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I would really like to send this to Pom

Posted : 2/19/2008 12:51:54 PM

But I want some input....she needs a serious talking to. If Admin wants to do it so much the better....but I need to at least say the below, someplace LOL.

"The time has come

For yet more frankness from me. So I hope you can accept it.

In general when there are issues...it is seldom one sided...I know the membership here quite well, and being a Mod I also know members who have tendencies.

This is a lesson I had to learn myself. IF multiple otherwise sensible people...are suddenly on my case...I likely had something to do with that. It is not a defeat to admit, that you as a person may be responsible for some of what you reap in life.

I am not telling you this to be mean to you. I am attempting to help you. Your tone has not improved, since I last mentioned this to you....in fact, we have had to speak to you about your choice of words more than once now. That alone has caused a certain amount of prickle-iness around here from the membership.

We see this come thru in many ways...but only YOU can change a lot of this. YOU must make an effort to think about your posts...your tone...and if your comments are likely to be taken the way you want them taken.

Again there is no malice on my part...only a need to tell you that you need to stop setting yourself up to be "picked on"....IMO you are not being picked on...you are being made to answer for the tone you choose to post in...and it's easier to post and have your comments taken well, when you post with a better tone, and more respect for the people you interact with here."

rwbeagles

Posted : 2/19/2008 12:58:48 PM

Okay as a Mother..I have reached the end of my patience....that's saying something, she just sent this to me and I officially want to puke now.

"[In response to my most recent Abuse Report filed]

I've had my fair share of learning what to say back and what not to say back. What isn't far is people that continue to attack me and are also further encouraged to do so.

I am beyond "limited life experience" this girl is a CHILD still in COLLEGE who has no clue about the real world yet insults me day after day after day. I'm probably one of the many/few people on this forum who have had beyond a share of life experiences and I don't need a CHILD to continue to insult me on the public forum.

I'm not going to attack back because I'm sick of the high school games. It really is pathetic & I'm so tired of it. I'm also not going to attack back because like you have told me then I'll just get in trouble for standing up for myself.

Please advice me on the caddy and immature remarks. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I NEVER EVER EVER insult/bash anyone for their own opinions. I have been the most open and honest. I take what everyone says whole heartly with an open mind & learn from others where it's needed.

All I know is I was banned for three edits because I was standing up for my family; but yet people who harasse me constantly are never in trouble for it and everyone just laughs about it. I'm wondering at what point it's going to be stopped?

I enjoy being here and reading through all the training threads and learning new things and posting about things I know and having debates & discussions... but me as a person and my opinions are not open for attack.

I enjoy my account & blog & pictures & new friends... I'm not letting the immature people pressure me to leave.

I needed to vent so I figured I would talk to you about it (since you are one of the admin/mods which is my resource)

uggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

seriously I'm not posting in a thread anymore that has nothing to do with Dogs. Because that's where all the trolls sit and wait to pounce and make themselves feel better and I've had it with being attack and being told HOW to think. This is a DOG forum and I'm strictly going to post publically about DOGS...

Thank you for listening to me vent Gina! I need a role model & advice & resource right now...."

Sera_J

Posted : 2/19/2008 1:03:10 PM

I think that was actually very diplomatic.

I'd like to say "I will cut a bitch." :) J/K

I think you'd be doing her a great favor by sending that. Do you think she'd be open to receiving such a large life lesson? I mean, this is about personal accountability and I"ve realized either people get it, or don't. Anyway, you've had a tremendous amount of patience with her Gina, at what point do we just say SHUT UP??

Sera_J

Posted : 2/19/2008 1:06:49 PM

Umm "since you are one of the admin/mods which is my resource" .... OMG. OMG.

OMG.

WOW.

OK, i'm back to wanting to my original plan. LOL

rwbeagles

Posted : 2/19/2008 1:08:15 PM

I dunno...I just don't know if I can send it....I am so TIRED!....

Her PM to me above is just so...SMARMY...

I do fear the reply....thusfar she's been rather okay with taking critique...I sent her something along the above lines before not long ago...but here we are again. So did she even READ the other one? LOL.

Benedict

Posted : 2/19/2008 1:09:29 PM

Gina, can you just write to her saying "I have referred your concerns to admin". I am composing a note, which I will post here for you guys to read before I send it.

rwbeagles

Posted : 2/19/2008 1:13:44 PM

Kate....not a problem. In fact...I do so gladly!

Benedict

Posted : 2/19/2008 1:18:22 PM

Hey, I'm nothing if not generous. Besides, I feel guilty for ditching you two here yesterday while I attended to a domestic goddess disaster! (I broke my SIL's birthday cake that I was baking her.)