I didn't want another dog.
My husband was the one who for weeks shoved cute puppy pics in my face and saying how nice it would be again, now that our kids are in college and I work part time. We are 52. I was hesitant, I was finally able to relax a bit...but yes, I got bored & lonely.
Long story short; we are the owners now of a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel/Poodle mix. She is 4 months, 2 wks old. VERY smart. Crate trained immediately, sleeps 9+ hrs at night, knows 6 commands. We took her to "puppy kindergarten" and to me, she is a joy. We've had her about 5 weeks now.
Well, hubby has lost ALL interest in her. Not sure if he's jealous (shouldn't be); I think the BIG factor is yes, she is a PUPPY and she CHEWS. I have a gazillion toys (to which I rotate so she only has a couple to choose from on the advice of a trainer) so lack of things to chew is not an issue. She just prefers our table/chair legs, leather furniture, drapes, scratching kitchen cupboards (she can rotate our Lazy Susan, lol). I use bitter ointments, sprays, etc. to deter her. She nips his feet/socks and he pushes her away and I told him don't do that, she thinks you are "playing." He gets very agitated very quickly. He is annoyed if I suggest another puppy class (kindergarten 2 begins soon) and he's like "sure, MORE money..." She jumps from behind (both of us) and has ripped/put holes in many good shirts and pants. She has scratched our $2,000 leather sofa that was bought with money we were actually saving for an anniversary trip (I suggested a cover). It seems when he walks in the door, I get uptight and I think the puppy feels it, although she seems to adore him and wants his attention as she has had me all day. LOL He said last night "she is driving a wedge in our relationship." ??? HE wanted the puppy, not ME. He was relentless, even after 50 or more NO's from me, I knew the commitment and didn't want it again. He puts me in charge of everything. Now her puppy behaviors are somehow my fault. I am the one who taught her the commands above and beyond the basic sit and stay from puppy kindergarten. She knows shake, jump, down, come, crate (when I ask her to go to her crate, she goes!). These were not easy feats!
I am exhausted; not only from the demands of the puppy but playing mediator when he gets home, trying to keep her at bay so he can "relax." I'd like to "relax" too, believe me. All I hear until bedtime is "there she goes again!" or "what the hell does she want now?" or "she's ruining everything in this house!" She has only had 2 "accidents" in the house (and both were my fault, she grabbed her leash--how much more of a clue did I need? LOL). I think for only 4 months, she is a damn good puppy and will make an EXCELLENT older dog, if I can survive puppyhood. Hubby is making it SO hard, I actually looked at sites for re-homing today and it made me so sad. I would be so resentful; after losing a dog, he got me a dog I love again, but now wants to take her away--when HE wanted her first, not me. But he's not budging on his stance--he wants her gone and things "back to normal around here." We both know puppyhood doesn't last forever, I try to keep telling him that. He keeps saying she'll have ruined everything before it's over.