Angel -- this may be another long-winded Callie post, but bear with me and maybe I can make some of this make sense.
Let me first say a lot of the 'heat' above is about semantics--- "words" specifically and the emotions they evoke. Most of us who are 'regulars' on here are about as "crazy" to the rest of the world as anything. Words like "irresponsible" hurt -- particularly when you truly love your dog. But let's leave all the definitions aside and maybe ... just **maybe** I can bring some clarity here and hopefully not only defuse this but hopefully "make a difference".
I'm not a total antique but I am well over ... well darn it, if 50 is "collectible" then I'm SURELY that. But I grew up in a small town in western New York State. No one locked the back door, and no one kept their dog on leash. You taught them to 'stay home' for the most part. And ... if they got away occasionally, you chased them down and "made your point". Often a harsher point than would be considered acceptable now.
Along the way I took in a little street stray -- she'd been abused as a pup, and had belonged to a drunk. Independant as they came - "coming when called" was NEVER part of her repetoire. But I occasionally just let her loose because ... well, it's how I'd been reared. I thought they "needed" it. I thought it was "good for them". I thought it was "freedom".
Somewhere along the way when I was over 30 and she was over 10 we moved south to Orlando to a large VERY urban area. Now I'd been living in a big city up north (Rochester is pretty darned big and VERY urban) and while I was there I kept her leashed because I lived on a main drag. And I knew she wouldn't 'come' for stink. But once I moved down here and bought my own home, I relaxed that a bit eventually -- but I very nearly lost her a couple of times.
Along the way here, I've had to change MY thinking. And frankly, that's a whole lot of the "difference of opinion" above -- some folks consider it "normal" and "desirable" for a dog in the country to be loose. some folks consider it "irresponsible". And in total honesty -- ya'll aren't gonna agree in theory until some basic understandings are reached.
I've said this before and I"m not getting up anybuddy's nose. This is 2006. This is NOT 1960.
Yeah, Callie -- big flash. But honestly, I'm serious. Back in 1960 if a dog lived to be 10-12, no matter the size, it was AN OLD DOG. A dog who lived to be 15 or 16 was very unusual. A dog who lived to be 19 or 20 -- WOW.
Now, it's more common. Dog "health" is not only a huge issue, it's BIG business. Not only are we all spending small fortunes on food, collars/leashes, toys and what have you ... we're all spending more at the vet. We all have opinions (strong ones) on things like vaccination and pest control. Why? Because generally we all want a better quality of life for our dogs.
but when it shuffles down to everyday life -- most of us have changed our minds enormously about things like whether a dog should EVER be unleashed.
See Angel -- you come from a standpoint that *assumes* it's natural and desirable for your dog to be offleash for periods of time. I *used* to feel that way. I don't any more.
Does that mean I think you are bad?? No ... but it also means I'm probably gonna try to get you to understand MY point of view, and hope I can sway you.
Glenda, bless your heart -- I bet you DO have dogs with perfect recall. I'm not gonna say it doesn't exist -- but I'm also gonna readily admit that as much training as I do with my dogs -- I've never had it. Probably part of that is my training, and part of that is likely how much time I've devoted to it.
But I have come to a hard, hard truth -- and that's that in the reality of MY 2006, my dogs can't be off leash. Now they are in my backyard because it's fenced. In the front I might occasionally use a drag line if I'm 100% totally concentrating on what's going on and if I KNOW there are no neighborhood predators (idiot dogs who run amok) that may cause a problem.
I used to always let my dogs go to the car unleashed. Out the door, into the car. No biggie. But I had a very similar (and extremely embarassing) situation happen with an Altamonte Springs, police officer a few years ago with my deaf cocker, Muffin. I was sick and in the middle of an asthma attack and Mufferino got away from me. I'm wheezing my way down the driveway to get him and I hear "SCREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEECH" and a bullhorn "LADY -- COME GET YOUR DOG"
There he stands in the middle of the road, wagging his non-existant cocker tail at a cop in a police car stopped about 3" in front of him. I didn't get cited because I had the lead in my hand and two others ON leash (and I was coughing too hard to breathe anyway). But I did get a stern lecture.
In my own estimation I was stupid, dumb and ... yeah, irresponsible. He was deaf and had NO business being off lead EVER when I couldn't control him (how do you call a deaf dog in from the back yard??? with a flashlight and you hope he hasn't put you on "ignore"!!!).
That was only the "final straw". And since then none of the dogs get out where they aren't contained BY FENCE without leashes.
Freedom? You know, that's vastly over-rated. What they REALLY want is to have fun with us. So they get to go in the car any time I can possibly take them -- even if I have to INVENT places to go just to give them some fun.
Because bottom line ... their safety (and it really truly boils down to that word "safe" more than any other thing) means more to me than their freedom or my convenience. And Angel, I'd bet next week's check this hasn't one single thing to do with 'convenience' on your part -- you just plain aren't like that. You are dedicated -- that's plain. But my bet also is that you likely feel "freedom" is very important to them.
It's really not. "Freedom" is meaningless if some idiot drunk driver AIMS at your dog just because he's mad at his wife or boss -- your dog doesn't have to be in the road to come to grief. And honestly that's really where this all goes.
The dog unleashed ... even in your yard ... is at risk. Because unless you have that incredibly rare 100% perfect recall, then frankly there is always going to be that super RARE occasion when that "thing" that the dogs see that is SO incredibly, unbelievably, DOGGIE-ATTRACTIVE that they lose their brains and go where they ought not.
A month ago, someone was driving down my street -- stopped at a 4 way stop and for some totally unknown, unforseen, totally ILLOGICAL and brain-dead reason when they crossed the intersection (just houses on 4 corners -- no big huge intersection and no traffic), they gunned it, jumped the corner curb, barrelled thru a six foot solid hedge and TRASHED the steps to the house on stilts behind (we're talking a quarter million $$$ home here).
No one apparently got hurt. WHY?? why did this even happen?? How *could* it have happened?? My husband and I have looked at this over and over and it makes absolutley NO logical sense how it could have happened -
Maybe someone had a heart attach at the wheel?
Maybe someone was drunk?
Maybe someone was having an argument (on the cell phone or IN the car)
Maybe someone had a seizure?
Had ANYTHING living been sitting on or near those steps it would have been dead.
No, Angel, this isn't YOUR situation. But my point is ... absolutely anything at all can happen.
One of my best friends had a Welsh Terrier -- he was IN their fenced yard!! He saw a squirrel. He barrelled at the fence with all his little body -- and the gate gave way and opened. He barrelled after the squirrel into the street, got hit by a car and killed instantly.
Horrible, terrible and unavoidable accident. But he WAS in a fenced area. Granted -- maybe not an infallible fence and a gate that wasn't great. She had it on her "honey do" list. She WAS watching out the window and took her eyes off him for a split second.
My point is .... to this day SHE feels responsible. To this day she bears horrific guilt. Because she KNEW he chased squirrels. Because she KNEW he lost his brain when he saw one. Because she KNEW the gate wasn't great. Because she DID take her eyes off him.
Angel -- a whole LOT of us have stories like these in our "history". So we long ago made a stiff judgment that says "Dogs need to be ON leash ALL the time" (or at least unless they are safely contained). And this is where words like "irresponsible" creep in .... mostly because those of us (particularly those of us who are sorta older than dirt) who know sometimes the worst WILL happen ... we also know it can be avoided by doing that one more thing that might diminish fun, it might diminish freedom, it might be a thing we aren't used to doing or *needing* to do ... but doing it CAN save a life.
Angel -- DO continue to train -- use a long leash and it doesn't even NEED to be a "leash" but a new clothesline works great. Get a stake that twists into the ground or make a run line on a pully (but he WILL wrap himself around the nearest plant or tree -- it's somehow in the doggie rules). Walk your property with him at least once a day. Pointing out "this is OURS ... this is *not*".
Why train if you are gonna keep him tied? Simply because the day may come when the rope snaps. Or he gets away by accident -- like my Billy yesterday -- I let him out of the car ON LEASH to pee and on the way he got stuck on my keys and it literally snagged his collar OFF and suddenly he was out of the car LOOSE on a major 8 lane highway!! -- but "Billy come" and he WAS back immediately!!.
Accidents happen -- they DO happen and they WILL happen. The word "irresponsible" or "careless" or any other negative thing we may call ourselves comes into play when someone COULD have **prevented** the worst from happening by taking some kind of steps.
I feel for you -- I was reared in a more rural setting and with my whole being I would like to rebel against the encroachment of "civilization" and say "That's why we LIVE in the country!! So we CAN let our dogs have freedom and our kids not have to fight their way thru crap to get to school". But to a degree - there are still choices that have to be made there in order to avoid accidents.
I'm not getting up anybuddy's nose. I understand everyone's side -- and altho my heart longs for the day when my dogs COULD run free -- I know those days are gone, just like the day when I could get up and decide it's summer and I don't wanna go to work ... THOSE days are gone too.
It's a shame? Maybe. My dogs don't get out "for a run" any more just loose in the neighborhood. BUT ... I **do** more with them than I ever did before. I expose them to all sorts of situations and I train them to be good citizens ON LEASH so I can take them with me into a zillion situations and I know they'll enjoy their time and I'll enjoy mine. Freedom became vastly over-rated when my little old girl wandered away and couldn't FIND home. And I didn't know someone had let her out of the house. The fact that she never HAD good recall was immaterial. The fact that I drove for hours looking for a dead body by the side of the road -- it made a big impression on me. The fact that I DID find her, but she was so scared she shook for hours -- that too made a big impression on me. Suddenly keeping her safe ... sounded a whole lot better.
Sorry this was long -- I can see both sides of this, but honestly I do have definite opinions regarding containment. But I doubt "rubbing Angel's nose in it" is gonna accomplish a thing other than offending her. So I thot I'd try.