brookcove
Posted : 10/16/2008 10:33:24 AM
You may not be a dog person, but you have good instincts. Yes, the dog is doing a little passive aggressive maneuver with you. Next time he does it, check out whether he's looking at you, or not looking. If he's looking at you, proceed with caution in your interaction with the dog. Avoid confrontation but keep a positive attitude. If he knows commands, simply ask for a "sit", gently praise or give a treat, and pass.
If he's not looking, he's in a better place in his head and he's basically just looking to see whether you are noticing him. Say something to him like, "What are you doing?" cross your arms, back up a step or so while you stand taller, and stare at the spot on the floor just under his front paws. Give him a second to react in some way, even if it's just to glance at you in confusion, then ask for a sit and pass.
In either case, this dog needs something called Nothing in Life is Free. There's a good summary of it here. This dog has lost the privilege of total freedom. For a while, you and your partner need to work together to ensure that the rules of NILIF are followed to avoid further escalation of the uneasy relationship between you and this dog.
The good news is, besides the fact that you DO have what you need, naturally, to get along and even enjoy this dog in the future - you will learn a lot about turning "faults" into "strengths." It's exactly the thing that makes this dog make a move like this, that you probably will learn to appreciate in the future - loyalty, cleverness, confidence, restraint, and strong people interaction skills.
By the way, I'm dealing with this with my own youngster Lynn whom I raised from a pup, so it is not necessarily that you are "new" or that he "dislikes" you - he's just used to making decisions like this for himself, I imagine.