In 19 days my 20th birthday is coming up, I just want to have a nice day with my parents and our pets and a BBQ. I've got this friend who I haven't seen in a long time who'll be in town on that day and he loves animals - he's got several cats and a dog who's an absolute sweetie so I want to invite him over for dinner and it would be great to be able to play with the dogs in the back yard with everyone - have a big game of "puppy in the middle" with a ball or something because the dogs are getting presents that day as well because the pups are turning 1 a few days before! Anyways, the pups are fantastic when we take them out to the vets and to my mom's work at a group home, but they've never had anyone come into our house before because we do have two older agressive bordercollie/chow/hienz 57 mixes and we just don't have company that often anymore. The older dogs are obviously going to be put up when my friend is over, but it'd be nice to have the three min pins - the pups, and Doodle all outside playing with us and hanging out.
My concern is with Doodle - our next door neighbor loves our dogs, his wife is allergic so they don't have any pets and for years he's watched out dogs and talks to them when he's outside raking his yard or mowing or BBQ'ing and he's even been known to toss bits of steak and stuff over to them, even the agressive guys like him! It's really amazing. Since we got the yard fenced(last month) there's been two times where he's come over to talk with my mom across the fence both times the pups barked a little then went about their business, but Doodle kept barking until the last time when my mom swatted her on the butt with a vine she's been trimming off the trelis, so Doodle stopped barking and just watched which is progress. In the past when she was a pup up to about 1 year old we had people over nearly every day and Doodle never bit, but she would hide behind the dining room table and bark and if one of us tried to pick her up or take her closer to the guest she would pee everywhere - she does the same thing at the vet's. It seems to me that she's seriously afraid which could cause her to bite if it were pushed, which isn't suprising since she got virtually zero socialisation as a puppy by her "breeder" and everything we've done hasn't helped so far.
My question would be, how should I introduce my friend to Doodle and the pups? He really does want to meet her, and I'd like him to see a relaxed, loving Doodle that I know she can be. We'll be in the back yard mostly so I'm planning on doing the intro there but should I let the pups out first to see him? I was planning on giving him a container of hotdog bits to toss to them and perhaps a squeaky toy - I don't anticipate any problems with them accepting him and liking him, but what about Doodle? Should I introduce my friend and her seprately - without the pups? Should he be seated, on the ground or standing? What can I do to help Doodle see that he's no big deal or threat?