Vibes needed for my cousin (janobonano)

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    Vibes needed for my cousin (janobonano)

    It's kind of a long story, but my little cousin T has had behavioral issues his whole life. His mom (my aunt) was in denial for a long time and avoided getting him help (I think - she never really talked about what was going on and didn't seem to admit there was a problem. He didn't start getting help until kindergarten.) She still doesn't really open up much and nobody (family members) can get a clear answer from her about what the diagnosis is. She just says it's a "brain disorder." We are thinking it's something in the autism spectrum. (It's not that we're nosy, we just want to help them.) On top of that, his father is verbally abusive. They are now finally going through a divorce. But it has been messy because he is very controlling and manipulative.

    T is 7 years old and has been "kicked out" of at least 4 schools already because they can't handle him. Recently he started hitting/attacking his teacher and the police were called. School policy, I guess.

    Here's where we need some vibes. He has to go to some inpatient treatment facility for 3-6 months, in a larger city about 3 hours away from where they live. I don't know the details, but I know his mom is really upset. I know she's tried really hard to help him. She is a very kind, loving mother. I think she just hasn't been able to give him the discipline he needs. She can't even work a full time job because she is frequently getting called to come pick T up from school because he is acting up. She knows he needs help and is heartbroken that it has gotten this bad. Please send her and T good vibes and strength to get through this difficult time. Broken Heart

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    Good vibes for T!  My mom's good friend had a daughter that went thru a similar thing.  She had some sort of mental disorder where she could get violent and she would also wake up at night and go thru the kitchen eating things and was just very unpredictable. 

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    ay ay ay...you've gott'em Jan. You know I can feel for her. It is SO hard when you have to reach out and get help for a child of your own. You just feel like a failure and her issues with the husband on top of that? I cannot imagine going thru this alone. You guys are right to reach out to her, and keep trying...she will need you guys someday.

    Good thoughts for T, and his momma and your family.

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    One of the good things that has come out of the attention "autism" has gotten is that it is easier now for it to be understood that kids with violent behavior problems may not just be "bad" but rather have a serious but identifiable problem.  And as everyone says, the guilt is unreal.

    She certainly will have my prayers, as will T - such a difficult thing.

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     Having worked with kids like this in the past, I certainly don't envy the path she must walk with this child, so all the good vibes I can muster are headed her way.

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    Sending good vibes to T and his mom. 

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    Poor child!!  What a living hell he must be in.  Good vibes for him AND his Mom and nasty thots for the soon to be ex jerk.

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     Thanks so much everyone. I know they can use all the vibes and prayers they can get.

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    Jan, we went through a lot of this with our youngest.  The big difference is that HE started school in a self contained, special needs classroom.  By that point the sperm donor was an ex, but of course, nothing could be wrong with HIS child.....he was just too smart for his own good.  And, his mother the nurse called me constantly screaming about the ADHD meds.

    My heart goes out to your cousin, and so very much to that poor confused little boy.

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    Sending vibes and good thoughts from Michigan. 

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    Good vibes & strength being sent from PA.

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    Nothing but good vibes going out to T and your Aunt.

     

    Deb W.

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    Very special good vibes to T and his Mom.  Prayers for answers for the Mom and strength to get through this next step. 

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    Good thoughts for T, him mom and all of your family. I can't begin to imagine what it must be like for his mom.

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    Good vibes for your cousin and his mom!  Hope this ends well for them.