glenmar
Posted : 10/7/2006 7:55:46 AM
Since this keeps moving from dogs to people, I'll share the story of my success as a tutor when I went back to college.
The state in which I lived at the time was pretty backwoods and education wasn't highly valued.....while that had improved, a lot of the students we got were displaced workers who either the State or WC were retraining. Many of these folks were 40+ and had gone directly from high school, which they may or may not have finished, to the mines, factories or the military.
Now, I had grown up in a whole different situtation where education WAS valued, and I'd been trying to get back to school for years. I WANTED to be in college and wanted to earn my degree and a B was simply not acceptable to me. I liked my 4.0 GPA and worked hard to keep it there. I'm not a genius, but I am determined and have enough faith in myself to MAKE it happen.
So here I am, supposed to tutor a bunch of students who really didn't want to be in college, who really didn't WANT to take the one particular course that was the most hated and yet required for graduation. The dreaded course was payroll accounting and the dreaded project was the payroll project, a 13 week, last quarter, detailed payroll for a small company, complete with payroll taxes, the employers contributions to FICA and health insurance, bonus's,sales taxes paid to the state, the whole nine yards. And it was done, not on computer, but ON PAPER. It wasn't a difficult project, but it was tedious, time consuming and required extreme attention to detail. And, I ended up doing that same payroll project about 5 times myself, because each new class had a few minor changes that would throw off the entire thing. Most of these students came into my "class" willing to just pass the course. That quickly changed.
I LED these students. I didn't dominate. I led by my example, I worked WITH them, but I made clear from the get go that no one in my group was going to "settle" for a passing grade on a project that made up ONE THIRD of the course grade. I led by setting clear and consistent guidelines, with clear expectations and by golly when I assigned work to be done at home, I didn't get the phoney excuses that a lot of the profs did. I led by letting them all know that I believed that they COULD do it and made it clear that I expected them to believe in themselves as well. One quarter, I had a payroll accounting group, three business math students and two English students....this was all at the same time, in the same small classroom and I kept every one of those students on task for the entire hour that we met every day. And NO ONE skipped my "class". Each and every student was there every single day.
There was no compulsion to be there, no marks against anyone for not showing up....I was after all, just a tutor. But not one of my payroll accounting students got less than an A on the project, not one of my students earned less than a B in the courses I tutored. I didn't GIVE them the answers (I didn't HAVE the answers) but I worked with them to FIND the answers.
I often found the payroll accounting prof lurking outside the door of the classroom, trying to figure out "how I did it" with these groups of students that SHE didn't think were going to get through the course. SHE had the ultimate power and could have a student dropped from the curiculum or from the school.....I had only the ability to lead. And, by the way, the only treats dispenced in MY classes, were the little things that my students brought to ME by way of thanks. I helped them to believe in themselves, and I offered praise when it was earned, but that was it.
Now, I personally adored that particular prof.....but SHE dominated her classes, and it was mostly her students that I got. Yet she was a tenured professor and I a mere volunteer. But I got better results than she did. And there is MY ego coming through!
But, take these same leadership guidelines and apply them to dogs and you'll get the same results.....a well trained, happy and loyal dog who will follow you anywhere, who will look to you for protection, because you are the ultimate "alpha" or whatever word you want to use.
Your theory that they "follow me anywhere" because they suspect that someday I'll start pulling threats out of my ear just doesn't track. Because they will NOT follow me when told (IE: out on the deck when I say not this time) they will not get on the bed until they are invited........yep, all of this because they suspect that sooner or later I'm gonna pull out the treats. They have no respect for me. I'm just the treat dispensing, butler/roommate.
sigh......