Deb
Posted : 9/6/2006 6:25:37 AM
Unfortunately, if your dog is really dangerous, you have two options, as I see it. You keep your house, and your dog, andperhaps lose your boyfriend. Or, you euthanize your dog. You cannot, in good conscience, transfer those aggression problems to a new and possibly unsuspecting owner. Reputable rescues generally do not take dogs that have caused puncture wounds on humans, especially if they've done so more than once. Looks like you have a tough choice to make. And, you might as well make it, because this guy who doesn't want your dog to start with *really* won't want him around if you ever have kids...
Thanks, Anne, for cutting through the thicket of emotion here.
I went through something kind of similar--I had to figure out what to do with a truly dangerous dog. And the bottom line is that attempting to rehome a dangerous dog is irresponsible. Rehoming is stressful for dogs. Dangerous, unpredictable dogs that are rehomed are going to get worse, not better. The chances of someone getting hurt are excellent.
I would sit down and answer these questions for myself:
1. Is the dog dangerous?
2. Have I done everything I can to make the dog not dangerous?
(IMO, this would mean seeing an allergist, switching his food, and consulting with a behaviorist and doing what they say and seeing what happens. I know that this is expensive and takes time, but dogs are expensive and take time)
3. Can I continue to keep up this lifestyle that I have, in which I care for a dangerous dog?
Having a dangerous dog is a serious liability and a real emotional strain. I can see why BF does not want to get involved with this--no one in their right mind takes on a dangerous dog willngly. Having a private yard is essential, even if the allergies get cleared up and the dog smells good. So is learning as much as possible about the dog and his behavior, so that the threat to others is minimized (this means more money on a trainer/behaviorist, sorry). Dilligence about fixing the fence, closing gates, etc. is critical. The stress of making sure the dog is safe is important to consider here. I would ask myself if I can and want to keep that up, because the cost of becoming relaxed about it if the dog is dangerous is high.
4. Who are all the stakeholders in this problem, and what do they want and need?
This was very important to us when we were making this decision. We realized that we needed to think about:
Our dog
Us
Our Community Of Other Dogs And People
And we realized that because we don't have a yard, and because we got a dog because we spend a lot of time in shared dog-friendly spaces, that in order to keep the dog we would have to alter our lives tremendously and that we could not guarantee the complete safety of our community because we had to take her outside at least three times a day to go to the bathroom and did not trust ourselves not to slip up on all the muzzling, double-leashing, etc. that the behaviorist recommended.
A note to all the folks who are telling the OP that she is discarding her dog and basically being dismissive of her dilemma and her BF:
If this dog is dangerous, then you are not being helpful. It's a really complicated decision that requires balancing your responsibility as a dog owner with your responsibility to having a life of your own and keeping your community safe.