pumaward
Posted : 6/8/2006 5:42:32 AM
Most the Mal sites (well, often they are Mal and Sibe sites) discourage any sort of physical corrections because the breed is SO stubborn when it wants to be and responds to a benevolent leader better. With Maddi, I can fully stand behind this because I did try the scruffing and things (thanks New Skete Monks [8|]) and she always thought I was playing. Other things just made her more nippy (which could have easily turned into aggression). I figured out real quick that I had to find a new way.
A dog would listen to a non-alpha member to get what they want at that particular time, (you've got a treat, I don't want to fight for it, so I'll sit and you'll give it to me). A dog might
not listen to an alpha in the same turn, because not coming when called is not the same as not stealing food from in front of the alpha's face.
With Maddi, I show my leadership in a completely different way than I used to. I get up early, and leave her in her kennel for a while after (about 45 mins usually). Therefor, I control some of her space (and time). I am the only one that can let her out. I make her do things for everything she wants. I don't give into pushy behavior, unless it's what I want as well. If she grabs something she shouldn't have, I tell her to drop it. If she doesn't I walk up to her (she usually drops it then), take it, and walk away. No words. Nothing. It works great, and she looks a bit sheepish like she knows I was disapointed in her.
When she misbehaves (like chasing a cat, grabbing somthing she shouldn't more than once), I restrict her space (tether her to my chair, put her in a time-out in her kennel). If I catch her thinking of doing something she shouldn't, like staring into the kitty litter box longingly, I tell her "no" then something like "come" or "down" to break her attention on it.
I initiate all games. I end all games. I routinely play tug-of-war, but I don't care who ends up with toy (usually she does). Throughout the game, I regularly say "out" which means "let go and listen for a sec," to which she usually complies. She's not allowed to grab the toy until I say "take it."
Finally, I do what I consider trust building excercises. I routinely just sit down and quietly rub her neck, chest, and stomach. I (gently) fiddle with her face. I pet her entire head including her muzzle. I'll sit down next to her, make her well aware that I am there and give her a gentle hug while petting her cheeks. I give her a back massage on a regular basis. Finally, I make a really effort to catch her doing something right. If she's sitting quietly on the couch, I will go over and make of her for a moment, give her a treat, or initiate a short game of play. If she ignores the cat walking by, I try to throw a party. But, the most important change I made was
forgetting about constantly "asserting" (more like obsessing about my status) my alpha status on her.
I don't know if I just rambled on without any sense... lol, sorry if I did.
Becky