Freedom
Posted : 8/22/2013 7:30:11 PM
Thanks Jackie, I watched the video link. And I've posted this reply 3 times, it is always coming in the wrong place.
The boys have had 3 'fights' today, I am beside myself. I put fights in quotes because Willy is NOT fighting back, all he does is howl and squeal. I've told Willy for years, "you are just a sensitive misunderstood little boy,' and he really is!
I was so upset after the 2d one I sent a message to the rescue, to see if they would post him - TONY that is! - for adoption on their petfinder page. She replied yes and since then I've been all teary. What a mess!
Willy: he is vocal. You rub him and he grumbles and growls. To me, after 3 years, this is just the noise he makes. The only time he bites me (now and for the past 2 years) is during grooming. He does NOT want to be brushed, bathed, etc. Being a bichon, that NO is not an option he has. I have to be very careful when I am working with him, and I generally go through 3.5 hot dogs giving him small training bits after almost every stroke of the brush, or snip of the scissors. He was much much worse when he got here, and in the first year made great improvement. He used to sit in the recliner and snap and bite at anyone who tried to sit with him or move him off. He now readily moves to one side when I say, "Where's mummy gonna sit?" So that is a HUGE improvement. All that was done with making a loop in a leash and getting him off, then sitting and using my body to block my lap so he could not get up until I invited him. And I would not invite him until he went and settled, then I'd have him do a come, a sit, etc. before inviting him up with me. I can still see him that first time I leaned forward and occupied his landing space (my lap). He walked across the room and sat with a head tilt, trying to sort out what the heck just happened! He was so used to being a bully in his first home, and having his way at all times. He no longer assumes that it is his RIGHT to be in a chair.
I've never had to worry about him biting anyone else, it has all been in the house, occupying a chair, and grooming. He went to a groomer for the first year and half I had him as there was no way I could deal with him. She never once put a muzzle on him. She DID have to growl back at him a few times, and establish boundaries which she then taught me. The least little pull of the brush on a snarl of hair and he was going to bite first sort it out later. Now I am very careful to keep his coat short, brush slowly so if I hit a snag it barely pulls. In return he will look at me and lift his lips but not snap or growl. I immediately stop the brush and slowly work the snarl with my fingers. Mostly I just cut it out with scissors, that is faster with him. He is also very concerned about work near his feet, he's had his nails clipped too short many times. I don't do that myself, I take him in once a month to get them done. In the year of that not ONCE has she clipped the quick so he is starting to relax with her. It still takes 2 of them plus me shoveling hot dog bits in his mouth to keep that end busy lol.
I'm just not sure what to do with Tony's reactions. So far, he seems to erupt out of nowhere. So I need to focus on him. I came home today, arms full, all the dogs were bouncing about happily and next thing he is on Willy's back in full fight mode. I dropped everything on the floor to break them up. And I do this with a water squirt bottle and / or broom as no way I want to get bit. I think Willy had put his front legs up on my legs in his greeting, but I can't be sure. I got them apart and Tony would dart and charge again, I finally had to grab a baby gate and hold that between then until Tony calmed down. He was out of control, out of his control. Not the time to train, at that point you just have to separate them.
So if he is on the chair with me, I need to have treats handy to be able to redirect him from glaring at Willy and leaping. I'll have to go back to having a baggie in my pocket at all times, to deal with this and try some training. And when I come in, to have treats with me as well.
BTW while I was sorting out the boys, the girls helped themselves to the groceries I had dropped on the floor. Sigh.
Sorry this is so long!