tacran
Posted : 3/6/2011 9:26:52 PM
glenmar
The words and thots of the people here are quite honestly my lifeline. It's almost like popping a blister....reading whats said hurts, but the hurting actually eases the pain if that makes the least bit of sense.
Glenda, it absolutely makes sense. I remember feeling the same way when we lost our dog and everyone posted words of sympathy and support here. Reading them made me cry, but I continued reading them in the days and weeks ahead. In fact, eventually I printed the entire thread and put it with the sympathy cards we received -- I can't imagine ever discarding them, so I keep them with other mementos.
You also mentioned how a sudden death is easier on the pet since there's minimal suffering, while it's so much harder on the ones left behind. My dear friend said the same thing about the loss of her parents. Her mother dropped dead of a heart attack one day, and her father died after a an illness and several weeks lingering in the hospital. She said watching her Dad suffer was horrible (and obviously it was much worse for him), although she had lots of time to say goodbye and prepare for the loss. Her Mom's death was very traumatic because she had no time to say goodbye, but there was comfort in knowing her Mom had no suffering. Either way, we have heartbreak . . . I guess there really isn't an "easier" situation . . . but we can look for those comforting thoughts.
Take care -- you are in my thoughts.