brookcove
Posted : 1/24/2007 12:23:33 AM
Properly applied, timeouts do work. The beauty of them is they are an immediate and direct consequence which is understandable at an early age. The SN timeout is not a time when the child thinks about what they've done. It's a way to "reset" the behavior and offer the child a chance to succeed at obeying - the child is removed to the "naughty seat" and must sit there for a prescribed, very small time (one minute per age of child).
Most of the time the child will leave - sometimes the child will leave MANY times. The child is returned without fuss and without comment as many times as needed until the child decides to stay. After time is up, the original behavior is recapped (no possible anaology to canine behavior modification), "We do not allow hitting," and an apology is requested.
I have a child with some behavioral/personality issues - one of them is negative persistance. This means if I try to "wait him out" to get him to do something, he'll just dig in his heels. We "discovered" the timeout when he was about two.
The total freedom puts the ball in his court, the simple expectation makes right and wrong as clear as day and seperates what we are asking from his inappropriate behavior. We are asking him to DO something, which gives him an "out", rather than NOT do something, which is impossible to live up to. This gave us a foothold to start shaping his personality for the better and now most people would never suspect what we went through his first few years. [8|]
I don't use timeouts per se with dogs but I do look for opportunities to simplify what I am asking my dogs to do, if they don't seem to get it. I also "reset" if we hit a wall - going back to a previous level of competency and then revisiting the problem in that context if possible.