A cockapoo whom I love, but...

Does she know her name? 
I get the impression that the only time you tell her to do these things is in the moment... and you cant expect her to know what the heck your talking about unless you've taught her.  This takes time, work, and LOTS of patience.  She doesnt know anything... shes just a baby... shes teething and that mulch is great to chew (in her opinion). 
You need to work on teaching her her name, once she has leaned it try to teach her to come, then sit, drop it, and so on.  Do one thing at a time... and for her to learn it she needs to do it every day.  Spend 5 minutes or so a few times a day on one thing till she gets it.  And if you start to get aggravated, stop right there and continue later.
I would try to work on your tone - shes so little and new to the world, everything is scary enough for her when she sees it for the first time.  Your a guy right..? If so, you should try to talk in a sweet patient high pitched tone when calling her name and telling her to come.
I just got Bailey shes 2 and a half months and we've only had her for I think 10 days now.  Today was the first day I actually got the impression shes learning her name. And when I go after her in the yard when she wont come (i dont go scary i just go to pick her up) she runs like its a game... I just catch her and pick her up and be sweet - she didnt do anything wrong in my opinion.   Also she needs to know that your not always mad.   When she runs in the yard in my opinion shes just playing, or trying to play... now I know your trying to tell her something but she doesnt.  At this time while they are getting into so many things and there are sooo many things you can yell NO for, you've gotta loosen up a bit and let her be a puppy, or thats all she'll hear all day long.
When she pees inside I would try very hard to patiently tell her no and bring her outside and stay there with her for a minute (even if she doesnt go again)... you want her to pay attention to the fact that you said no and your going outside, rather than her just be frightened and worrying about what your gonna do...
 
All those comands! Im not surprised they mean nothing to he,r I think at 3 months, she would have to be a genious to know all that already!!  Patiently tell her what you want and help her along and pracice and give her time to learn and she will.  I feel like you cant really get mad when they dont listen until they actually know what they are supposed to be doing when you say that.  If they dont know its not their fault.

Try to be patient and enjoy her while shes a puppy, she will learn, it just takes time and love ) 
they do want to please us - but puppies are babies and need time.

Thank you-- that is what I needed to hear.  I'm making a conscious effort to be the owner she deserves-- honest!  Even though I only had her 3 weeks I'm fairly certain she's catching onto her name, if she doesn't really know it already.  It was MY mistake in letting her tear through the backyard and beds when I first got her so now I have to be a little more patient in teaching her not to go crazy and eat all the mulch.  I have a ton of toys for her, some inside, some outside.  She prefers te bark.  Whenever she grabs a piece, I tell her no, take it from her and give her one of her outside toys.  She gives me a dirty look then wants to go back inside. LOL  I've been reading a ton about dog language and human interaction and I'm trying to apply the principles but it isn't easy!  As for my tone-- trust me I'm working on it.  I know some humans who cower when the mad voice comes out!  I don't look intimidating, I think, so I don't know why my voice carries such weight. 
 
Lucy had a #2 accident this morning.  My fault, again, in not being quick about it.  I got her attention and told her no and as you said, patiently took her outside.  She finished out there, I praised her and we're friends  Thanks for your help!

Im so glad to hear about your poop incident this morning!  lol, I think she will learn what you want her to do much faster that way, and its nice to still be friends when its over.  I was washing dishes this morning and left the back door open so Bailey could go in and out in case she had to go while I was busy... this took about thirty minutes and when I was done there was pee on the floor and a bunch of dirt from a big plant we have, lol.  O well, my fault, I thought if the door was open she'd go out ya know[8|]
Bailey is also a mulch eater, and a stick eater, and plant eater and a face biter (when were playing and I hide my hands she goes for whatever she can reach).  I think she kind of knows her name but doesnt really understand that shes supposed to always listen to it.
 
Im glad your trying to be more patient, your relationship will be better and while shes a puppy will be more fun.  BTW I also have a dog named Lucy here she is hangin out in the pool ...
 
 
 

And heres Bailey the new puppy... sooo wheres your pictures?? []

Hello there...sounds like you got yourself a puppy...it's a good thing they are so cute!  First thing I would suggest is to take your little one to a dog obedience class, something simple, to teach you and her basic commands like leave it and come, which will help alot! The eariler you start with training the better! Now, the potty training...first thing remember at her age she can only "hold it" for at the most four hours, so if you can take her out every two- four hours that would help alot.  Also, when you take her out, take treats, and go with her.  As soon as she goes outside, she is the most wonderful dog in the world, she gets lots of praise and some of those treats that you have.  If you wait to treat her until she gets inside the house she will only think that she is getting the treat for coming back in the house, not for going potty outside, and you want to reinforce the going potty outside every single time, thats why you need to go with her.  We have to get her to know that its much more attarctive to go outside because she gets treats and praise, when she goes inside the house she doesn't get that.  Also if you take her out on a leash, it will help her to stay focused on the task at hand, and prevent her from running through the flower beds.  []

Here's my pooch---
 
 

AWWW! Shes a cutie! 

Yeah she pretty much melts the hearts of those she meets-- then she bites them.  LOL  These pics were of her first experience with snow-- it went well, as you can see.  Here she is wanting very much to come downstairs with me but can't because my wife's rabbit, Charlie, has free reign there.  They have met but Lucy is still too puppy-ish to know better than to "play" with him.  If you know anything about rabbits, they scare easily and often time will have a heart attack if attacked.
 
 

That black nose looks perfect for kisses!

I just thought I'd jump in here and add that when my 14-week old monster, I mean puppy, Ruby, won't drop the mulch she also loves to chew, I just bribe her with a treat (I've always got them in my pocket) and she drops it immediately and comes to me (two requests - drop and come - for one treat!  That's a bargain!).  This works every single time, including in the house when we play fetch.  She's great at retrieving but doesn't always want to give me the toy so if I offer her a treat in exchange for the toy, I get the toy every time.  BTW, her treats are just her kibble but she lives for food so that's her currency, as Dr. Phil would say.  At first I was worried that she will always only comply if I have a treat but I have been assured by many people that this will eventually turn into full-on obedience, if I'm consistent.  And I've noticed that I can get her to do many things with no treat, such as sit, shake, down, with simple affection as her reward.  But "drop it" requires a treat still so we go with what works.  Have you tried treats as a reward/distraction from the mulch?

I haven't used treats instead of mulch but she has gone onto a leash whenever we go outside.  And I just bought one that retracts so she can run around and be crazy if she likes.  I will start using treats-- I just have to remember to take them out so I'll put them by the door, maybe.  Anyway, tonight she peed on the carpet :-(  She was doing so well!  I know she had a lot to drink so I should have paid more attention.  However, no more than a half hour later I was playing with her and she stopped and peed!  Looking right at me!  I'm sure she got freaked just by the look on my face.  We spent the night apart, her outside, and me at the store getting things.  So we're ok now but wow...what a set-back as she was doing SO well!
 
I got a little green clean machine-- thank goodness, because it has been great for sucking up all those accidents.  I never use soap though-- dirt clings to th soap as it never comes out of the carpet completely.  But it gets up all the urine pretty well I must say.  Lucy has come to be wary of this machine...me too.

Just wanna add a little.  I think if you are making as much progress as you seem to be, an accident once in a while is just great.  I think even after they are "potty trained"  they still have the occasional accident.  Even when they are olderan you think they are potty trained... it may happen.  They do not feel like adults until after 2... some 3 from what I know. Not that they will have accidents this long, but they will have lots and lots of energy and just be a little rebelliant.  Its not a setback, its just a dogs life [] (and we were not so different at that age)...  Sounds to me like for her age shes doing wonderul to have only a few accidents and is learning so well.  And that nose!!! [sm=kiss.gif]  She should be glad she doesnt live with me her nose would be all kissed out!

Bailey is aso a mulch eater, I dont give her treats or anything just tell her "no" "drop it"  and help her to drop it.   I go gently b/c if I lunge at her she thinks its a game.
Try to remember there are no setbacks with a puppy... really, theres not.  They are getting better and better and the accidents are less and less and less and few and far between... so when one does happen not to think of it as a setback, but an accident (I guess in my opinion its an accomplishment for such a young puppy to do so good).  But inevitabley they happen, not a set back, just an accident.  )  Remember shes still a baby.[]
 
Edit to add :  I just love the name Lucy... my dog is named after Lucielle Ball.... and for some reason we always call her Rucy.   )
Thats her nickname.