Too Attached to Me?

    • Gold Top Dog

    Too Attached to Me?

    I'm not really sure where to post this....
     
    We got our puppy really young, 7 1/2 weeks old.  She really bonded with me right away, she wouldn't leave my feet if I wasn't holding her.  I have made sure that I don't spend too much time with her and will leave her in her crate if I have to run an errand or go to work.  I like that she follows me everywhere and that she thinks so highly of me[:D], but sometimes when I am at home I have to do things without puppy.  She has not attached herself to my husband, while she seems to love him, she does not follow him everywhere. 
     
    Whenever I have to leave her, either when I put her in her crate or if I am just leaving the room and my husband is with her, she freaks!  She will scream at the top of her lungs and keep going until I come back.  Now, we have just been ignoring her cries and I continue with what I am doing.  My husband says that when he is the last to leave and he puts her in her kennel she doesn't make a sound, just goes to bed. 
     
    She Loves her kennel and if I put her in the kennel and don't leave the room than she is quite content, she doesn't cry when I put her to bed at night either.
     
    My worry is that she is too attached to me.  And if so, how do I change it?  Also, I don't want her to become to unattached, because I like the fact that she doesn't run away when we are outside (my other dog runs away).
    • Gold Top Dog
    Sounds like she might have a case of seperation anxiety. I've never dealt with it, personally. I hope somebody has some good advise for you.
    • Gold Top Dog
    How you deal with it is that if she has done her potty chores, and you are busy, you leave her in a safe place and ignore her if she protests.  Do *not* go back to her just because she barks and whines, otherwise you will have a dog that can never be left alone and is controlling your life. 
     
    Don't think she will follow you around always either.  All puppies follow, but when they get to be adolescents, watch out - off they will go to sniff dead stuff and chase butterflies.  You will still need to teach her a good recall.  Start now.  There's a great DVD by Leslie Nelson called "Really Reliable Recall".  Get it - you won't be sorry.
     
    Take her to a good puppy class where she can gain some confidence.  Find one here:
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    • Gold Top Dog
    This is perfectly normal in a puppy.  Puppies HATE being alone, unless they're tired and want to sleep.  They're usually glued to your feet and make you feel bad when you accidently step on them [;)].  Puppies are also attracted to movement.  So if you walk away, the puppy's instinct is to follow you.

    Enjoy it while you can.  Let her run around outside with you with no fear of her suddenly taking off. 

    Most puppies grow out of this by 3-4 months.  Then you won't be able to get her to come to you even if you scream at the top of your lungs [:D].

    Your puppy is still very young, so I don't think there's really anything wrong with her.  And unless you feel like she's always in your way, I wouldn't do anything to discourage her from being attached to you.
    • Gold Top Dog
    Tootsie, my corgi is very attached. She follows me everywhere including the bathroom, the only differnce is, she does not freak out if I leave her. She knows I'll be back. Also, shes almost two and is still always at my side, including off leash. Both of my herding breeds are like this.
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    I used to be flattered when Rory acted like this, that was until I heard a story at the vet's office.
    There was lady who had a lab who acted the same way your baby does, the lady didnt mind it. One night (god forbid) the dog got loose and got hit by a car, she rushed ot to the vets office who said that the dog had to stay overnigth with a IV in. The lady got home to a message on her machine from teh vet asking her to come back to the office. The poor dog had sucj terrible seperation anxiety that it kept cuasing a fuss, getting up, ripping its IV out and causing more injury then needed.
    So the moral of the story is, its in your dog's best interest to be able to cope without you.
    With Rory this is what I did:
    -Beef up on your obediance, you need to establish your alpha, right now your dog thinks its equal to you.
    -When you leave her and she cries, DONT ever try to console her, she mistakes your tone for you ebing happy she is crying. Firmly tell her no, stay! If she knew what stay meant she would understand she is to stay
    -Do your best to exersice her before putting her in the crate, that leaves her with much less pent up energy to focus on your leaving and put some toys in ther if you havnt already.
    -Dont make your departure or return a huge emotional reunion, if you act emotional she will too.
     
    Now a lot of peole will say dont let her up on the couch, dont let her sleep in bed with you, dont let her near you when your eating, out her outside. In sever cases this is true, your not being mean you are training your dog to be obediant so that the two of you can enjoy the rest of your lives together. What if you went out of town and had to board her or leave her in a hotel room? She would freak out....causing you more problems.
    If your dog can sit and stay on command......the more places you can take her and enjoy her.
    If your dog dosnt beg.....the more company will feel comfertable and you wont have to confine her to outside
    If your dog can behave it will make a longer happier life for the both of you!
    Good luck and keep us posted!
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    Thanks!
     
    The last few days I have just continued with what I was doing.  If I had to go do something in the house where puppy couldn't be, I would leave her with my hubby or put her in her crate. She seems to be getting better!  She is such a smart little thing, so she catches on to everything so quickly!  I can't believe that she is almost 12 weeks old.  We always make our other dog, Duke, sit for treats and such and she is catching on so well.  Thank you for all of the advice.