Help please

I wanted to beat her (it took every thing in me not to) but I didn't I scolded her while holding the earpiece to her nose and she went with her ears tucked and laid down.

Hopefully, someone else will see this and help you.  I can't because now I'm extremely mad after reading the above quote.  [:@]
 

 Is there anyway aside from crate training I can do to make her not get on the bed?

 
Ugh, let's see, close the bedroom door??  That's what I do.

Right now it's taking everything in me not to beat you! so I will just yell! That is a little baby, it is your responsibility to safeguard her. she could have choked on the ear piece never mind destroy it.
You can't yell at her if she doesn't know what you want from her.
Oh boy I' ll be back later when I calm down

Do you give her any playtime? And I have to say if the earpiece cost that much why didn't you put it up instead of leaving it on the table. Puppies are like human babies what every they see will go in their mouths. You need to uppy poof your home and get a exercise pen for uppies when she is not crated. Puppies are going to chew and chew it is what goes into their mouths that you have to monitor. If the puppy can't be watched either place her in the ex pen or in a dog crate. That is the only way you are going to be able to control her chewing.

First Keith
Let me appologize, for my first post. You came here for help and that is a good thing.
Is there any reason you are against crate training?
Dogs chew, you need to give her appropriate things to chew, and you can only exchange the good things for the bad when you are home, so you need to make sure she only has access to things she is allowed to chew when you are not there.
How many hours is she alone?
She is really too young to be left unsupervised.
One of the trainers will be along w/ some great ideas for you.
Please try to be patient w/ her she is only a baby, and she's been separated from everyone and everything she knows, she doesn't speak English, and really doesn't know what is expected of her. I am going to email this to spirit dog, she has some great suggestions for reading and training.
We would like some pictures of the little girl and what is her name?

Apparently my roommate let her out my room and she got to the earpiece that was on the table in the living room.

 
So, you scolded the puppy instead of scolding your roommate for letting her out, and yourself for not keeping dangerous objects out of her reach????
 
You are receiving negative feedback on the forum because it is clear to us that you have not taken the time either to read, or to attend a puppy class, to gain sufficient knowledge so that you can raise and train a dog appropriately.  What happened is your responsibility, not the dog's.  To a dog, chewing is a comforting activity, and they have no idea what's theirs and what's yours.  They should not have any freedom in the home until they are past the chewing/housesoiling stage.  Possession is 10/10 of the law to dogs, so if she can reach it, and no other "dog" has it, it's hers. 
Please go here:  [linkhttp://www.apdt.com]www.apdt.com[/link] or here: [linkhttp://www.clickertraining.com]www.clickertraining.com[/link] and find a class that uses positive reinforcement.  You may already have done severe damage to your relationship with this dog - please don't continue to do that.  Learn.  A great relationship with a great dog is priceless.  But you can't have it without bridging the language barrier.  Good book to start you off - "The Culture Clash" by Jean Donaldson.  It will give you new insight.

You are receiving negative feedback on the forum because it is clear to us that you have not taken the time either to read, or to attend a puppy class, to gain sufficient knowledge so that you can raise and train a dog appropriately.

Actually, no, he got negative feedback from ME because he said it was all he could do to not beat the dog. 
 
And the following-
 

All I could think is "This cost more than you"

 
PLEEEZ, are you kidding? 

I'll not add to whats already been said, but, please know that your pup does NOT know that she was bad.  Your pup only knows that when you come home you yell and are displeased with her.  THAT'S why she has her tail tucked and her ears down.  You've made her afraid of you by being in her eyes, unpredictable.
 
I've lost recliners, sofas, all sorts of stuff....all MY fault, not the pups.

I hope nobody jumps on me for saying this, but if he was upset (and I have been on occasion), and this is how it goes with human children too -- you do feel like you may hit the dog/child, but you don't, and that's what counts, and he did come here for help.
 
I second the keeping everything up on high -- even if you think she won't be around the stuff that might be within her reach.  Doors do open especially if you're not the only person in the house/apartment.  If you're leaving her in your bedroom while you're gone, even if she's not on the bed while you're home, she's obviously going to be there while you're gone.  Especially since she's still really really young, you can't assume she already knows what's going on ...  Also remember what Glenda said -- she has no clue that she's been bad, all she knows is that you're constantly yelling at her ... so ... I think you should spend more time with her, especially while she's still young, arm yourself with treats, teach her what's right and wrong.  But, while you're gone for any amount of time, I dont think you should leave her roaming your bed room if you're just going to come home pissed off that she's been ... roaming your bed room.  Think about an alternative. 
 
Goldens/labs are big dogs.  Did you plan for all this?

Thanks everyone, I was extremely pissed off, she normally doesn't chew on anything if it's on the table. My roommate took her for a walk and guess he felt like she should roam the house. I don't normally yell at her AT ALL, only time I do is when I catch her in the act of doing something I give a firm no and give her a toy. I don't understand the backlash I'm getting for this. I treat my dog very well and she is extremely healthy. Granted I'll be more careful not to post how I feel in my next posts as it seems no one on the board can relate to being mad at a dog/or anything that destroyed your belongings. My earpiece was charging in the living room, btw my earpiece was about $350 which is why I was so upset maybe a little materialistic but that has nothing to do with ME asking the forum for help with training my dog, I know it can be replaced but it's the principle. I did tell my roommate not to leave her unsupervised, he normally doesn't and stays in the living room with her I don't know what happened today. I'm not going to ever hit my dog , I'm aware of just about all the positive reinforcements I can do. I praise her when she's done good and I don't really do anything or say anything to her when I come home and she's found something (even though my bedroom is impeccably clean) to chew on. I don't just randomly scold her I give a firm NO when I catch her in the act. It was to my understanding from talking to a few people at the park, at my job, walking my dog around my complex, as well as some websites that if you hold what the dog did to their nose and say NO they know they've done wrong. Forgive me for my ignorance and for being misinformed. I know she's going to get big which is why I'm getting a house/floor level condo with a nice size backyard. My finals are this week and summer is coming up and I have a lot more time to dedicate to training and supervising my dog. I will look into getting a trainer, in all honesty I wanted to attempt to do it myself and she seems to be responding very well, but a trainer might have a better understanding of my situation and connect with me on a personal level rather through text on a forum, since I can't really seem to get my point across, so I will look into it and find the best one I can find here. My dog has impeded all my future decisions and I'm only trying to do what is best for her. She was a stray I got her from the humane society. I've taught her most of the commands, sit, stay, come, paw, etc. When I described her actions she only does that when I come home and she did something I told her no to, she always comes to me and plays with me I went to a secure and disclosed area in my complex and she even walks fine without a leash. She is very obedient except when I described when I'm not home, there isn't any reason why I'm against crate training I'm just not sure how big I should get it or if it's too late to crate train her. I'm done defending my case as I have a final exam to complete. Thanks everyone for understanding.

I understand that you were mad, I think everyone does... but that I wanted to beat her statement, while Im sure you didnt mean it literally or wouldnt do that we hear so many stories of this sort of thing actually happening its just a little sad to hear so please try to understand why no one liked that comment.
 
Try to remember that you have a baby and while she may be learning some of the commands you have taught her it doesnt mean she will always do them... she is learning though which is good.  She ONLY knows what you teach her and no matter how hard you try to teach her whats right and wrong to chew on... while shes a puppy, the only guarantee you will have that she wont chew on something thats not hers is to make that impossible.  If she can reach it (even if it was on the table) then she'll go for it. 
 
She wants to make you happy, and wants you to love her... she doesnt do these things to be bad she just doesnt know any better, shes just having fun.  Trust me if she knew that was your blue tooth she wouldnt have touched it... but she didnt and it looked like fun to her.  I too have lost a ton of things to my Kaylas mouth when we first got her... it was my fault, and she always looked like she knew she had done wrong when we got home and she did because of our faces... if we didnt see anything wrong I guess she could tell and was all happy, then go to the next room and see it, something about us must have changed to let her know and then she looked sorry.  I do think in her case she knew, she was very very smart - but I never held that against her because although she may have known she was not supposed to do that, she couldnt help it... she had separation issues that took a little while to get over.
 
Your baby is still so so young so you have this to look forward to for a good year, maybe more.  She is going to be teething and that can be painful for them, so make sure she has things to chew and remember even if she has chew toys out and your not home, everything in her reach is fair game... thats just how it is right now.  Also remember puppies have a ton of energy and need to expell it somehow so by getting her enough exercise may reduce the amount of stuff she chews on out of total boredom.
 
The other day I came home and the corner of my wall was shreded.. I didnt yell b/c it was too late, in fact I went and got DH and we were laughing saying well have to try to catch the beaver thats running loose.  While Im typing here I may look over and shes chewing on the corner of the couch with a bone right next to her.  She is about 5.5 months. 
 
Sorry to ramble just wanted you to know its a puppy and a baby and they just need your understanding more than anything right now, and your discipline after you get home for something she chewed hours ago is not teaching anything... I know you want to tell her it was bad, but you cant she wont know what you mean.
 
Good luck she sounds like a cutie pie.

I think we all got what you are trying to say but you are not taking in what we have suggested to you. And any trainer well tell you the samething we have stated on this thread.

Apparently my roommate let her out my room and she got to the earpiece that was on the table in the living room.

Your room mate wasn't watching her. A big NO! NO!. I think I would be scolding the roommate.

I don't know what to do about her constant chewing habit, she has TONS of chew toys, beef hide, bones, etc. I scold her every time she does it and she knows when she's bad or not because when she does something and I come home her ears are down and she goes in the corner. I also have a problem with her being on the bed while I'm gone, when I'm here she doesn't jump or even lay on it. When I come home I find her toys and such on the bed, or she jumps down, with her ears down and goes into the corner again. Is there anyway aside from crate training I can do to make her not get on the bed? She also tries to chew on the mattress pad. How can I get her to stop chewing on everything she can find.

The only way you are going to stop these thing is either a exercise pen or crating her while you are gone and when she can't be supervised. She is still a puppy which in return she is going to think like a puppy and act like a puppy not an adult dog that has been very well trained.

Also she's never left alone for more than 2 hours if that while I'm in class. When I'm at work my roommate normally watches her but he fell asleep earlier while she was roaming the house. I really don't feel that I was wrong here, I'm 20 years old and this is my first dog since childhood, I came here for some guidance not to be reprimanded for what I was feeling at the time or out of pure instinct when I'm mad at an animal. I'm human in case you all are wondering, I find it EXTREMELY hard to believe everyone who reprimanded me that you have never been displeased or mad at your current or previously owned dogs or yelled at it. I also find it hard to believe that everyone is born with the knowledge, will power, and patience to care for a dog. Keep in mind I'm learning too, and this nonsense I don't need to be told that any of you want to hit me for being mad or expressing what I'm thinking that is really immature. I wanted to beat her with a newspaper (a few people have told me that they do this to their dog) but I didn't, I won't ever hit my dog. She is a fast learner as I am. To reiterate, she only have her ears down when she KNOWS she did something I told her not to do, EXAMPLE I told her to stop chewing on the chair the other day, I was in a good mood, and when I came home found the chair chewed up and she decided to react like that when I came home I didn't scold her I didn't do anything but take her for a walk and gave her a treat. I DON'T (and I never have) scold her when I don't catch her in the act of doing something. She had no prerequisite reason to act the way she does unless I tell her no and she does it any way while I'm gone. I don't know what her previous owners did to her, but she knows she has a loving and caring home here. I really was not expecting hostility from anyone on this board, I think that dogs are a privilege HOWEVER I do no think that excuses them from a human being (YOU AND ME in case you forgot) reacting in a negative manner when they do something unfavorable and I'm appalled at the reaction I received when I stated I DIDN'T hit her nor have I EVER hit her or scolded her for something she did when I didn't catch her in the act.

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I understand that you were mad, I think everyone does... but that I wanted to beat her statement, while Im sure you didnt mean it literally or wouldnt do that we hear so many stories of this sort of thing actually happening its just a little sad to hear so please try to understand why no one liked that comment.

Try to remember that you have a baby and while she may be learning some of the commands you have taught her it doesnt mean she will always do them... she is learning though which is good.  She ONLY knows what you teach her and no matter how hard you try to teach her whats right and wrong to chew on... while shes a puppy, the only guarantee you will have that she wont chew on something thats not hers is to make that impossible.  If she can reach it (even if it was on the table) then she'll go for it. 

She wants to make you happy, and wants you to love her... she doesnt do these things to be bad she just doesnt know any better, shes just having fun.  Trust me if she knew that was your blue tooth she wouldnt have touched it... but she didnt and it looked like fun to her.  I too have lost a ton of things to my Kaylas mouth when we first got her... it was my fault, and she always looked like she knew she had done wrong when we got home and she did because of our faces... if we didnt see anything wrong I guess she could tell and was all happy, then go to the next room and see it, something about us must have changed to let her know and then she looked sorry.  I do think in her case she knew, she was very very smart - but I never held that against her because although she may have known she was not supposed to do that, she couldnt help it... she had separation issues that took a little while to get over.

Your baby is still so so young so you have this to look forward to for a good year, maybe more.  She is going to be teething and that can be painful for them, so make sure she has things to chew and remember even if she has chew toys out and your not home, everything in her reach is fair game... thats just how it is right now.  Also remember puppies have a ton of energy and need to expell it somehow so by getting her enough exercise may reduce the amount of stuff she chews on out of total boredom.

The other day I came home and the corner of my wall was shreded.. I didnt yell b/c it was too late, in fact I went and got DH and we were laughing saying well have to try to catch the beaver thats running loose.  While Im typing here I may look over and shes chewing on the corner of the couch with a bone right next to her.  She is about 5.5 months. 

Sorry to ramble just wanted you to know its a puppy and a baby and they just need your understanding more than anything right now, and your discipline after you get home for something she chewed hours ago is not teaching anything... I know you want to tell her it was bad, but you cant she wont know what you mean.

Good luck she sounds like a cutie pie.

Thank you for understanding, I know she's teething which is why I keep my room/house so clean and free from everything that isn't something from her to clean on, I'm in college and it's the hardest thing I've done; keeping everything spick and span. Ha. I'm taking into account what everyone says (I am also looking into trainers) and I've heard horror stories also and it makes me upset. That doesn't mean that I can't understand why someone would get mad at a dog, it's just about the way you handled it. Maybe I shouldn't have been so upset but I can't change that nor do I think I should apologize for being upset, I posted this when I was still upset. I want her to understand and I think she's slowly but surely getting the picture. Mya is my baby and I love her very much and I am not going to do anything to put her in harms way. Sometimes she seems not to have any energy but I'm sure thats due to her being a puppy. She's really laid back and she sleeps when I sleep or lay down and wakes up when I wake up. I hope I made my point not to misinterpret what I said I wanted to do at that enraged moment but I didn't nor have I ever. I didn't realize she'd done this until I was looking for my earpiece last night. I think she realized how upset I was last night but now she's back to her goofy self again.

In case anyone missed the other thread here's a pic

she's gotten a lot bigger since then already.

I think it's the way you say things that upsets people.  My dog sure is worth more then a ear piece, way more!  Though I would get upset if JJ chew up something that she's not suppose to but the thing is, it's replaceable!!  I try my best to keep things out of her reach but luckly JJ is very good at not chewing everything she come across, except tissue.  Though training is needed and more paitiences dealing with a dog or with kids.  Wish you luck!   [&:]