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Well, lol my husband might be tired of it. I've been after him to stop penning up the wrigglers for quite a while, lmao! I'd love another...esp now that my youngest is on the road to potty training!
 
I didn't want kids til I met my now husband. In fact if you'd have asked anyone who knew me well(including myself haha)...they'd have laughed in your face at the idea of me willingly having a child...let alone two! Or being married come to that! Right around age 24 things changed in a major way, lol.
 
It's always something with people. When you are single its "when are you going to start being serious about the people you see"...when you're serious its "when are you getting engaged"...then "when are you finally getting married"...then "when are you going to have kids?"....then "why isn't your child (insert learning milestone here)'ing already?"...it doesn't end...so it's best to live your life and enjoy yourself whatever you decide to do!

I dunno, but I agree!!!!  My family, except my older sister, has never been big on the "oh let me hold your baby" stuff.  I excuse my sister becuase she actually wants kids.    But I'm in the same boat.  Happy to not have them!!!

Well, I've been saying forever that I don't want kids and I wasn't going to get married. Then I met a guy who I fell pretty hard for and he asked me to marry him. We were engaged, but he said he didn't want to have any more children (he already had one). You would think that I'd be fine with that since I didn't want any myself, but it wasn't. I didn't want that choice to be made for me.
 
Now, at age 24, I am reconsidering having children. I am NOT a baby/kid person. Not at all. I find almost nothing about babies or children cute. I don't know why, but I've always been like that. I never have the urge to hold a baby and can easily be irritated with most children. Maybe it's because my mother raised me with a lot of discipline and the kids I see today just get away with behavior that my mom would've never EVER tolerated. I don't know. However, I would like to think that I would want a baby when I'm in my 30's.
 
My mom and step-dad have always felt like I would never give them a grandchild because they know how I am. They used to joke that I wouldn't be that great of a mom anyways because I wouldn't really want the child, but after having Ash my mom has said that she knows without a doubt that I would be a great mom. I know I would be too so I hope that eventually I get to the point where I want a kid. As of right now, no thank you. Dogs will do just fine.

That's the thing...I WANT my dogs.  I want nothing to do with kids.  I don't want to listen to the shriek of a baby.  When I want it quiet, I want it quiet NOW, and it'd be all I could do not to hit the kid.
 
When I want to be left alone I want to be left alone.  I'm not taking the kid to Chuck E Cheese or McDonald's.  I'm staying HOME.  I don't want to pack up the stroller and the bottles and listen to a kid whine because he didn't get his Mountain BooBerry slushie.
 
People try to equate me being a good people mother with being a good DOG mother all the time, but it's really not the same.  Patience with a dog and patience with a child are utterly and entirely different things.  I can bang on Strauss's kennel door and say "No whine!" ....but how do I get a kid to stop their shrieking?
 
I don't want to hold somebody else's baby while they button/unbutton to feed it, I don't want to be spit up on, I don't want it to drool all over me, I don't want it wetting in my lap.
 
I don't want to deal with constantly putting a kid back in time out because the brat doesn't get the idea that stay there means stay there.  I'd be the next baby killer, I swear.  I just don't like that kind of stress and pressure.
 
In other words, I'm a selfish git that just wants her dogs, because while they do have their training issues, they're a lot easier to handle than the kid that falls in with the wrong crowd...and they're a lot more fun to cuddle ^_^

"I'd be the next baby killer, I swear"
 
I for one, could have done without hearing that.[]

I understand your feeling about children...and it is OK.  But can you deal with incontinence  issues when your dogs get older?  It will happen...just being realistic as to the facts of life.  It isn't always cosy...

Given what you've written about yourself in other threads, I agree. Don't have kids! At least not until it really seems right, if ever. I think kids would drive you nuts.

Do your life on your terms. Take care of the things that are bugging you now, and later maybe you'll have kids and maybe not.

Some people still have women pigeonholed as Earth Mother caregivers. Some are, some aren't. [sm=yawn.gif]

Use your gifts as best you can, do what your heart says to do. []

I wouldn't trade the experience of having my sons for the world.  Or all the money in it.  But, it's not for everyone and some women just flat shouldn't be mothers.  If you've no desire to BE a mom, then plug your ears and live  your life.

Gina is right ... the questions never stop once they start.  First you get "When are getting engaged/married?"  Then it's "When are you going to have kids?" And even that doesn't satisfy them -- you get "When are you going to stop nursing/using a bottle/using a pacifier?"  "When is he/she going to be potty trained?" "How come he/she isn't walking/talking yet?" At some point you just learn to tune them out and say *UhHuh* a lot. []

Joyce

But can you deal with incontinence  issues when your dogs get older?

 
I've done it before, I'll do it again.  Heck, I'm doin it now with the 9 year old.  All it really involves is me getting up more often to let him out during the day/night.  It's not a big deal.  And he doesn't give me this obnoxious high pitched squeal when he's had an accident.
 
If I find an accident I clean it up, I pat him on the head and tell him it's ok, and we go outside.

God I hate that saying.  Many people think my brother's kid is actually mind and when they find out its my brother's they act like I should try to get pregnant. Give me a few years and maybe if I do find a guy that loves my furry crew and I then maybe I might consider kids.
 
I hate all the questions. Right now it's when I'm going to learn how to drive. Hmm when my mom finally lets me get behind the wheel. When you going to get out of the house? When I have enough money saved up to buy a house and pay bills so I'm not scraping by.
 

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That's the thing...I WANT my dogs.  I want nothing to do with kids.  I don't want to listen to the shriek of a baby.  When I want it quiet, I want it quiet NOW, and it'd be all I could do not to hit the kid.

My son never shreiked uncontrollably like some of the kids I see on a day to day basis.  Its all in how you raise them.

When I want to be left alone I want to be left alone.  I'm not taking the kid to Chuck E Cheese or McDonald's.  I'm staying HOME.  I don't want to pack up the stroller and the bottles and listen to a kid whine because he didn't get his Mountain BooBerry slushie.

Um ok but I get to go Trick or Treating!  And if we had a Chuck E Cheese here, you can bet your butt I would be there and I would not look like a child molester because I would have my kid with me.  Plus I get to go see all the new cartoons at the theater without looking juvinile!

People try to equate me being a good people mother with being a good DOG mother all the time, but it's really not the same.  Patience with a dog and patience with a child are utterly and entirely different things.  I can bang on Strauss's kennel door and say "No whine!" ....but how do I get a kid to stop their shrieking?

  Dont get me wrong but patience with my dog when he ate the dining room chair was hard.  My son never did that.

I don't want to hold somebody else's baby while they button/unbutton to feed it, I don't want to be spit up on, I don't want it to drool all over me, I don't want it wetting in my lap.

  Wait, you do own dogs don't you?  How did you get away with this one?

I don't want to deal with constantly putting a kid back in time out because the brat doesn't get the idea that stay there means stay there. 

  Lucky you, my dogs still don't always "get" time out.

 I'd be the next baby killer, I swear.  I just don't like that kind of stress and pressure. 

Yup definately would have been better off not seeing this one.

In other words, I'm a selfish git that just wants her dogs, because while they do have their training issues, they're a lot easier to handle than the kid that falls in with the wrong crowd...and they're a lot more fun to cuddle ^_^

   Although I don't agree that my 88 lb husky is more fun to cuddle than the new baby I will be having in December, I do agree that you should only have children when you can see the good things about them instead of the bad.  For you that may be never, but I wouldn't commit to anything right now.  You are young and when you say no to something you sometimes feel obligated to stick to it even if you change your mind down the road.

I feel ya.  I have friends that have THE brattiest kids on the face of the earth.  I can't stand to be around them.  Actually, the only kids I don't find irritating are the sleeping ones.

I have actually stopped going to my inlaws church because of the kids there.  There is a crying room, but most parents simply don't use it.  They prefer to instead subject everyone to the caterwalling of their offspring.  There have been times when mothers will let their toddlers run up and down the aisle, shreak REPEATEDLY, throw fits, etc, all while the Pastor is giving the sermon, and they don't bother to take the kids out.

There was one family that my inlaws are friends with who we did NOT invite to our wedding, because I knew they would bring their kids and let them scream.  Well, my inlaws took it upon themselves to invite them, and guess what?  I could barely hear myself say my vows because the baby was crying so loudly.  They never took her out to the crying room, just let her cry through it all.  To top it off, EVERYTIME we see them they ask us why we don't have kids.  It is only love for DH that keeps me from saying "BECAUSE I'VE SEEN YOURS."

DH's little sister always asks us when we are going to have a little girl (fat chance, considering in DH's family there are 6 boys and 2 girls).  The last time she asked that I pointed at Sally and said "We already have one."  She replied with "No, I mean one you can put cute little dresses on."  So I told her the next time I brought Sally, I'd put a dress on her.

I'm 25 now, and I guess there is a small chance that I could change my mind, but for now, I'm happy with critters.  DH says he doesn't care one way or the other about having kids, but he knows for sure that he doesn't want them right now.
-I can put Sally in the crate when we leave and not be put in jail
-her toys are cheaper
-I don't have to cloth her
-she doesn't make ungodly noises
-I would rather clean up dog vomit, dog poop, dog pee, etc, than a kid's anyday
-she will never run up a crazy cell phone bill
-she will never come home pregnant (and if she does the vet and I are having a little chat)
-I can watch rated "R" movies with her present and not worry about scarring her for life
-she will never beg me to shell out $300 at Abercrombie & Fitch for two pair of ripped jeans and a see-thru top


And, DH and I go to cartoons at the theature anyway.  In fact, we just saw Monster House.  []

I sincerely hope that my comments weren't construed as putting any one down or thinking "less" of them for not wanting kids.  Having children was RIGHT for me, but I applaud those women who have the wisdom to know that having them is NOT right for them.
 
And, as I've said, I adored my own children, I go ga-ga over infants, but in general,I find todays child to be obnoxious and too in my face, and I don't enjoy most children.  And of course, that is the doing of their parents, and perhaps MANY of them shouldn't have been parents for whatever reason.