Please don't give up on your beagle.
I can tell you I have been there. And having two young human children also
is a lot to hande.
Our beagle Buster was originally a pet store purchase surrendered to the HS
at about 8 weeks. He was a tiny thing. We kept him in the master bathroom using
a kiddy fence and that worked well for him until about 10 months old. And then he
started digging holes thru the sheet rock in his spare time. One hole in 3 different
walls.
That began the crate training. Beagles are very food oriented. So, just like sit & stay, he learned the command "go inside" and he would go inside his crate for a
high value treat.
I remember those early times, & Buster too, seemed to be so energetic that
really any moment that I could not watch his every move, he needed to be crated.
Just as you would teach your two children manners & what behavior is not acceptable, your beagle is just like them. When Buster was about a year old, he
would talk back to us when being scolded. By this I mean that if you looked at
him using a strong deep voice, he would bark and grumble back at us, like if he had to get his 2 cents out. Reminded me of my teenagers.
Abby doesn't focus in part because the beagle nose will take over their thoughts.
Buster at the age of 2 started to settle down. Being crated during the day, meant that he was no longer was crated at night. He started sleeping next to the bed, but
would manage to squirm his way into ours. This oddly enough, seemed to help
him learn to like comfort items without destroying them. Soon after a blanket
stayed in his crate without being shredded.
Buster is now 3 yrs. old. He does have couch potato tendencies. In the last
year, we have gotten Coco, to keep him company and someone to play with.
Buster will still love to find an open bedroom door so that he can rumage thru
the waste basket or find an old sock hanging around. He is still a thief.
Then he prances around the house showing off his lastest prized possession
that he shouldn't have.
In general, beagles tend to be good with children. I have cousins and neighbor
children in my house and Buster is no problem. Actually he would rather sniff
their shoes.
Possibly Abby is just not showing respect towards the kids ? Your 3 yr. old
could tell her to sit, etc. (As I would tell my son, to use his "Big Boy Voice")
when asking Buster to do something. Your son gives the command, but you
stand next to him and give the treat.
On the other hand, I would crate her while the children are eating, just in
case a food stealing incident doesn't turn into any other issues at least until
she settles down.
I guess what I am trying to tell you is that it Does get better, just it will take
time for Abby to mature. Like Buster, she still might have some goofy
behaviors, but after all it's a beagle.