Trickling Thursday talk

JackieG

iluvjamison

But, dont worry, I will happily make up for Tina's lack of consumption !!!!!

Now, that's a true friend.  In the spirit of friendship, I'll help you Deb. :)

I'll take one or a few for the team too ;)

It's windy and rainy again today but I'm actually enjoying it. I am hoping that it'll clear up at least one of the 3 days this weekend. I'd like to get out to the equine rescue but they don't have volunteer hours if it's raining.

My boss was in the office for the first time in over a month yesterday. Based on the stuff he left on the conference room table, it looks like he'll be back today

I made a dent in some of my work yesterday and finished up a project I'd been procrastinating on for far too long, so that felt really great. If I stay that focused again today, I could actually be caught up on stuff.

 I'm in email hell. I started with over 125 work emails this morning. 66 more to go!

I am super grumpy and need to vent. Last night (through his typical horrible communication skills and uncanny ability to accidentally say things that are easily interpreted badly), BF said it was boring to talk to me, that talking to me wasn't important to him, that he can't put forth a lot of effort into our communications because he's "really busy" and "sometimes just wants to relax," and then got mad at me for expressing my unhappiness at his long silences and distracted responses. Is it possible to have a successful long-distance relationship with someone who is THIS bad at communicating? I mean, I'm glad he's still happy with our relationship, but I'm dyin', here. I could be going on dates and making out with lots of dudes (something I hear is fun, but have never tried, since BF is the *only one* I have ever kissed) - instead I'm trying desperately to eke out 3 words of conversation from a blurry online grumpy boy. ARGH. At least BF is visiting me in a week (finally)! Since he's so bad with words, it will be nice to have other ways to communicate with him...

Make out with Rascal !!

Deb W.

Cita

BF said it was boring to talk to me, that talking to me wasn't important to him

Hmm, no comment on this one!!!  ((HUGS))

LOL @ Deb!

Are we drinking for Tina now???  You know what they'll think if you go to a wedding with a popped out belly!!  hehe

Cita, IMHO, communication is extremely important in all relationships, but even more so long distance. You need to keep connected and find creative ways to do so. It takes effort on both people. 

My fever finally broke yesterday. Today, I have a lovely raspy voice and sore throat and naturally I have a billion calls to make which cannot be put off. My voice has already been the source of amusement to many lol. At least I feel human again. Hopefully, I won't lose my voice entirely but that is quite possible. Guess I'll just keep using it until it goes! Also my ears are all plugged up, so people occasionally sound like they are talking under water!

Back to the grind!

Johnny&Tessy

You know what they'll think if you go to a wedding with a popped out belly!!  hehe

Very funny, Johnny.  I'm not THAT huge. And I think that's only if you're the bride, which I can assure you, I am not.

Cita, I feel for you.  I've been in 3 long distance relationships and IMO, you need to be able to talk to keep the connection going.  First relationship, the guy called me all the time - I had no space.  It was as if he didn't trust me.  Second guy is the one I stuck w/ for 7 years and he seldom phoned or emailed me.  It was completely opposite of the first guy.  In fact, 2nd guy always reminded me it cost him money to call me.  I repeatedly asked him to communicate with me, to little or no avail.  When he did talk, it was either to lecture me or tell me the world was against him.  I seldom saw him during the last 3 years of our relationship.  I finally realized I couldn't live like that.  I needed some meaningful communication and he wouldn't give an inch.  I always felt like an inconvenience to him. This time, with my friend I'm seeing, we talk about once a week. He doesn't have email outside of work.  I never feel like I'm bothering him if I call.  He'll call me, too. He doesn't talk a lot, but when we do, I feel like I'm important to him.

Now, you say you've never had another b/f.  Are you his first g/f?  Maybe being apart has him looking for what he thinks he missed, that he doesn't know if he's ready for commitment.  I'm throwing that out there, of course, not knowing much about the whole picture.

Relationships are tough, esp. long distance.  And if you keep running into this stuff with your b/f now, how will it be in 5 years?  The make-up sex can only repair so much.

I'll definitely take one (drink) for the team.  :)

Cita, I'm sure if you gave Rascal half a chance you'd find that he's wonderful at making out. :)  Give the little guy a chance.

Cita - IMO, communication is important, but it does depend on the couple/person for how they communicate. When DH and I did the long distance thing (for what only ended up being six months), he'd call every single night, some nights or a few nights in a row we'd simply just say goodnight - there wasn't a lot to talk about, other nights we'd have great conversations. With my DH, he's terrible at talking on the phone and not much better on Skype, unless it's a topic he's passionate about, one of his hobbies or music or something. He'd frequently do the long silence, distracted response thing - it was never a reflection of how he felt about me or whatever, I never felt that he *didn't* miss me or wish I was there....he's just a guy and hated sitting on the phone sometimes so when he got like that I'd just let him go do his thing and I'd do mine.....by mine I mean apple martinis.....

Apparently there's a dog park in my town. I had no idea. I wonder where it came from.

DH and I have entered a new level of pathetic with Timmy. We make smoothies every morning as soon as we get up, and one morning the other week Timmy was looking rather interested in my smoothie, so when I was done, I let him lick the cup....he seemed to really like it and he looked so happy........now he gets his own tiny couple of spoonfuls of smoothie in a small dish in the morning while he cuddles with us. It's his special cuddle time. Sadie stays in bed until 8:00.....Timmy gets up with us at 6:00. I bet Sadie would be ticked if she knew....lets hope she never finds out. ;)

.stacer.

We make smoothies every morning as soon as we get up

Thanks for the reminder!  It's been some time since I made one.  I use to make them all the time but started getting tired of them so took a break.  My whole crew here LOVES them!  I think Tessy and Charlie lose a couple of pounds just from drool when I make them.

Having a Bar BQ today it's so nice out!

Stacey, my BF sounds a lot like your DH! I know my BF misses me, in his own way, he just hates talking/communicating in general. And as a result, sometimes (accidentally) says things that can be hurtful, like, "Talking to you is a lot of work." What he really means is, "Talking to anyone is a lot of work"!

I like the idea of Timmy getting his own smoothie. I'll do that for Rascal sometimes, too. Sharing is caring!!

...except when it comes to sharing saliva. Sorry, Rascal, no makeouts for you - you'll have to wait for Deb :)

Johnny, enjoy the Q!   Give Tessy some belly rubs from me. 

(((((Cita))))) 

I cleaned and cleaned some more this morning and now feel much better.  Now back to the paperwork.  

Gabby is NOT good at helping clean in case anyone was wondering.  She does make it pretty amusing though. 

Looks like we've got a pretty good size crowd for the Tiki Bar.  Tina, you're the designated driver. :)  

JackieG

Looks like we've got a pretty good size crowd for the Tiki Bar.  Tina, you're the designated driver. :)  

Story of my life...

 Gentle snuggles for Tessy.

((hugs)) Courtney. I'm not sure I could do the long distance thing.

Timmy smoothies! How cute.

I might **might** be getting a new job! DH forwarded me a craigslist posting last night. I applied right away. It's in a town an hour away, but I noted that I would prefer to work from my home office, and told them about how well it works with my current freelance client. They called today! She had to talk to someone else to coordinate schedules to set up an interview *shudder.* She said I'd probably have to work there one day a week and the rest I could do from home.

My current job helps pay the bills, but it's ultra boooring. There is no time budgeted for creativeness. It's just frustrating for me. Plus my computer is sooooo slow I spend most of the day watching the little ball spin or a progress bar fill, or restarting after crashes. Also, it's been really slow and I've had days off because there is no work. On top of that we're already short one full time employee who has been on a 2-3 month maternity leave. So when he comes back, I'm really not sure if there's going to be enough work for me.

So of course it's really premature but I'm excited. I hope it works out! And I hope I don't blabber and studder like an idiot during my interview. It's been about 5 years since I've had one! I'd better update my portfolio.

 :::heads to the Tiki Bar::::

Thanks for the complements on the motorcycle and the condolences on our neighbor for the other day's chat

Good luck Jan!!  Feel better everyone whose sick.  (((Cita)))  

I'm ready to go home, that is all.