NicoleS
Posted : 10/29/2011 8:14:57 AM
Not to jump the gun, but... Whenever we decide for #2 -- it will be difficult because we can assume it will still take a while, and try earlier but there's really no correlation unless there really is something affecting us. DH had been tested and is fine, and in our initial consultation the doc couldn't find one thing to pinpoint any trouble -- very little variabilty in cycles, no evidence of insufficient hormones or anything you could see from charts and what little data I could collect on my own. Of course I'll be several years older as well, so maybe we'll plan on needing a year and need a month? Or maybe it will take several years? I'm a planner and the uncertainty is enough to give me trouble!
We put off planning trips and other things that far in advance because "I might be pregnant, so...." and finally towards the end I had to stop that. I couldn't not plan to go to an amusement park in 3 parks because I "might" -- if I was, I wouldn't go, but that was getting to me. Actually we bought 3 or 4 bottles of wine the week before we found out! We'd drank half of one bottle, and then found out, and DH had to finish the rest himself. Now we have some to celebrate after birth!
I will say that having to try for so long, made me almost skeptical when I saw the first shadow on the pee stick. I ended up using SEVEN of them, over the course of maybe 2 weeks.... part of that is the scientist in me wanting to see them get darker, and part of that was trouble believing it. The month it worked, was the one least likely to work due to timing and travel - go figure. I didn't even call anyone to set up appointments for over a week and we didn't tell our families for over 2 weeks.
The other thing that I found a little weird, was that my PCP wanted nothing to do with me, and other than offering yet another pee stick, wouldn't do anything other than say "congratulations!" and the midwives or any OB/GYN didn't want to see me for what seemed an eternity - my appt wasn't until 9 weeks. I guess because if you miscarry that early there wasn't anything that could be done to prevent it, but still. I wanted some reassurance that I was eating right, doing what I needed to do for the baby, not using things at work I shouldn't, etc and no one wanted to see me :(
Anyway, it certainly was an experience and through it I found out a number of other people I know had trouble as well, or miscarriages, and I wish I had been understanding of everything before all of this just because I'm sure I've also said some insensitive things in the past that I would never say now, since it's impossible to know what problems people are having unless they share.
Anyway. I can already tell I'm feeling better, I can eat a full meal without being nauseaus, and go longer between meals. I'm not quite as exhausted as I'd been. go placenta, go! Sleeping only on my left side, although the position I used to prefer, is going to be a challenge. It's not mandatory quite yet but will be soon enough. I guess baby can compress blood vessels if you lay for extended periods in other positions. I already have a zillions pillows to support myself and still wake up in weird positions. All for a good cause, right?