I don't mean this to be unkind -- and like Glenda and others in this thread, I just don't 'get' having an 'outside' dog (and I do live in the deep South where it is part of their culture). But I truly don't understand, something else -- why, after the first dog died violently, why not draw the logical conclusion that this just isn't a safe place for an un-contained dog anymore?
I'm not sure I know how to say this -- but I wish I could scream at the top of my lungs:
"IT IS NOT 1955 **ANY** MORE!!"
I don't care *where* you live -- if you live out in the country because you don't like the encroachment of "city" or if you are in suburbia or if you are anywhere there is a telephone line or within an hour of a grocery store -- if you leave a dog "loose" it's liable to get hit and killed.
We can complain all we want about how fast people drive -- but this is 2006 folks. I have a flash for the world
**EVERYONE IS IN A HURRY**
Plan on it!
That means the days of letting dogs "have their freedom" are O-V-E-R!!!!! We may like the idea of Poochie "running free" but that doesn't make it sensible or do-able. That means if we want to keep them alive either keep them on a leash or keep them inside a good strong fence-in yard.
We all remember ... well, no, maybe old sod's like me (and yeah, I'm on the back side of 50, grey hair and I don't dye it) remember what it was like not to lock the back door ... or to just let the dog 'out' even though the yard wasn't totally fenced because "he'll come back later". I remember what it was like to think "Oh, they need to run -- dogs NEED to be free now and then".
I remember ... but it's not for today. Not anywhere. (and trust me -- even in dog parks you have to be ULTRA cautious even how you get them TO the park and how you deal with them while there!!).
Car's essentially don't go 'faster' than they did 20 years ago, isn't that funny? But there are way more of them on the road. I remember when not every family HAD a car -- and now everyone IN the family has a car (including the young teens!). And everyone is going somewhere -- and no one even has to stop by home any more to ASK if they can go somewhere else -- because they've all got cell phones. So they drive one-handed.
My point?
My heart breaks for this original poster's child. Why? Aside from the obvious painful loss ... my heart breaks because Mom and Dad didn't say after the FIRST one got loose and died "Let's keep Poochie on a leash out front unless he's in the back yard where it is contained so he won't get run over". And after two dogs, they're giving up on the idea of a dog rather than change how they keep one. That makes me feel really bad.
In law (and I'm a legal secretary) it's called "mitigating your damages" -- in other words, doing the things that will minimize any damage you may suffer -- like keeping the dog contained so it won't be apt to get hit.
Accidents like Shari's Mom related happen all too easily and they were BEING responsible -- the dogs were contiained. Maybe not that last step of 'locked' for that one instant, but we've all learned those sorts of lessons too, because not only can accidents "happen" but some dogs are more adventurous, and are faster, and are more mischevious, and some just plain more *determined* than others -- and stuff happens.
But my point is we have to CHANGE. Things I could do 25 years ago, I can't do now. 20 years ago I routinely used to let my dogs out for a run -- I'm in a smaller suburb of Orlando and it USED TO BE that it wasn't terribly busy. Now, despite 3 new stop signs in 6 blocks it's a race zone. 25 years ago I could sneak my dog into the movie theatre with me on a "B" run night -- I can't do that now. 30 years ago I used to put my medium-sized dog in my bike basket and pedal to the corner store and leave him to sit IN the basket til I came out (because Pip WOULD sit in that basket til h-e-double-hockey-sticks froze over JUST because he would do anything to go WITH me!).
I can't do those things now .. not just because I'm "over the hill" but because this is a different time and place and that stuff just isn't appropriate any more. And I'm (I hope) a wee bit wiser than I used to be.
But I'm not going to waste time hating people because they drive fast because I am one of the maddening hoards who drive 20 miles to work into "downtown" every day and I'm in a hurry too.
Somewhere along the line I've learned a hard lesson -- that my dogs don't *need* to be out "loose" -- instead it's up to ME to provide their fun ... safely. It's up to ME to make sure they get exercise and "fun stuff" to do. It's up to ME to keep them busy and keep them safe. That's part of my responsibility as guardian.
We let Kee Shu go visit her "human" the other day (a supervised visit) -- and in the course of the hour, the guy walked away to sit down with her alone for a few minutes and the first thing he did was let her off leash.
In a public park, right on an intersection of a very very BUSY major 8 lane with people who use this lake path to RUN, and BIKE, and wheel baby strollers. In short - not a place for a little dog to be 'free'. This guy didn't like it very well when my husband (as soon as we saw what he'd done) made a beeline for him and told him to get her back on leash NOW (mind you, this guy IS Kee's rightful 'owner') simply because a) it's the law, and b) it's just NOT safe.
It took brass for DAvid to do that. But he did and I backed him up. The guy didn't like it -- he's "always let her off leash and she doesn't go far". That wasn't the point.
The point is ... it's just not safe. So at some point it's our responsibility to change and do it the safer way.