When is it time?

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. It sounds like Abbies quality of life has deteriorated to the point that you need to give her the most loving gift there is...a gentle assist to the Bridge.  This is a very difficult decision to have to make, but come back and we'll carry you through the hard times.
Hugs to you and your girl.

I'm sorry to read that your furry friend is nearing the end of her days.  It seems to me that the kindest thing for you to do is help her to the Bridge, perhaps sooner rather than later.  It is never easy, but from what you wrote, she is in need of your help to go.
 
I think you may already know what you need to do.  You just need the strength to do it.  Please understand I am not criticizing you.  We all have had to let go at some point.  Do it for her.  Her condition makes me think it is time.
 
You can come here and find much comfort.  {{{Hugs}}}

I am so sorry to hear this, but it sounds as if it is time.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I agree that it may be time to gently guide her to the bridge.  It is the kindest thing you can do for her at this point.  All our hugs and furry kisses.  She will know you love her and be strong. <3

I think that when she looks up at you she's asking you for that respect.  You are her everything and I think you know it's time to help her cross her final bridge.

I kept changing my mind and finally the vet-tech told me that sooner is better than later.  Meaning, the pain you are going thru watching your baby suffer is killing you too .  The pain in your brain and heart trying to decide is a lot for you to bear as well as your dog suffering. I finally made the call and every hour til then was agonizing for me.  I won't lie, the pain will continue and even increase but you will have given the greatest gift, to release her from her pain.
   We are here for you...peace

Look into her eyes and ask yourself honestly if you think she is enjoying life, or merely hanging on for you.  I will soon be in your shoes, as my lovely Dancer is well over 17 and I know that it's coming.  But, as hard as I have worked to keep her with me, I know that she will tell me when she wants to go.  I've already given her permission.  Do what you know needs to be done, no matter how it hurts, because she is trusting you to.

I am so sorry you are having to face this. I agree with everyone that it is time to set her free. It is a very hard decision to make but the time comes when we no longer have a choice. Her body is tired and she deserves to be given the ultimate gift of freedom from the pain.
The hardest thing to do is to let go but for all the love in your heart you have for her, show her how important she truely is and let her rest peacefully.
(((hugs)))

My heart goes out to you as you agonize over this decision.  Talk with Abbie and let your love for her guide you.  Trust yourself ...whatever you decide will be right.
Wishing you peace.

I'm so very sorry for you & your girl and that you are in this situation of what decision to make.  I know exactly how you feel... I asked the same question.  I held on tight to her good days but knew what was in the future.  While I didn't help her on her journey like so many brave & loving people here have done for their furry babies... I do know that if you choose to do that... we will all be here for you.  My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your girl. 

The decision you're facing is an agonizing one.  We were faced with it in January.  Sometimes I still wonder if we could've waiting longer (our precious boy could still walk, eat, enjoy attention and affection -- but his tongue and epiglottis were calcifying, and he often struggled to swallow and breathe).  We were willing to do all we could - cooking and pureeing food, staying up most nights with him, etc.  We kept changing our minds about making the vet appointment, and we ended up having to rush him to an emergency vet one night.  Even though we were holding him and talking to him right until his last breath, one of my biggest regrets is that he wasn't euthanized in a familiar place (our house or our vet's office).  We had hoped he would die quietly in his sleep with us, but we had to help him to the Bridge.
 
If you know your sweet pup is not going to recover, my suggestion would be to help Abbie cross "under your terms" so you can arrange for her to be somewhere comfortable, safe and familiar.  She will know you're doing it out of love for her.
 
No matter how the end comes, it's he**.  Even being "prepared" for several weeks, I was still devastated with grief.  And if it wasn't for the supportive people on this forum, I don't know what I would've done.  Even all these months later, I find sympathetic people here who understand the pain of losing a furry family member. 
 
My heart goes out to you.  Abbie sounds like a lucky girl to have such a devoted companion in you.  You'll both be in my thoughts. 

Tonight, Abbie went to a better place. As painful as it was... I think my wife and I  did the right thing. thanks

I am so sorry for your loss.
Please know that Abbie is running free at the Bridge, vibrant and young again.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
(((hugs)))

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers are coming your way.