Let's help Jan and other expectant first Moms...(g33)

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    Liesje, I agree.....

    Like I always say to my friend Kim who has 3 kids....

    "I can feel my tubes tying themselves....."

    Good luck to all the expectant moms.....Big Smile

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    Wow.. I never knew all the stuff you needed!!

    I want A kid, but now that I've said that, I'm going to have twins..Lol! This is helpful for me as I love learning all this stuff.

    I even gave BF a heartattack one day when I walked into the house reading Dr. Spocks pregnancy guide. I think I saw him age 10 years that day..Still I can't wait till I get pregnant but again it won't be for a few years.

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    What they said! I haven't read every post so I apologize if  I write something already written.

     

    -Tucks (they are a must if you get those not so fun hemorrhoids ) 

    -take the water bottle home that they give you after you have the baby

    -best things I found to use for the baby is those baby nighties. Makes diaper changing very easy while you are at the hospital

    -I second the taking the mesh undies

    -I also second chapstick/ bottled water (and lots of it), slippers.

    -Also bring a housecoat

    -bring shampoo/ toothpaste/ tooth brush/ deodorant/ hair brush if you get stuck there for a few days.

    -Diapers (make sure if you buy newborn you have 1 size bigger just incase they are too small- we had to make a night run to the store to grab some for Nev- newborn were too small)

    -Cute going home outfit is a must Stick out tongue
     

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    huskymom

    Well said.  And I agree 110%.  Both of my children are worth so so much more than labour and delivery.

    Oh and i forgot to add that in the first month or so you may doubt your decision on whether having a baby was a good idea or not. And just when you're about to lose it, they learn how to smile. The emotional post-partum rollercoaster is tough. Lots of moms go through the doubts, sadness and frustration. But things do even out. There were times in the beginning where I was just confused and wondering why i didn't love her more. Everyone always talked about that instant love. For me I just didn't feel it in the beginning. But after all these months I realized that in the beginning they are so needy and all you do is give and give and you don't get a lot of anything but crying and poopy diapers in return. But like i said, just when you're about to give up they learn to do something like coo or smile. Just wanted to add that in case any of the moms go through similar stuff. I just remember feeling so bad about it. And I don't want other moms to feel that way and i want them to know they're not alone!

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    Not everyone can BF. I think this is an important bit of information. If you can BF awesome but you are no less a good mom if you elect to bottle feed.  After having the baby you are already on a roller coaster hormonally. Please don't put pressure on yourself should you discover you are not good at or unable to BF.  I found my milk caused the babies problems. The first baby I forced my self to try for 3 weeks, my "equipment" was sooooo sore and I cracked and bled despite the lotions and moisturizers.  Baby is everybit as happy to be held and bottle fed then to be held by a mom who wants to cry the entire time from frustration and pain.  Give yourself permission after an honest attempt to use a bottle. The first few days are important so try to handle them if nothing else.

    Socks, remember to bring cute comfy socks!! Slippers are a pain if they get kicked under your bed by staff or visitors.

    A packet of Thank you cards and a couple of pens. Women are in and out of the hospital so fast anymore that you need to use the time to accomplish things that are harder once you are home caring for baby, pets and house by yourself.

    If you have a good camera , make sure you have extra batteries. If you do not have a camera check out the new generation of disposible ones at CVS or WALGreens , having a couple is smart !

    I made sure I had boxes of candy and other treats delievered to my room. Sharing them with the staff made them more eager to answer a buzzer and come when requested.

    Don't forget your best brush, a hairband or what ever to pull you hair back. Try to avoid shoving it in a pony tail. You will already be tired and possibly in pain which will change your complextion and give you shadows.

    Ask for Scrapbook materials at your baby shower. They are expensive and it really pays to scrapbook as you take pictures rather than trying to recreate them after a couple of years.

    TRemember to take snaps or Doctor and Nurses with you and the baby, get a shot of the front of the hospital.

    A going home outfit is fun to pick out. I delegated this job to the G'mas and they were so jazzed I ended up with prezzies too. When my grandkids were born I did the same for them.

    Sweat pants or comfy pretty PJs to allow you to look your best. A bed jacket or comfy robe, as you will have to walk up and down the hallways no matter how you deliver to make sure you are on the mend.

    Your baby book. Have the staff autograph the page where you will put thier photos.

    A favorite blanket, I love  special materials and when I have to go to hospital I bring along my favorite pillows and my favorite lap throw, they are in obvious patterns making it impossible to leave them behind or have some one else take them.

    A note pad with any and all numbers you may need, Or if your hospital allows cell phones bring your charger.

    Lotion or moisturizer to rehydrate your skin.  Anesthesia is very drying to your skin and hair.

    I had my babies by vaginal birth, all of my grandchildren (10 of them) were born via C section.  Make sure you read up on everything for the type of birth you are planning to have.

    I also like to have a special stuffed toy, one I can use to show growth for the child's life.

    I am sure I will think of a million other things, both as one who had babies and a retired RN.

    Hugs to each and every one of you

    Bonita of Bwana

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    ewin0210

    Oh and i forgot to add that in the first month or so you may doubt your decision on whether having a baby was a good idea or not. And just when you're about to lose it, they learn how to smile. The emotional post-partum rollercoaster is tough. Lots of moms go through the doubts, sadness and frustration. But things do even out. There were times in the beginning where I was just confused and wondering why i didn't love her more. Everyone always talked about that instant love. For me I just didn't feel it in the beginning. But after all these months I realized that in the beginning they are so needy and all you do is give and give and you don't get a lot of anything but crying and poopy diapers in return. But like i said, just when you're about to give up they learn to do something like coo or smile. Just wanted to add that in case any of the moms go through similar stuff. I just remember feeling so bad about it. And I don't want other moms to feel that way and i want them to know they're not alone!

    I agree Emily!  I was just thinking about this last night.  Bonding although is sometimes instant, it wasn't for me.  I loved her without a doubt, but I wanted everything to go back to normal.  Now I couldn't imagine how I could have been happy without her.  It took a little longer even for DH.  I had the bonding of BF and stuff, but for him, they really didn't start to make a connection until 5 months or so and he was home with her all day.  This is all normal, don't worry.

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    SOCKS. Lots of socks. So you can change after your water breaks and you're walking down a hallway; after delivery; after the first time you walk to the bathroom.....:)

    Bring soap/shampoo but try to avoid things that are SUPER SCENTED. Take it easy on the newborn's nose, especially if they are trying to BF.

    If you plan on pumping, get it all packed and leave it someplace easy to find. God forbid anything go wrong, but if it does and you may want someone to pick up your pump for you.

    PILLOWS----bring cases/covers that are NOT WHITE. BRING colors or patterns.. We accidentally lost a pillow because it looked like the ones in the room and housekeeping took it.

    CASH--especially one dollar bills. At some point in the labor the new dad may want to get something to eat and the cafeteria may only take cash or could be closed. ATMs dispense twenties and some vending machines don't take twenties.

    IF the Dad takes any medications, pack enough for a few days, just in case. 

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    It's been a few years for me Big Smile but I remember that a lot of things I thought I absolutely "had" to have turned out to be things I really didn't need so much after all ... but a nice, comfy rocking chair waiting at home is a "must have."  If it's also a recliner, so much the better. You might be spending more than just a few hours in it.

    Joyce

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    t__m

    "I can feel my tubes tying themselves....."

    Good luck to all the expectant moms.....Big Smile

     

    I can't agree more with that...lol...I have never wanted children. I'm not very much of a "nuturer" and never have been. I'm almost 23 and I've never changed a diaper, fed a baby, or held an infant. My brother is almost 13 years younger than me, and when he was first brought home from the hospital I avoided him like the plague!!! Not because he cried or anything like that, I was just uncomfortable around him when he was a baby. Today, he's 10 and we're actually very close- I haven't missed a football or basketball game he played in in 2 years. Now, my fiancee on the other hand wants children yesterday. When we first started dating, I told him I do not want my own family. Well, almost 5 years later, he still thinks my mind will change when I'm older, I don't think so. But he holds out hope that someday...but he said as long as I'm happy with that decision when I'm older he'll be fine. Anyways....many of his friends are getting married and having babies right off the bat. They all said the hardest thing was to deliver, but would do it again a million times for their child- no question. So, best of luck to all the new mommies!!! Big Smile

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    mrstjohnson

    ewin0210

    Oh and i forgot to add that in the first month or so you may doubt your decision on whether having a baby was a good idea or not. And just when you're about to lose it, they learn how to smile. The emotional post-partum rollercoaster is tough. Lots of moms go through the doubts, sadness and frustration. But things do even out. There were times in the beginning where I was just confused and wondering why i didn't love her more. Everyone always talked about that instant love. For me I just didn't feel it in the beginning. But after all these months I realized that in the beginning they are so needy and all you do is give and give and you don't get a lot of anything but crying and poopy diapers in return. But like i said, just when you're about to give up they learn to do something like coo or smile. Just wanted to add that in case any of the moms go through similar stuff. I just remember feeling so bad about it. And I don't want other moms to feel that way and i want them to know they're not alone!

    I agree Emily!  I was just thinking about this last night.  Bonding although is sometimes instant, it wasn't for me.  I loved her without a doubt, but I wanted everything to go back to normal.  Now I couldn't imagine how I could have been happy without her.  It took a little longer even for DH.  I had the bonding of BF and stuff, but for him, they really didn't start to make a connection until 5 months or so and he was home with her all day.  This is all normal, don't worry.

     

     

    I agree too. I had a really really tough time after I had my son. I felt guilt beyond imagine, because I had to give up my DD 3.5 years ago before he was born. I was so confused. I also had BF complications, but I tried to stick it out for two months till I ran out so to speak. I later found out I  wasn't medically able to do it, because I had an infection in my Uterus that wasn't discovered until 9 weeks after he was born. Then I had to have surgery. It was chaotic, I felt guilty about not being able to BF, I was in pain. But once I started formula feeding, and healing alot of that stress went away. And I felt like I was able to bond with him well for the first time. I now couldn't imagine my life without him. Ah, now I miss him, and he's at his grandmas till tomorrow lol.

     


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    t__m

    Liesje, I agree.....

    Like I always say to my friend Kim who has 3 kids....

    "I can feel my tubes tying themselves....."

    Good luck to all the expectant moms.....Big Smile

     

     

    Yup, me too.  I'd have been all right if they just would've let me have puppies....  but, seriously, this is a very nice gesture, and great way for idoggers to help one another.  It's also the one subject on which I have little to offer, not having been there except through "borrowing" two great boys.  But, good luck everyone.  May all the births be healthy and happy. 

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    Thanks for all the advice, everyone. Big Smile 

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    I started a thread on this way back when, but I can't find it now.  Danged search feature!

    You know what, I think LESS IS MORE!  I was given LOADS of advice on what to take and ended up taking a large bag, most of which was never used!

    So what I will do for my next one is pack three bags. 

    One for the BIRTH:

    • fairly big bottle of squash
    • hand held fan
    • maybe some music and/or a book if the process is a long one
    • my TENS machine
    • my wash kit for getting cleaned up after (flannel, towel, toothbrush etc)
    • clean nightie
    • some big knickers
    • some HUGE pads
    • a newborn size nappies and a baby gro.
    • camera and spare batteries
    • nipple cream

    One for the stay:

    • More knickers
    • More pads
    • A few baby gros, vests, nappies etc
    • A set of comfortable clothes 
    • A dressing gown
    • Nursing bras

    And another to be left under my bed at home, in case I end up needing to stay longer and need more supplies - basically a repeat of bag 2, maybe with the extra stuff like painkillers, soothing pads, creams etc.  It might sound optimistic, but it's not a given that you'll have a terrible birth experience and need all that stuff.  In fact, you probably WON'T have a terrible experience.  It's not as bad as it's made out to be and it's better (IMO) if you go into it expecting it to be OK.  Being positive really does help.  If you expect the worst, chances are that's what you'll get because it will cause anxiety and tension in your body and will therefore be a self fulfilling prophecy.

    DH can either bring in the bag or just bring the extra bits I need without having to go hunting for them throughout the house (men NEVER know where things are, even in their own homes!) 

    Even that list seems pretty long, but those are the things I don't think I could do without.  Anything more is excess baggage for me.  I did find a pillow helpful when I was first learning to breastfeed, but there was a pillow on my bed which served the purpose perfectly well.