brookcove
Posted : 2/17/2009 3:40:31 PM
It is definitely difficult to convince a person to give a dog the freedom that they give each other. It's counterintuitive to us to decrease pressure when we want the dog to do something - our urge is to make them do it. Dogs let each other do stuff. So it's hard to sit and basically do nothing until it's time to do something - and then it's not about forcing the dog to your will, but simply resetting the situation so the dog can get another chance to be right. In this case, that's why I suggest "away time" - and emphasize that one no longer pay attention to the question of whether the dog is barking or not, until one starts over again.
Sometimes you can't tell, after one or two or three times of doing this, that the dog is learning. That's why the "correction" is very low pressure.
The other thing we tend to do is look for the whole enchilada. Failure is defined for many people as, the dog is still barking. Maybe the dog hesitated before resuming barking, though, or looked back, or even just flicked an ear on your signal or verbal correction. It's important to realize that that's progress. This is why dogs are minimalists.
You see a couple dogs in a confrontational situation and it seems very, very tense, as they stand with hardly a move. It makes us intensely uncomfortable, because humans hate silence. From the dog's point of view, though, they are having an animated conversation. Both are being careful to give the other an "out" (assuming neither is pathologically undersocialized) so they are comfortable and will carry on the discussion as long as necessary to work out what they need to, in order to interact.