Completely Heartbroken over a foster dog

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    Completely Heartbroken over a foster dog

    This is a crazy story, but please try to read and give your opinion! I am still in shock.

    The day before my thanksgiving, my husband (who is a firefighter/paramedic) fought a structure fire in a duplex. It was very cold that night and the one side of the duplex was a complete loss, and the other side sustained extensive smoke damage and water damage. As the firefighters were cleaning up, they heard faint crying, that sounded like a baby. Frantic, they ripped apart the rubble and found an extremely small, soaked, shaking dog. My husband immediately wrapped her in a towel and rushed her to the ambulance, where he gave her oxygen for a while. He also called animal control, because no owner was home at the time to care for the dog.

    Neighbors said that the owner had left the dog alone four days prior. Nobody was coming to check on the dog, but there were numerous bowls of food and water scattered throughout the house. The dog was pooping/peeing throughout the house. Animal control took custody of the dog, but my husband went to them and begged them to let us foster her until her owners were found, etc., because he worried that she would need extensive medical care and would not get adequate attention. They allowed him to foster her, and we rushed her to the vet. We spent $200 on steroids, atnitbiotics, etc. She had wheezing from the smoke inhalation. We bathed her repeatedly, because her normall white coat was black from soot. The vet said he thought she was a shorkie, and he estimated her age at 16 weeks.

    A couple days later, a woman showed up at animal control asking for her dog. Animal control was very hesitant, as the woman had left the dog for so long, but apparently had not broken any laws, because she had left food and water. She didn't have a new residence, and seemed somewhat mentally unstable. Animal control explained that they couldn't give the dog back until she had a place to live. Long story short, the dog was removed from our care and given back to her on Dec. 4. We were very heartbroken and prayed for her daily. Our children were crushed. We coudn't stop thinking of her and hoping she was well.

    Fast forward to this past monday. My husband gets a call from a Winchester Virginia resuce group. Apparently the dog's owner had come in, dropped the dog off at the vet, and said she could not longer care for it. She told them to contact a specific fire dept if they wanted to know anything about the dog's health history, because the foster family was the only one who had taken it to a vet. The rescue called, they got in contact with my husband, and we couldn't believe it. The rescue said we could have her if we paid $275, as she had been spayed by them etc. We agreed to do that. The rescue lady kept calling the dog by a different name. When I asked why, she said, "I don't like her name, so I changed it". I asked if the dog knew her name, and she said yes, but that she would learn a new name. I thought that was strange but didn't voice my opinion. I did ask the woman repeatedly if she was CERTAIN the dog was coming home to us and legally freed, because I didn't want to tell my children otherwise. She said yes. So we told the children, bought a crate, etc. We were ecstatic.

    The next day, the day she was supposed to come to us, the lady emailed me and said there had been a problem, that a relative of the woman had shown up and demanded the dog back. She said that her "hands were tied" and she had been "crying all day but Virginia law says it must go to a next of kin". I found this difficult to believe so I contacted a friend, who is an attorney, who said that was absolutely false, and pulled up the codes. I emailed them to the rescue lady, and she said, "I am sorry, I know how you feel, but the relative has a nice house and a fenced in yard, so don't worry about the dog". I said that we had a nice house and a fenced in yard too (although I doubt the dog cares what tax bracket you are in). I also said I knew it was not a legal thing, it was a choice on their part, and I would like to know why. Then she said, "I hoped that the dog could come to you if the relative fell through, but questioning my judgment isn't a good way to go about getting the dog". At that point I told her that I thought she was untruthful, unprofessional, etc. and she basically said, "Look, I rescue dogs, it is my life, that's nice that your husband saved the dog and you provided care for it when it needed it, but that doesn't mean another person wouldn't love the dog more". At that point I was just stunned and she said "Again, don't worry, if the relative doesn't work out, the dog will be coming home with me forever".

    I am just stunned. My husband thinks she wanted the dog for herself, because she had said something in their first conversation about wanting to take her home herself, but she already had ten dogs, and her husband would get mad. She also named the dog a different name, even though it knew its old name.

    My children were so heartbroken. I am just wanting some feedback I guess...is this situation really bizarre or is it typical of "resuce" type organizations? I am hesitant to work with one again.

    Thanks for your time!

    Amy

    • Gold Top Dog

    Not in my experience, but every rescue is a bit different and some are totally out of control.

    I'm sorry that you had such a bad experience, and can only suggest that in the future whatever rescue you work with, be sure that everything is spelled out in writing.  I guess maybe it would be best in the future also to tell the kids what I tell my dogs.....it's just for a little while until the nice people at the rescue find him/her a great forever home, so don't get too attached.  THIS is what we do....we help poor dogs find loving families.  Or something to that affect. 

     

    • Gold Top Dog

    Sounds like a scam to me.  Did you already pay for her spay?  If so, I'd be asking for the money back.  I really think either #1 if there is a realative that took the dog, they turned over money for it (possibly more than the $275), or #2- she never had any intention of letting you adopt the dog and was looking for a way to get her spayed for free.   

     

    ETA- sadly, not all rescues or rescuers are "kosher", so to say.  There are a lot of scammers out there posing as rescues.  I'm really sorry you are going through this.

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    • Gold Top Dog

     You sound like really good hearted people who committed  a good deed and then got screwed over several times.

    One thing I have learned from this forum is that no two rescues are identical.  You may not want to work with this rescue again, as they lied to you  and hosed you pretty well.  Some rescues are hoarders in disguise, some are puppy mill outlets.  Most are hard working honest animal lovers looking to rehome abandoned animals.  Policies and procedures vary, adopter requirements vary, but the purpose is the same.  You may have to work with several rescues to find the right pet.   Try to not let this experience sour you on all rescues


    As an aside, if she has 10 dogs at home and wants more, she is heading in the direction of hoarding, not rescue.  She may be getting close to or be exceeding her legal pet limit.  Loving dogs isn't enough if you have too many to care for.

    • Gold Top Dog
    I agree with everyone else here... sounds like something is just not right.

    But PLEASE - do not let this deter you completely from rescue... there are good ones out there - you just need to do your homework.
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    Thanks so much for your thoughts. I am a registered nurse, so I am fairly used to working with all different types of people, and the entire time I was talking to this lady I couldn't shake the feeling that she had some kind of serious personality/mental problem. She almost seemed to have a Godlike-complex, like she wanted me to grovel at her feet for the dog. I feel that our veterinary record, home, and previous foster experience with this dog spoke for itself. We provided all the info right away and our vet sent all records in record time. We even provided numerous photos of the dog when she was in our care, playing with my children, etc. When she said that she felt there was someone out there who could love the dog more, it really seemed like a slap in the face. What more could we have done to care for and love the dog? I wish there was some advisory board I could speak to, because I feel like she is truly doing a disservice to the animals she professes to care for. If she wants to keep them all along, why make adoption plans? It seems like she was more focused on herself and her feelings and role, than on the dog and her welfare. I just have never experienced anything like this - the animal control in my town, when we fostered the dog, was nothing like this. They were concerned but professional. She just kept talking nonstop about herself and how long she'd been in pet rescue. I am still really worried about the little dog and am afraid that 1) she was either given to the relative who gave her right back to her mentally unstable owner, or 2) She went home with the pet rescue woman and is living with so many other dogs that she is not getting proper care. :(

    • Gold Top Dog
    is she a registered 501c3?
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    I don't know. How could I find out?

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    • Gold Top Dog

     Years ago, we found an injured cat in our yard.  $400 later, she was current on shots and missing a tail(the injured part) and some internal parts.  The ad read "owner may claim by reimbursing us $400 for vet fees" .  Would you believe, no body called.  You might just be out of luck on this, but you could send the woman a bill for the vet fees.  You seem to be nice people.  I am mean and nasty at times, and probably would have not surrendered the pup till I had my money back.  You are not required to give a dog to a rescue because they want it, and you surrender bargaining power with possession.

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    Our first go-round with the dog, through a county animal control office in WV (where we live) the foster agreement is basically that you can seek any medical care you wish for the animal, but it is a donation. You can't recoup those fees. Honestly, I don't really care about the money at all. I would have given as much money as I could to save this little dog's life. Although, honestly, I'd be lying if I said the thought hasn't crossed my mind that she may have been better off to die in the house fire, than to continually be tossed around, underfed, filthy and scared.

    The second time, (which was through a rescue group in another state that was associated with an elite veterinarian)  we hadn't given any money yet. She told us what the charge would be, we applied to adopt her, were accepted, and she was bringing the dog to us the next day, at which time we were going to pay for the fee. When she then said the "relative" had come back, I asked if the relative was going to have to pay for the spay, etc, and she hemmed and hawwed around, before finally saying that no, the relative had to pay nothing because she didn't give permission for the spay etc to be done. That made ZERO sense to me, but again, the woman lied so many times I couldn't keep track of everything.