Since the format change...

ORIGINAL: sandra_slayton


"People who are truely educated and well informed pay attention to studies and don't walk around w/their  heads in the sand." 

 
I have been away for a few days and I did not look up the thread you are referring to, but I'll bet ya a buck I can tell you who said it.  []

Ya know, my question would be, if one is walking around with their head in the sand, how 'bout those trenches they leave as they walk??

I am often accused of having my head SOMEWHERE, but not "in the sand."  []
 
I am reminded of a T-Shirt I saw the other day.  Funny as hell and I have to get one.  It said,
 
YOUR PROCTOLOGIST CALLED.  THEY FOUND YOUR HEAD.

As a "puppy" on this board, I just wanted to add that I had been lurking for a while before I got my dog, but finally decided to join when she came home.  I was so excited to share my pup but was immediately slammed for what some perceived as the wrong kind of dog for my family.  I felt very upset and wasn't sure what to do about it.  So I just decided to keep on going because there is so much great info on this board.  I am, however, very careful about my posts because I don't have the time nor the inclination to get into it with someone.  I will probably never talk about what brand of kibble I feed - even though it is rather expensive which for some people means it's good - just because I don't feel like having to defend my choice.   I had a question about bones for my pup today and thought about PM'ing Glenda but ended up putting it on the board instead.  I addressed it to Glenda, but the only reason I did that was because I really wanted to hear from her, but would have welcomed input from all, so I know I didn't really need to put her name on there. I just hate that I feel like I have to be so careful.  I have SO MANY questions that I know you all have answers to.

ORIGINAL: dyan

I think the thing I hate the worst lately are the insinuating questions that are asked, sometime directly to one person, sometimes to everyone,,,but either way, they are meant to start trouble or at least it always looks like it.  The same people do it over and over. 

 
I know EXACTLY what you mean.  I hate it.  That person asks questions to try and humiliate people and make them feel like all the choices they've made for their dog are wrong.
 
Then there's the other person that may have valid points, but feels the need to state them as rudely as they possibly can.
 
I don't feel that anyone is "stirring the pot" intentionally.  I think some people are just JERKS and don't understand how to make a point without being hateful about it.

I don't think that it necessarily coincided with the format change, but we do seem to have some missing members who were very adept at posting both facts and opinions while clearly distinguishing between the two and doing so in a mature manner without tearing other people down.  But that's not to say that they're all gone.  We still have members both "new" and "old" who have a lot to offer and can do so without being hurtful. The people whose osts I always enjoy the most are those who are able to state their opinions without feeling the need to convert the world. They can engage in healthy debate without shoving their beliefs down other's throats.  They exude a certain calm dignity that makes their posts pleasant to read, even if you don't necessarily agree with them on a particular topic.   The people who insist that their way is the only way...that their opinions are the only right opinions get tiresome really quick.  They come off as having a holier-than-thou attitude.  Intentional or not, they offend people all the time yet they squawk the loudest when they feel that they've been offended.   But like Jean said, that's just the nature of message boards...just like in real life. 

I don't feel that anyone is "stirring the pot" intentionally. I think some people are just JERKS and don't understand how to make a point without being hateful about it.

 
I have to disagree, there are people who do intentionally "stir the pot" they enjoy getting a rise out of people and will buddy up with another at times who they feel have the same things in common..since they agree on "some" things it works for a while. Sometime the *other member* sees the light and backs off, sometimes they don't, but play the fool and post what the original pot stiring poster wants them to say so they don't always look like the bad guy/girl. Being on the back side of this forum and watching people in their postings and getting the e-mails I do I can weed these people out.
 
There is a process and I have been very nice about respecting the others feelings, but you know what, I'm a little tired of all that. If those who feel the need to stir the pot, be rude, name call and anything else that isn't a part of a friendly community can post publicly what they want, get three suspensions and then be gone I might as well post publicly that they are getting a "Time Out" when it it time for a suspension or are "gone" for the final post they make here.
 
 So for those who enjoy the spoon...change your behavior or change your forum address because this is what you'll be seeing.....
 
 
 

Glenda, I don't know how old you are, I admit to being 61 (will be in June anyway), but it seems you know the same thing I know--the older you get, the more you realize you don't know as much as you thought you did.  There is always more to be learned about any subject.

ORIGINAL: sandra_slayton

Glenda, I don't know how old you are, I admit to being 61 (will be in June anyway), but it seems you know the same thing I know--the older you get, the more you realize you don't know as much as you thought you did.  There is always more to be learned about any subject.

 
I'm 31 and I've realized that, too.  It's kind of scary, though!

OK, I'll out myself!  I'm 52.  And yep, the older I get, the less I find the need to validate my opinions on the heads of others!  I DO like to continue to learn, I do WANT to continue to grow, and I enjoy a healthy debate.....just not a pi$$ing match!

Once someone posted something snarky in reply to something I had posted.  It took all I had not to respond back.  Its even harder on a a board than in real time conversation not to respond to ugliness, as you have more time to think of great comebacks! 
 
I think that the nutrition threads have always been a little hot.  I-dog isn't perfect and all the people aren't always nice all of the time, but when you post a "HELP, my dog is sick" (or similar) thread the whole community comes together to help.  You have to take the good with the bad, and for the most part, i-dog is great and I am pleased to be a part of it.

ORIGINAL: glenmar

knew that she'd really benefit from the community.  Why people choose ME to pm I'm not real sure, but maybe they feel that they will get a fair answer, not nailed to the wall, regardless of my own

 
Part and parcel of being a doggy angel.
 

Oye!! I'm never gonna live that one down! []

Angel or not, you really need to stop referring to yourself as an old fart Glenda.  I'm just a couple years behind you and you are starting to give me a complex.  [sm=proud.gif]

[sm=rofl.gif] not so old fart just doesn't quite sound right tho.....