calliecritturs
Posted : 11/5/2012 11:53:19 AM
I'm also going to second **everything** both Cathy and Jackie have said.
1. Valerian -- get the **tincture** (and get it in glycerite, rather than the alcohol formula) - use a full dropper and stir it into just a little bit of peanut butter and put it in his mouth. (dunno why but that combo is a winner wtih most dogs *smile*). The tincture works FASTER -- like within 5 minutes. The ground herb will take an hour to kick in. You can use rescue remedy ALSO (just use it a few minutes after the valerian).
2. Take some yourself -- Yeah, I'm partly kidding but honestly, partly not. What Jackie said about **your** state of mind is huge. You're near tears, you feel overwelmed and pressured, and honestly this is somethig the dog picks up on. (it's more than just your voice -- but worry literally has a 'scent' so keeping yourself level is no small task). Valerian to us STINKS. It's aa strong-smelling herb, but to be honest -- I've done the peanut butter thing with myself too. but you'll see it does work pretty fast.
Like the ladies said above -- gosh I am so sorry you are having to go thru this. But let me speak dog to you for just a minute?
he's been tossed from pillar to post. At "the other place" there were other dogs that he kinda knew and they were probably all barking (which got attention). In this NEW place he's not sure the other dog likes him and everbuddy is upset with him and it's all just SO NEW and SO SCAREY.
And right now? He's pretty sure he's feeling "maybe we can't keep" him vibes (and maybe he's even heard those words). He's scared and his first reaction is to make sure someone knows.
Especially at night -- it's a scaredy thing, and being ALONE is not a dog thing he does well (most don't). Please try to keep him IN a room **with** someone else. There's this amazing thing -- "sleep smell" . (partly it is that thing you rush to the bathroom to brush your teach and wash OFF of yourself because we all know we need it in the morning -- but an animal is greatly comforted by that scent of all the packmates being intermingled.
He's just scared -- and very very unsure. And right now all he knows is that at least when he pitches a fit in the crate that he gets SOME sort of attention. And for him, right her right now "negative attention" it at least SOME attention.
Take a deep breath -- honestly today isn't going to make or break. You've gotta get thru it. but don't tell him you're "sorry" you have to go. Just say "I*'ll be back before supper!! See ya!!" and CHEERFULLY leave.
There is good support here -- more than you know. I remember WELL the hard time Cathy had leaving Shane -- and what's more, Shane has a pretty serious heart problem (which they knew) but she had to additionally worry about his heart if he got too upset. So she really DOES understand your angst about leaving him.
And "in" a crate isn't bad -- right now he's fearful because he doesn't know what to expect, and even if he hates the crate -- as long as it's a good sturdy one that he can't bend to wreck it to get out of it then a crate actually becomes protection from everything else he doesn't know. Today -- you'll get thru it.
You aren't crazy, you aren't mean, you aren't being weird -- you've got a new little life you're responsible for and you're concerned. That is a GOOD THING!! Most all of us on here have been thru this with at least one newbie. Not only do you get good advice here - you get caring thoughts and prayers (yeah, we actually worry about each other in the interim and want to know how you made out).
Good luck -- with prayers & good thots for you -- Callie