Help with housetraining, please!

You ARE on the right track.  But it takes time, patience and consistency.

I shouldn't have said that I use the word no.  I actually don't.  It's eh eh, or EHHHH!  Some folks just aren't comfortable making strange noises.....

ColleenyBeany

 I think that she's afraid that at some point we're going to shut her out and never let her in again.

It's funny you should mention that. I got Buddy the end of October from a rescue. It's only been in the last couple of weeks he will go outside to do his business on his own. Until then I would have to be outside with him. He would not stay out alone. I wondered if he was afraid he would not be allowed back in.  So your dog could be having the same issue - what ever it is. I would guess the more comfortable she becomes with her new home the better the house training will get.  It took Buddy almost 3 months.

 I just wanted to add that before we got Keela, she lived in an indoor/outdoor kennel. When she needed to pee/poop, she did so without any thought to where she was. It was like she had no connection between her brain and the urge to go. I do believe that is why it took so long to train her. She had to learn to 1) recognize that 'need' and translate it to 2) hold it and 3) ask to go out and 4) wait while we took her out. She had to learn how to learn.

She would literally poop while she walked instead of stopping and squatting. It was beyond aggravating, but she finally learned the connection. LOL

Give her time, lots of time :) She'll make the connection and you'll start seeing more success. Just keep setting her up to succeed and avoid the failures as much as possible. Forget how old she is and how long you've had her. Just take it one day at a time and one successful elimination at a time. You'll drive yourself crazy if you don't. Trust me.....LOL

ColleenyBeany

Sometimes it's taken her 20 minutes to go pee, but yesterday she was really quick, so I'm hoping that's progress! 

  Am I the only one who feels like the girls take sooo much longer to decide on a spot/time to pee or poop?  The boys in our house are in and out.  Gracie could take upwards of 20 minutes and multiple trips in/out if given the choice (especially with cooler temps).

Just an aside, not that this applies to your dog, but two things came to my mind (I worked in shelters for years and saw lots of odd behaviors)  One in particular was a dog who refused to pee/poop on anything other than concrete.  Grass, gravel, whatever freaked her out.   She wasn't abused either, just underexposed to conditions we take for granted.  Made us pause and think about things from her perspective.  Also, when house-training we were taught to give the dog a command "Get busy", "Hurry up" or whatever to signal we expected a behavior from them  (then prrraaaiiise just like you described), but we also went to one designated spot and stood there like a tree if necessary to encourage the dog to do its business rather than getting distracted or trying to play.  Going to this one spot, hearing the command "Hurry!" meant - time to pee or poop.