glenmar
I, as a person, am not comfortable with using force, so I don't use it.
You may not use physical force (touch), but I find it hard to believe that you (and anyone here) don't force their dogs to abide by the rules of the house, whether it be by physical means (gate or crate) coercion, training or other means. We all impose our wishes on our dogs and "force" them to comply.
glenmar
I don't believe there is any clear answer to
this, or to whether or not dogs are damaged by it. At least not early
on.
Cara and Mia are nearly 6 years old. I'm pretty sure I would have noticed the damage by now.
Chuffy, you responded while I was writing. You know I won't forget you!
Chuffy
WHAT IF they tested that?
Whether
or not a puppy is pinned will not affect the outcome of a "test" when
the dog is full-grown. If a dog "turns" on it's owner, they will either
win or lose, regardless whether they were pinned as puppies. And no,
the pecking order would not be up for review, because it doesn't rest
solely (or even remotely) on physical strength. Far from it. (Cara is
the weakest of my dogs and she is alpha) The pecking order relies on
everything else I have put in place (just as you and others have) to
communicate to them that I am the One. I am in no more danger than you
are of my dogs turning on me. I can't believe I'm speculating this! LOL
As regards the physical contest, the reason I do this when they're puppies is to let them know,
not have a contest. The outcome is a known. It's to impart the
knowledge that from now on, I am the leader (and all that other stuff I
said) not because I'm stronger than you, but part of the
message is that I am. Right now. It's one small part of an overall
picture that I want them to have and that I continue to give them in
other ways throughout their lives.
I'm pretty sure that at
least 3 of them now know that they ARE in fact stronger than me. But
that doesn't discount the message I imparted when they were young. They
still carry the information that I am the leader. I don't trick them
into thinking that I'll always be stronger than them. I tell them that
right now, I am. That sets up an environment and puts into motion a
habit and mindset of me being the leader, regardless of strength.
Chuffy
Your dogs seem totally fine to me. But then, on the
surface, as far as we can tell such things over the internet, you seem
fine too and you have suffered tremendously.
I am fine.
You don't know the half of my suffering and I am fine! Better than
fine, actually. That's another thing about having different
philosophies. I believe that there is suffering in life and I welcome
it. I'm not making my dogs suffer, though. That's the point I'm trying
to get across (and failing, once again, apparently
) But I'm not going to convince anyone of that.
Chuffy
As I have said before, a hundred times over.... Just because you can does not mean you should.
And I fully agree with that. I don't do it "because I can"... I do it because I think I should.
Benedict
In my rose-coloured view of the world I
choose to believe we're all honest about our dogs here, but since we
have no proof of what someone is saying, we can't disprove it, either.
Well, then make your assumptions. 
Benedict
I'm really unsure about the point of this statement...or accusation.
I have never heard her (or him) talk about her dogs or how well-behaved they are. I put myself and my dogs out there for examination to show that my methods are valid. If someone is so strongly arguing their viewpoint over mine, and so intent on making me out to be a violent abuser of my dogs, I'm curious about their results. And I realized I don't know her dog(s) at all. I know you have Ben, I know Shadow, Sally and Jack, Penny and Sioux and Sequoya, but I don't remember mudpuppies dog... It's not an accusation so much as a curiosity.
Thank you, Chuffy, for responding.
mudpuppy
I can send you a bag of dog hair for xmas if you'd like.
No, thanks. I've already decided to give it out as presents to my friends and family. LOL
mudpuppy
I realize now that the alpha-rolled dogs had subtle signs of mental damage.
I
did not "alpha-roll" my dogs. And if they are mentally damaged (from the same behavior that others do to their dogs for medical procedures or in self-defense),
I guess I'm just going to have to live with it now, because I cannot
change the past. And I wouldn't if I could.
Benedict
If a person has the courage of their
convictions with regards to what they do, it shouldn't matter how
anyone else feels about it.
I agree. And I'm here and I keep coming back.
To be fair, you may not be raking, but it "feels" like some are. That's ok, too, though, because I do have the courage of my convictions.
mudpuppy
the poor puppy was sending serious
appeasement signals (please don't kill me) and the owner
mis-interpreted it as "affection".
I did not
misinterpret it as affection! I KNOW B'asia was licking my face in
submission. You assumed incorrectly. And if she felt I was going to
kill her, I doubt she would have immediately fallen asleep in my lap.
By the way, ALL of my dogs still lick my chin/mouth in submission. It's
part of our relationship.
This "violence" drama is getting old. Can you define "violent"
for me as used in your post? And tell me how you know my intent? Never
mind. According to the amount of support I have here in this thread and
in PMs, it's clear you are one a very few who think I'm a violent
abuser. And I can live with that.