Angelique
Posted : 4/26/2007 1:43:34 PM
ORIGINAL: tdlabrie
Max barks when he wants attention
There needs to be a shift in thinking to understand the difference between dog psychology and human psychology.
Once I understood the importance of the position the humans hold within the relationship with the dog, I was able to "get it".
If you are not seen as the dog's leader by the dog, then yes, if they demand attention and you give it - you are in the follower position. This goes beyond the human concept of "any attention is better than no attention".
In a dog's mind, followers to not discipline leaders. So if the dog sees you as a follower, you are wasting your disciplinary actions until the relationship dynamics change. IMO
ORIGINAL: tdlabrie
I'm just not able to stop him once he gets started.
The dog has already escalated, is in a state of excitement, and why should they listen to a follower's discipline?
ORIGINAL: tdlabrie
The second situation is that he sometimes gets very excited, such as when my wife and I return home after being gone a while, and he will jump on us, bark and nip.
By this behavior, your dog is indicating he is in the leadership position. "Dominant" behavior often occurs simply because the dog feels free to behave this way. Leaders do what they want.
ORIGINAL: tdlabrie
It's not an aggression thing, he's just really happy to see us; in fact, he doesn't do this with many others, one granddaughter who visits often is all.
This is because the dog only does this to those who he has already established a leader/follower relationship with. He has not established himself as a leader over someone he doesn't know,
yet.
But keep in mind, the dog may eventually see all humans as natural followers, and will feel free to do this with all humans. The fact that he does not do this with strangers, is actually a good sign that he has not gone this far in his view of all humans,
yet.
ORIGINAL: tdlabrie
I have "ignored, ignored, ignored", but he is 65 pounds and I am tired of broken skin and many ripped shirts.
Cesar does recommend ignoring, but only to a point. Leaders ignore some minor infractions of their followers because they are leaders.
Leaders also address rude and pushy behaviors from their followers which they do not approve of. But this dog is escalating and ignoring clearly is not working. A leader would not put up with this behavior. And, all humans within the household must be viewed as leaders in order for their disciplinary actions to be recognised and complied with.
ORIGINAL: tdlabrie
My wife wants me to squirt Max with a squirtgun, and I know he doesn't like that, but it just doesn't feel right to me.
Me either. Even if it gets the dog to stop this specific behavior, it won't help establish leadership or change the current pack dynamics. The dog will still act "dominant" in other ways
unless they become "subordinant" to the humans.
Until the dynamic of the relationship changes between the dog and everyone within the household, the inappropriate behaviors will come out in other ways and escalate until you are no longer dealing with just a "bratty" teenager, but a grown adult dog who is ready to really assert themselves and will be
much harder to deal with around age two.
I'm glad you're deciding to work on this now. All of the humans within the household and visiting guests must work together to help turn this around.
I would recommend starting with a daily walk following Cesar's protocols and work on getting this dog to see you all as leaders by how you behave and interact with this dog.
Read Cesar's book "Cesar's Way", watch the show in order to study his body language, attitude, and listen carefully to what he says to the owners. The "Cesareenies" who participate in this area of the forum will also help as much as we can with some more specific steps.
All I'm really doing in this post is helping you get started through an understanding of how important the position you hold within the relationship with this dog is, and how it affects
all aspects of living with your dog as a member of
your family.
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