ron2
Posted : 4/12/2010 6:02:21 PM
JackieG
Ron, your post is a perfect example of why I dislike labels.
Is it the bravado? The tendency of labels and reacting to them to get one's "back up," so to speak? That's just me talking and your mileage may vary. We'll never completely get away from labels because it's how we tell one thing from another. And it may be a male thing, to make labels. I once saw a relationship counselor describe the difference between men and women. Women have this one thread that runs through all of their lives and everything connects to it. Men have boxes or compartments. We have a work box, a play box, a church box, a love box, and a nothing box. The nothing box is where we de-compress. Women ask us what we are doing or thinking and we say "nothing." And we mean it. We are in our nothing box. I'm not sure how accurate that all is but it explains the differences to an extent. And, in that vein, perhaps what you found distasteful or unsettling in my post is a result of my aggressive tendencies as a male. I don't think you are taking offence at me, but at the attitudes that might be generated by what I wrote, or just the whole ill will one feels with the use of labels, even if it is me saying bring on the labels and then let's see what you've got. When, as it should be, we are in this to find the peaceful path, not the confrontation. Then, again, I have felt that perhaps the whole aggression model better fits humans than canids, anyway.
And there is many a time that I don't fit within a particular label. In spite of my bluster, I'm a peace-loving hippie. A peace loving hippie who is a marksman with a pistol and can kill with my hands with a single move. Fit that into a box.
Long and short of it, I agree with you, that labels can do more harm than good. It's just that I cannot suffer a bully and my first instinct is to call the bluff. And labels, as you might point out, can be used to bully someone. It's an ad hominem attack, usually from a position of weakness in the debate.