Greetings, I'm new around here.
OK, so we adopted a new dog named Drake, who is more or less all puppy, pretty awesome with most dogs, including our existing dog Tarla. Drake is about 39 pounds at 6 months old, he's a potcake / bully mix of some sort. He plays really well with other dogs but Tarla (who is a 10 pound Chihuahua pug) pretty much just ignores her.
We've only had him 3 weeks and there have been two altercations with Tarla so far. The first one was Tarla trying to steel a kong-like fire hydrant thing out of his mouth. It happened when I was standing right next to them, I corrected Drake by removing the toy and still he growled at her. It was at a weird area in our hallway that kinda made both dogs backed into a corner (it's a french door opening to our bedroom where we have Drake's Kennel). He snapped at her, no blood, very little spit, so I moved him to another part of the house.
The second time was during feeding. My wife (as opposed to me) was feeding them and Drake snapped at Tarla again. Similarly, no blood, just slobber and a rattled little dog. Consequently, my wife, as opposed to me, was not standing and separating the two bowls. I wouldn't care too much if it was just the food thing because that can be mitigated at the extreme by feeding in kennels, no big deal. What bugs me the most was the snap about the toys. I don't think I can keep his toys only in his kennel.
We had a behaviorist come in and eval them and she said "He's just being a puppy", but reading all the horror stories here I'm getting a little freaked out. Drake never ever seems to get skittish or freaked out by other dogs. He might be a little hesitent but never runs away.
One thing that someone said (and gave me conflicting advice - go figure) is to make Drake the top dog and not Tarla since she very clearly (at least to my untrained eyes) could care less, and Drake seems to care more. As it stands, I put Tarla's food down first, and we put Drake into NILIF mode and don't let him do anything except toys he grabs from his Kennel without us initiating (as in, no beds, chairs, couches, etc). He gets at least 45 minutes in two walks a day rain or shine (I need it too!) so it's probably not a couped up puppy thing.
I guess what I'm asking is am I doing the right thing by feeding my two dogs with the older smaller dog first, and then making Drake work for his food? Or should I feed her in her kennel and him in the kitchen, elsewhere?
Anyone have any thoughts?