Forum "Moderation"

No Glenda, it wasn't you.[] I've always found your moderating style to be pretty fair.

probe1957, I'm pretty sure that you do understand why you were edited, but just in case you really don't, this is just my take on your situation in the Ratsicles thread. I know you didn't ask me, but perhaps I can help.

ORIGINAL: probe1957
Now you've got to admit, by board standards, this is WAY out there.  In fact, in my opinion, the post was ludicrous. 

Emphasis mine.

3.)     ... We will not tolerate rudeness, insults or personal attacks. Do not disrespect, taunt, bother, bug or flame anyone...

So, you responded to a post you thought was "ludicrous" and you have admitted that you don't believe in animal communications - to the extent that this poster was claiming, anyway. Therefore, your comment, "What a coincidence.  So am I." can only be seen as a rude, disrespectful taunt.

 maybe I am a cross species communicator.  []

Are you?

Because if you are, then it's a whole different story. But I don't understand how you could be when you've just ridiculed the profession, called animal comminication "WAY out there" and said it was ludicrous.

Some people crave drama. If you don't supply it, they go in search elsewhere.

 
I felt this comment was worth reposting.  The things that others say to you ONLY become important if YOU give them importance.  It is all about the choice you make to let things affect you.  
 
On a side note I wanted to add that while this is a forum for folks to get help from others, I have made the choice, on numerous occasions,  to only pm a handful of people whose opinion I respect to ask for advice, suggestions or even to vent.  I know that there are some issues with my dogs and even with myself that I might end up with a bunch of heartache over if I decided to publicly post information about it.  I am way too sensitive of a person to willingly let others bash me who might have opinions about something that GREATLY differ from mine.  I know I am not the only one person on this board who feels that way as I have been pm#%92d on countless occasions asking for my “personal” suggestions because people weren#%92t willing to post about a problem for all to view.  While some folks may say that is “sad” to ever have to feel that way, I think it is just life. Just wanted to toss that out there. And for what it is worth, if anyone on this board ever wants my personal advice on an issue that they are worried won#%92t go over well on this or any board, my pm box is always open to you. I would be happy to save you some heartache. []   
 

I was also surprised to see the Ogre thread closed.  There was also a comment about too much personal information but I feel that as adults we are able to decide what to share and what not to share in our personal lives.  I've yet to see a dog that was not effected by the personal lives of the human owners.  Of course I also realize that it is probably against the rules to post phone numbers and physical addresses so that should not be done on this forum. 
 
I was also confused why the discussion about early spay/neuter was not off topic, but perhaps that is the moderator to decide. 
 
And this thread has gone on so long, I'm not sure exactly what the OP said, so what was the topic here?  [:-]  (also not sure about that smiley, but it seemed to fit.)

The way I see it....people have to chill out and relax because this is the internet...People are way more free in what they type than what they would say to someone in person....You aren't going to like everyone here I know I don't! LOL Seriously though...sometimes people are gonna tick ya off...sometimes they are gonna make ya laugh or smile...sometimes they are gonna make ya sick....sometimes they are gonna have valuable information that will go unnoticed  because a mod steps in and deletes this and that and closes threads and people stop posting...I think e1 needs to step back and act like adults...no more tattling to mods...no more getting so offended at the drop of a hat...You don't like something someone says?? Ignore it!!! It's really that simple...They aren't calling you on the phone or in your face...ignore them..block their posts if you don't like what they say...close the window..look at the next post....walk away from the computer if all else fails...Problem is more often than not people are too nosey to ignore someone...They actually want to see what they are saying....We are grown ups not kindergartners....no one needs to be told on and lose recess...perhaps some need more naps and cookies though

I think that regardless of what you think of another person's personal beliefs and experiences, a certain level of civility is necessary.

 
Ratsicles, I agree with you 100%. There is no reason for a discussion not to remain civil.
 

My thread was closed, and I recieved a very snotty PM from the moderator that closed it. Thanks to a few people who ruined my thread, I can no longer discuss the issue with the people who WERE helping me. My request to have it reopened have so far been ignored.

 
I am very sorry that the mod in the behavior section behaved so poorly. One would think that being a mod would require a certain amount of tact. I went to post on your thread but I realized that it had been closed. I tried to read the posts, only to find a sea of red.
 

Now, thanks to a small group of people, I can no longer discuss HELPING my dog- which is the entire point of this forum.

 
If I were you, I would post in the training section. I have found the mod there to be much more tactful, & even handed when threads begin to get heated. There are many knowledgeable members who frequently help out in the training section, who do not visit behavior, due to the uneven hand of the mod there.
 
I do have to state that I am usually busy during the day, so my internet access during the daytime is limited. I have been very disappointed in the behavior section. When I get on idog at night, I am only allowed to read posts that the mod agrees with. Any dissention “among the ranks” is red inked, & not made available to the public. This makes it very hard for me, to be fully aware of what is going on, therefore preventing me from posting. I believe that the uneven hand of a mod, is censorship at it#%92s finest.
 
What a sad, sad, day when the busiest area of the forum is the “complaint” area.

Boo, actually I think this thread was started to put me in my place.
 
Agile.....I only sort of agree.  Sometimes we do get WAY too much information.  And yes, I stop reading when I think I might find out what someone's favorite position is......

ORIGINAL: agilebasenji
I was also confused why the discussion about early spay/neuter was not off topic, but perhaps that is the moderator to decide. 

People were saying that Ogre should be neutered to alleviate some dominance (paraphrased). Rat said there were medical reasons to wait to have him fixed. And a discussion ensued. I took it to PM to resolve it and we did.

[:-]  (also not sure about that smiley, but it seemed to fit.)

I LOL at this! [sm=rotfl.gif] I think this thread is a "rambler" about general moderation and specific examples. Of course, I don't know what I'm talking about, so... [:-]

Boo, if I could give you a star, I would! Excellent post!

I know that this won't be a popular request, but I do wish you guys would keep in mind that a real human being is the one in the hot seat being roasted.  Perhaps we could all temper our comments with just a tiny bit of kindness?  Been in that seat and it honestly ain't all that comfy.

And I missed all the drama. That's what I get for going to work. My day wasn't that exciting. I was in Ft. Worth retro-fitting some lights in a store to comply with the tenants requirements. It may not be dramatic but it pays well enough.
 

Do you all think its a good time to ask Personal Champ to open the poll on that icon?  I have been working behind the scenes and I think there may be enough votes now.

Is this the icon that you're referencing?
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If so, I would probably "leave it."  IMO You've beat that dead horse long enough.[]

Not having been in on billy's thread, I really can't comment on it except to say that we probably need to consider members' usual posting style, too.  Billy is often irreverant, and laughingly calls himself a jerk - but I do think that his often edgy posts are usually not rising to the level of cruelty.  I really don't think that is his intent, and believe it or not, he has been one of the members here who actually PM'd me quite a while back to make sure that we were not "enemies".  I appreciated him doing that, and have since learned to like the little snot better (yes, it's a "PM pet name" and not meant in disrespect, but tongue in cheek).

Anyone who wants advice about their dog can PM me or visit the training threads, and I'm always interested in helping anyone who has a problem with their dog that they've been unable to solve. 

he has been one of the members here who actually PM'd me quite a while back to make sure that we were not "enemies". I appreciated him doing that, and have since learned to like the little snot better (yes, it's a "PM pet name" and not meant in disrespect, but tongue in cheek).

[8|]what is this I see?? are you actually saying that Billy is NOT a complete and total a$$??  SHOCKING!!!!!!!!!!!![]  Who the hell knew??[8|]


excellent post Anne... []

I must admit that does look cool.