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Cha-cha-cha-changes

Posted : 3/6/2006 7:33:23 PM

I have made my bed and now I must lie in it. After three years of a little something missing from the relationship between Cody and I, I have decided to throw in the towel. While we were a good match metally, physically there just wasn't any spark to speak of and I don't want to settle for half a relationship. It was a tough decision, and he's not making it easy on me, saying things like "You're leaving me just when I need you the most," (because he's leaving for Iraq at the end of the year), or "This was the year I was going to ask you to marry me and we were going to buy a house..." Thanks man. But I'm confident I'm making the right choice, however hard it's going to be to carry out.

Today solidified things for me in a way. Our lease is up at the end of the month so we're going to be moving into places of our own and today I went and signed the lease on a dumpy apartment. It's all I can afford right now. (I did get a $99 move in, a free day to move and not pay, plus a certificate for half off one months rent!!) But I'll manage; it's in the same area I currently live so that'll help. And friends are just down the street.

I so hate moving. I didn't want to move three moves ago and here I am again. I guess I'm destined to be a nomad like my mom, not that I want to be. Darn her for that gene.

Thankfully there's a little light at the end of the tunnel. One of the cities that I applied with back in the fall called me back to interview for an animal control position. I know most people would wonder why would anyone want to do that but it's a stepping stone to get me where I want to be. I seem to have lost my notes on it but I think it pays well too.

Spring is in the air - guess that means changes are afoot, for the better right!

glenmar

Posted : 3/6/2006 7:48:07 PM

Oh Amy. I know this is best and the right move for you, but it still is painful to end a relationship.

Hugs to you, and know that you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

calliecritturs

Posted : 3/6/2006 7:59:30 PM

Better to figure it out after three years than after 10 AND a house bought together and kids. No where in his whining (I'll bet) is there solution or change to make the wrongs right -- so much of a person's true colors come out in a break-up.

Good for you. A lot of us old ... er ..... EXPERIENCED posters (*grin*) have 'been THERE done it' and survived and life is better.

Better a dumpy apartment where you can have your own stuff your own way with your own dog than anything else at all.

Amelia

Posted : 3/6/2006 8:01:40 PM

Good luck to you! The right road is not always the easiest. You know this is the right thing for you so don't let anyone make you feel guilty about it. I applaud you for not settling for "just ok." If someone isn't right for you it doesn't make either of you bad or wrong, it just makes you 2 good people that aren't the right fit. Period. it's nobody's fault. That's life.

Wishing the many good things to come in the future! [sm=peace.gif]

amstaffy

Posted : 3/6/2006 10:11:08 PM

Amy,
I have to agree with Callie, it is so much better to find this out now before the house, kids and a few more years invested in the relationship.

Your in my thoughts and prayers, I know you'll be just fine

jensw

Posted : 3/6/2006 10:15:16 PM

Aw, Amy, that always stinks. You know everyone's right that now is the time to do it, though, and not later. Roscoe sends kisses and wags.

sooner

Posted : 3/6/2006 10:18:21 PM

ORIGINAL: mini_mom

Good luck to you! The right road is not always the easiest. You know this is the right thing for you so don't let anyone make you feel guilty about it. I applaud you for not settling for "just ok." If someone isn't right for you it doesn't make either of you bad or wrong, it just makes you 2 good people that aren't the right fit. Period. it's nobody's fault. That's life.

This was so good it needed repeating.

Best of luck to you. It's heartbreaking, scary and exciting all at the same time.

lorib

Posted : 3/6/2006 11:15:01 PM

Sometimes, even though you can see it's for the best, it is very, very hard to walk the right path. I am glad you can see your path NOW before kids, houses, etc. enter the picture. Good luck in your move!

Liz

Posted : 3/7/2006 3:12:33 AM

Oh, Amy, that's tough. I hope everything works out for you, especially with the new job. I'll be thinking of you!

Sandra TH

Posted : 3/7/2006 6:29:12 AM

I've always found that adversity makes you stronger. Tough times make you grow and learn. I'll be thinking of you.

sharismom

Posted : 3/7/2006 8:22:34 AM

Amy, what Callie said is so true. I'm also in the BTDT club and the only other thing I can offer is this: never settle. You will be okay.

Also glad to hear about the potential job!

willowchow

Posted : 3/7/2006 8:52:38 AM

Sorry to hear about what's going on. My small experiences with stuff like this is that it seems like you'll never get over it or be able to be OK but then all of a sudden you ARE! And, life is so good that you can't imagine it any other way.

Willow would like to send some purple lickies, she's very good at that.

forpaws

Posted : 3/7/2006 9:33:39 AM

Amy just echoing what all are saying. You have got to do what you have to do to make yourself happy, better now than as Callie said to find out now than years from now with too much tied into it.

Know we are thinking of you and things will get better. You will see.

garrettandpaul

Posted : 3/7/2006 1:27:00 PM

Hey Amy I don't know you nor do I know the circumstances for the break-up but I want you to know that I think we as people need to be Happy and no MAN or WOMAN is worth making you unhappy. I wish you the best of luck in your new place and now your new adventures in life. Keep your head up it will get easier[]
(((((((HUGS))))))

labcrab

Posted : 3/7/2006 3:58:15 PM

You ROCK! That's all I can say. You really do. You are literally making the decision that I wasn't strong enough to make and yes, I am now divorced. You're one tough cookie and you deserve ALL the happiness that you are waiting for.