dyan
Posted : 6/25/2008 4:41:16 PM
For me,,,,,I look at my dogs and think...would I want to be here if I were them. If they are happy, wagging their tails and eating and drinking...I don't honestly feel its time for them to go. For me...I would not feel good making that decision then. I have to say..I just made the decision with my beloved Bubblegum in March. I am sure I made the correct decision...and yet in my heart I think... what if she would have gotten better. What if it was not her time to go. I feel she trusted me with her life...and sometimes I feel I betrayed that trust... and yet my head knows better. I was just sent this from a friend..it was on the website thepetwhisperer.com.
What do you do when your best friend is dying?
There is one condition that all of our beloved pets will have happen in their lives. Their eternal spirits will finally decide it is time to leave their physical bodies and make their transition to where all of their buddies who passed before them are gathered, waiting for their arrival.
Over the past 35 years of caring for animals, one of the hardest part of being a veterinarian is counseling caregivers on the transition of their best friends. This is a topic that we seldom discuss until we are faced with the fact that the time has come for us to let our dear friend cross the Rainbow Bridge. ( I have made a copy of this wonderful story at the bottom of this article for you to read and share with others.
The first and most important point I make with all my clients, is that unless their animal friend is truly in pain, that they should do their best to let them make their crossing over as peaceful and natural as possible. If they are suffering, then they have to let their friend go mercifully with the help of their veterinarian. The fine line is what is suffering and a peaceful transition?
I always tell my caregivers, "Be the dog, the cat, the horse, the pig, etc." What I mean by this is that before you make the decision to put your friend to sleep, you give them a chance to tell you when they need help or not. As long as they are quiet, resting, not struggling or restless, I feel they are content in their transition and we need to keep them as stress free as possible as they make their transition. If they are crying, distressed, restless, unable to sleep or find a comfortable position, I feel they are asking us to assist them in their joining their family on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. At this point if we are unable to make them comfortable, we owe them a humane release from their suffering.
What I have found that helps them make this transition a gentler one, is what I want to share with all of you who read my web site. All I ask it that you share this information with at least three more people. By doing this one thing, we will all be able to help our friends, great and small with their journey through time.
First of all if they tell me they do not want us to try so hard to keep them alive, that we need to honor this and keep the following in mind. In our determination to keep them on this planet, we must be careful not to forget that with the little time left, we do not want to loose the quality time we have left with them consumed with treatment. We do not want our last moments with our dear friends to be filled with forcing medication down their throats and having them plead with us to let them make their transition peacefully. Spend your time holding them, talking to them or just being with them quietly and sharing the moment in the NOW.
I have found that Rescue remedy, which contains Star of Bethlehem for loss, Impatients for pain, mixed with Walnut for transition, is an excellent blend for the transition of our pets. You can mix it into their water, so that if they want a drink they can treat themselves. If they are not drinking, then you can give it to them orally or massage it into their ears as needed. By this I mean if they start to show signs of discomfort repeat the remedy every 5 minutes until they are peaceful once again. I have also found the essential oil blend Release by Young Living Essential Oils mixed with Frankincense is a great aromatherapy blend to help them see the light and be more at ease with their transition. ( you can order these oils from this web site under the essential oil link) I recommend either diffusing the oils in the room or massaging a drop of this mixture in each ear as needed for calming and grounding them.
If they become restless at any point during this period of time, I have found the homeopathic remedy Arsenicum album 30C or higher to be very helpful in reducing pain and restlessness. It can also help them make their transition more peacefully.
The most important thing to remember is that you always listen to your friend. They will always tell you if their time has come and what you need to do for them. All you have to do, is be quiet and hold them and ask them what they want you to do. You will either get a feeling or they will give you a physical or emotional symptom that will tell you what you need to do.
Just because they stop eating and drinking or moving around does not mean they are suffering. How many times when you have been very ill and did all of these same. No one thought about euthanizing you and neither should you think this about your fiend. He or she needs hospice not euthanasia. Spend what time you have left with them enjoying the memories and protecting them on the next part of their eternal journey through time.
If you find this more than you can bare, they understand now that whatever you decide to do in their behalf, it is from your heart and filled with love. This is why they are in this world with us, to teach us to care about each other.
Many times I have been asked why animals lives are so short? I have given this a great deal of thought and this is my feelings about this question. First of all I believe that the Creator put the animals on this planet as our teachers. What better lesson to teach us, than to prepare us for our time of transition. By teaching us how to face death without fear and at peace with the next part of their journey, they have prepared us for our crossing of the Rainbow Bridge.
Animals do not dwell on dying, but on living. They do not wear watches or check the calendar for how much time they have left to live. They just live in the NOW and are HERE. They feel fulfilled when they know they have taught us these lessons in the short time they are allowed to be with us and we owe it to them as their students to thank them each and every day for their unconditional love for us.
"Miracles happen every day, all we have to do is get out of the way. If we do this each and every day, more will surely come our way." Thank you for caring and paying it forward.