lostcoyote
Posted : 8/8/2007 6:51:29 PM
I will be getting married soon and in order to compromise I must make this step.
hi mrw,
first off, congratulations on your decision to marry.
secondly, if i may ask, what was the other half of the compromise? to keep the dog? to be able to marry?
is there any way that you can get your future wife to engage and step beyong her fears & dislikes (this will be harder to do than retraining your dog to live outside but the benifit will far outweigh any consequences of moving your dog outside and your wife projecting all of that fear towards your dog which it will pick up on - i think there are 2 things that should be worked here 1) dog 2) human)
dogs are pack animals and you (and your future spouse) are part of the pack whether you think so or not - so by moving the dog into isolation is going to probably be problematic for your dog on an emotional level.... in that it may increase your dogs level of frustration.
if the dog MUST be outdoors (no exceptions to this rule), then that is OK but you are going to need to give somerhing that the dog needs to release any pent up frustration. i'd try doubling up on the daily dog walks (make them good long ones) and see how it goes during the transition. if you plan on getting another dog, that may or may not work in the near term. i would just take this one step at a time.
-just my 2 cents. you won't know until you get there. if your dog scratches the door to be let in, then you're going to have to ignore this. if you open the door up and give the dog affection and then close it back up, then that's what she's going to learn: to get affection, she needs to scratch the door. and that's no good cuz you won't have much of a door left after awhile. same goes with barking.
-coyote