Am I a mean mommy?

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    Am I a mean mommy?

    So my best friend Kim has the cutest Jack Russell, Minnie and she has wanted to let Minnie play with my Rory for the longest time. While Rory has yet to EVER show any dog aggression she had also never played with such a small dog. Minnie is small for her size but lives with two large dogs and as Kim puts it "she dosnt take no crap" so after several months I relented and thought if we introduce them properly it may be good for Rory anyhow to learn to interact with smaller dogs.
          So last night Kim parked down the street from my house and Rory and I walked down to meet them (on neutral territory) and they seemed happy to meet so we walked back to my house to let them romp in the yard. All the while I had to keep Rory in check, she really wanted to wrestle and rough play which is what she does with her Dobie and other pittie friends but she obeyed my commands VERY well and over all I was proud of her. All 4 of us took a super long walk down the beach and when we got home is when I felt like the biggest meany ever.
    Lil Minnie runs into the house, jumps on my bed and Rory looked at me like "you better do something about that" so I grab Minnie off of my bed and she runs straight to Rory's toy basket. Rory's ears went back and she was NOT happy about that at all. I tried to make a comment to Kim about it because I would never let Rory go into a strange dog's house and steal its toys so I got Rory a fresh clean bone but of course she wanted nothing to do with it. Plus Minnie had chose a bully stick, uh oh! I was making dinner for Kim and I so its not like I could tell them to leave, her dog was being the rude one and had started growling at Rory if she got to close so I made Rory get up on ther couch (her coveted spot) and stay. My baby sat on the couch for a hour and a half staring at lil Minnie eat that bully stick and alternately giving me the evil eye. I gave in after 30 minutes and made her a special wet food dinner since it was dinner time and that was the only time she got off the couch. Throughout this time I would go to Rory pet her and praise her for staying and being a good girl as did Kimmie but Rory pouted all night and wouldnt even sleep with me. So my question is......
    Was I being to disloyal to my dog or was it a good lesson to her about discipline and manners. I tried to take the focus from Minnie and give Rory her own bone, praise, and special food. I was very proud of her and actually expected a little more disobediance from her, ie getting to rowdy or fighting with me to stay on the couch but overall she was a good girl. Regardless I dont want to make this a habit, it was harf work keeping a eye on her the whole time, talking to Kim, adn making dinner. I dont mind sharing walks because its good interaction for Rory but what do you all think Rory thought of the situation?
    PS.
     This morning we made a special trip to Petco and I got her a huge Galileo bone, she seemd to accept my gift happily!
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    I think you did a fine job.  Part of your duty as Rory's mom is to keep her out of trouble--which you did.
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    I wouldn't worry much. Dogs tend to be willing to forgive. Letting her play with a smaller dog is good because you never know when she will run into a smaller dog another time so it was good for her to at least have the experiance. If Minnie's behavior really bothered you talk to your friend. I think Rory will be fine.
      On a side note I have to laugh. Every time I see you post about Rory I think of the Gilmore Girls LOL.
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    Ha ha thats funny cause I used to watch Gilmore Girls but never made the connection until someone else mentioned it but (dont laugh) but Rory's registered name is Princess Aurora (Rory for short) from the disnbey movie Sleeping Beauty, her real name was Princess Aurora and that was my favorite movie when i was little. I know I'm a nerd!
    Thanks for the feedback, on one hand I felt bad becuase I knew Minnie was using bad manners but I still expected Rory to obey my word which she did, thankfully
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    I agree with you.  I believe the best thing to do in this type of situation is to keep "tempers" at bay which was done.  As a parent to two JRs, I KNOW how hard it is to keep their attention long enough to train them in any fashion or make them stay but it IS possible.  Where was your friend Kim's attention at that time?  You did everything you could and should be proud. 
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    ORIGINAL: ILUVJRs

    I agree with you.  I believe the best thing to do in this type of situation is to keep "tempers" at bay which was done.  As a parent to two JRs, I KNOW how hard it is to keep their attention long enough to train them in any fashion or make them stay but it IS possible.  Where was your friend Kim's attention at that time?  You did everything you could and should be proud. 

     
    Oh as much as I love Kim she is one of those flighty people who never stop moving, she was pouring wine, text emssaging and getting in my way in the kitchen. When Minnie stole Rory's bully stick I tried to give a hint  I said "Oh lord, Minnie has Rory's favorite treat" Kimmie shrugged it off and said "oh she cant ever finish a whole one of those" and went back to being a brat. I was like, ok I guess I'll have to handle this on my own and I was just so proud of Rory!
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    Well, I have a couple friends like that and I DO believe that you did the absolutely best thing you could do given the situation!  I'm proud of Rory too!  It took a great deal of discipline for him.  Good job on your part training him that well!  [sm=dance.gif]
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    Thanks guys, I dont plan on putting Rory to the test like this again but I hope to continue our walks, they loved that and if it does ever happen again I'm gonna put all her toys away before hand!
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    Rory's registered name is Princess Aurora

    That is so cute!