ron2
Posted : 2/11/2008 8:12:07 PM
A few years ago, I would have chose 1.
Now, I choose 4. My understanding has increased and continues to increase, or refine, at least as I can see.
Granted, I only have one dog. Who will defer to the cat if she has the prime sleeping spot on the double recliner. Who will move when we ask. Other times, if he is laying on the floor, I will step around him. Possibly a totally anthro concept but it's like extending courtesy to each other. He moves when I ask, and I don't ask unnecessarily.
I think most people here have dogs that will do what is asked. A truly independent dog wouldn't care what you do, punishment or treat. Such a dog, in my opinion, would be nigh unto a wolf. Be that as it may, you can only lead or direct or expect courtesy if you give it in return. And to do so means to know what it is yuor dog wants.
My favorite author said the most honest deals are the ones based on self-interest. Everyone knows what they want and gets it in exchange for giving others what they want.
But I guess the point I'm also trying to make is that you can only lead, or dominate, or correct, or reward a dog, or whatever it is you do, if they allow it. The dog always has the option of running away and never coming back.
That doesn't mean I am weak or wishy-washy. But I do think I realize a little better the nature of relationships, human and otherwise, at least for this discussion, than I might have before.