cakana
Posted : 4/7/2006 12:10:55 PM
Sandra - I'm really sorry you're experiencing this. I truly know how frightening it can be. The fights between my two dogs, Buffy & Sassy, are actually what first brought me to idog about 4 years ago. Your description sounds very much like what we've seen, so I'll only tell you how it's been for us. When we rescued Sassy, she was about 2 (a lovable lab). Buffy was 6 and also a sweetheart who'd gotten along with our male lab until he passed away. Buffy & Sassy seemed to hit it off just fine. Then one day, sort of maneuvering to get pets from my husband, they broke into a fight. There were more after that, separated by weeks, sometimes by a month or two and provoked by anything from a toy, treat, loud noise or sometimes by nothing we could see. We took them both to a behaviorist and based on her observations, we decided to not rehome Sassy, but it has been far from easy. The behaviorist said that a) they seem to like each other; b) they are females and sometimes they're just not going to get along; c) it was imperative that we keep fights from happening as much as possible. She said that each fight, especially if it draws blood, breaks down the barriers that will prevent it from happening again. So, we keep them separated when we're not there and never allow them to eat near each other, have treats together and even are careful to play with them together. In the last year they've only had 3 fights. The last one was the most puzzling to me and although it was last Sept., it has stuck with me more than any other. I made a decision at that time that I would not allow them to be together when my husband isn't home. I always knew I'd have trouble breaking up a fight between them (Buffy weighs 65 lbs and Sassy weighs 75 lbs), but the last one made me realize that I can't even anticipate the triggers very well. It's just too unnerving for me to be alone with them worrying about what might happen.
So - I'm probably not making you feel too good about this, but I just wanted to share my experience. We love these dogs with all our heart, but I'm not sure that if I had it to do over again, I wouldn't have rehomed Sassy. Like you, we fell in love with her very quickly (especially my husband) and couldn't bear to give her away. I would definitely consult with a behaviorist though and I think the cost was about $90 but worth every penny.
Good luck with however this works out for you!