nfowler
Posted : 12/31/2006 2:53:18 PM
Of course you're preaching to the choir--the other shy-dog group I belong to specifially says it doesn't "do" d-word and s-word types of fear/unsocialized dog rehabs. And trust me, Murphy is a lark dog compared to some of them there. He's not bad at all.
To me, of course, there is SO much to be done. And the best method for me has been the clicker. Target training has been the second best thing. (There's a great article about it in
Whole Dog Journal this month.) I just read of an example of taking a dog through a scary situation (like a garbage can that just fell over as you are ready to pass it) through target work. When Murphy is targeting something, all of his fears take a break.
And, for what it's worth,
not touching Murphy is the best thing for him. I will regret forever that I wasted precious bonding time in a CM-like class where it was all about standing up straight, staring them in the eye, and showing my dog my "leader energy" and then requiring him to submit to it (whatever that all means, and no, I won't bother you all with the tired explanations you've all heard already.) I will forever regret forcing him into a Down by pulling his leash (on a choke collar, no less) around my shoe, pulling his head to the ground and wondeirng why he didn't just go down already so we could get over this part in class. Can you imagine his fear? He had no clue what his choices were and that boy of mine was going to stand his ground no matter what. He would not go Down. I wish I'd walked out then. I wish I'd walked out when I saw his reaction to the other dogs. Yep--like Anne said, he was watching and taking it all in, and then he'd sit and shake next to me, more so when it became our turn to show our leader/follower energy. It was awful. And even worse, it was a setback--or a roadblock--to doing what we do now.
I love watching him think about it when I ask him to do something now. I love seeing his mind work. And I love that he can choose and, really, it's no big deal if he doesn't do it (I always win somehow, but he doesn't need to know). I don't have to "gear up" to use force with him. I just say, "eh eh" and we try the second step toward my goal, and it usually works then. (It usually works the first time, now.)
I think the part I totally understand now is what you said, Ed, about your cat. Unsocialized animals really don't enjoy being touched and Murphy is no different. He is happier when nobody is touching him and he has some space around him and to honor where he's at right now in his journey, I only touch him for positive things, and I don't do it a lot yet. Someday, perhaps, but that's not the biggest thing on my list, so, for now, all things in perspective, we focus on what we need to focus on for today.
Sorry to ramble--I agree with everyone here and I LOVE the suggestions from Anne and Becca. Wonderfully done, as always.
What a great thread--thanks for starting it, Xerxes.