Ixas_girl
Posted : 4/27/2007 10:39:49 AM
ORIGINAL: chewbecca
That's why I never see anything new going on with Cesar. He uses the same technique for stuff because he only wants to stop the behavior. At least from the shows I've seen. He's not teaching the dog a new behavior or how to change the behavior from the old, unwanted behavior. He's only stopping a behavior.
Actually, in addition to the overt and obvious ways that he
teaches boundaries and limitations, Millan establishes himself as the one in the room to pay attention to, the one to look to for what to do.
He teaches the dog to pay attention, and to follow his lead. You could say that's akin to teaching incompatible behaviors, except he's not teaching discrete *behaviors* so much as persistent mindset.
By learning to carry ourselves in a way that's convincing, we are our best tool to guide our dog. Always, not just when the tools and treats are out, but always.
When dog and human are in the room with Millan, they are very busy making themselves open and receptive to learn from him, to recieve from him. One of the interesting things about a strong leader is that s/he respects followership greatly, and will give it happily when appropriate. I love the
Calm Submissive section in
Cesar's Way, when he talks about how he learned to yeild to his wife, to be calm submissive to her. Very humbling wisdom from such a "macho" guy.
I think, to look at tools and treats through Millan's filter, is to see them as tools to help the human focus on the tasks at hand
without being emotional. If we are doing routines with treats, we are calmly focused on getting that right, rather than being frustrated with our dog.
That's good for the dog. If the slip lead gives us confidence when walking, we're practicing a non emotional leadership on the walk rather than worrying and projecting anxiety.
That's good for the dog. I think that in Cesarese, the worst thing we can do is project our emotional cesspools on our dogs, so getting control of that is job #1.
Somedays, after work, I am just tired. I haven't integrated calm assertive into my being enough to just wear it without effort. I'm messier than that (though cleaning that up is a personal goal). So, sometimes, in addition to our regular c/t sessions, I'll do extra ones, geared at maintaining my role with my dog. I need her to think I'm always reliable, always steady at the helm. It's cheating, it's "fake it till you make it". But, I give myself that to stay on course, it's all part of a larger vision. And, hey, I'm new at all this!
Millan and related leadership styles appeal to people who are interested in sharing direct relationships with dogs, relationships that are full of subtleties of glances, energies, gestures, and movements, IMNSHO. So much of Cesarese is "energy", the human leader is *the* tool. People who are receptive to Millan could watch the video espencer posted several times, and see something new each time. It is subtle and rich. That's one of the reasons some of us Cesareenies like it. But, then, like Millan himself, many of us are more satisfied communing with trees and earth and animals than humans, anyway.
I wonder what the OP is making of all this! [

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tdlabrie ... have you tried any of these suggestions? Have any of them felt right for you? Have we been guessing well? [

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