I am an idiot and my heart is broken (outdoorschik)

I'm so sorry and I wouldn't dream of flaming you nor do I think you were at fault. As someone else said, if you'd have even had a hint that there'd be a problem, you'd have done things differently. (((HUGS)))

I am so sorry...... be easy on yourself, time will heal.... (((hugs)))

 You won't get any flaming from me, either.  Only a lot of (((hugs))) and understanding.   

outdoorschik

...As silly as it is, it feels like a betrayal of my trust for her.

I don't think it's silly at all.  I would probaby feel the same way.

I'm taking it minute by minute, I guess that's all I can do. Intellectually I know that time will make this better, but right now it doesn't feel like it will. I was scared to post thinking people would jump on me for letting this happen. Thank you all, this has been hard on us. I miss him a lot and keep thinking I see him in the house. I keep finding his hair tufts from the tragedy and it's hard. I got the message from my mushers when I was at work yesterday and broke down in my office. Got home, curled up under the covers and just cried ... BF had to peel me out of bed. I didn't cry this much over Snickers my heart dog when she died, it just feels preventable and I keep telling anyone who will listen that I should have protected the little bugger. Everytime I put on my shoes I expect a little body to slam into my shoelaces and try to run off with them or when I print something on the printer, that he's going to run from across the house to bat at the side of it. I also feel like I let the shelter down that I got him from, I swore up and down that my dogs were fine with cats ... I thought they were.

YOU ARE NOT AN IDIOT!!!  I'm so sorry this happened.  Please don't blame yourself. You had no way of knowing this would happen.  I don't know you for years like others on this forum, but, from what I've seen, you wouldn't dream of letting your dog anywhere near this kitten if you had any sort of hint that your dogs were going to hurt him. Much love and many hugs.  The heartache will lessen in time.

I am so sorry.    My Irish Setter, Red and my rabbit, Funny Bunny were best friends, odd for hutning dog and rabbit.  My nedty Irish setter was best buds not only  the cat we got and the chicken we inheirted, and also my new rabbit, Mr. Rabbit.  They hung togehter.  That same cat's best friend after the deathof Boots was the little chihuahua next door 

I never worried about either of thsoe dogs and the rabbits or cat or chicken.  My goldesn Buck, Scooter, Hounter, and KayCee were all great with the cat.  Honey--she goes after anything that runs, I think it is the sight hound in with her golden retreoiever.  I know not to trust her around a cat.  BUT when you have a cat and dog that gets along you have no idea a tradgey can happen.  Do not blame yourself.

You get no judgement from me!  I am so sorry to hear about Roscoe. I would be very upset with Oly too, and it will take time to get through this tragedy. (((((hugs)))))

Roscoe- look for a happy 5-toed black and white boy named Opal, he's been at the bridge since 04. He'll show you around and I'm sure his old pal Satchmo the bichon boy will be right along with him to show you the way.

 

I am very sorry this happend.

 

 No flaming from me. I get that the love for a baby kitty is unmeasurable. Run free, little one.

 I'm so sorry Karen. There isn't any way you could have known this would happen; please don't blame yourself.(((((hugs)))))

I am so sorry you're having to go through this. Sending love and healing energies your way.

Like everybody else is saying...don't beat yourself up over this.  I constantly worry that one of my eight hellions is gonna grab one of my cats sometime while I'm gone.  I can't see them ever doing something like this but nothing (at least in this house) is guaranteed!  They usually always chase them when they come in the door.  The upstairs is the dogs and the downstairs is the cats so they usually BLine it for the downstairs.

Hope you feel better soon.  Good calming vibes from me to you.

Karen, you aren't an idiot.  It's just something that happens, & with no earlier warning signs, it wasn't like you knew that it was going to happen.

Last winter, I left our cat, Bach, loose with the dogs.  I had no previous indications that there would be any problem at all.  Bach plays with the dogs, sleeps with them, & pretty much has no clue that he's a cat.  The dogs, literally, raised him as a kitten.  I left to go run some errands, & luckily for Bach, I forgot my cell phone & turned around to go back to get it.  When I pulled into the driveway, all that I could hear was insane barking.  I got into the house to find Chyna & Bevo on top of Bach.  I got them off of him with no major injuries, but had I not came back for my phone, or if I had been a minute later getting back, Bach would have been killed.  I had no reason to believe that they would have hurt him, & they haven't attempted to bother him again.  At this moment, he is sleeping in between Bevo & Chyna. 

My point is that you just never know what's going to happen.  Incidents, & accidents happen.  It's just a fact of life.  You learn from in & do your best not to let history repeat itself.

((((Hugs))))

Run free Rosco.

 When Crusher bit Kali, I felt the same way.  Intellectually I knew it wasn't his fault.  It was my fault, and Tyler's fault for not listening to me.  But Crusher still spent the better part of the next day in his crate.  I was absolutely terrifed to go get him.  Not afraid of him, but afraid I would not be able to look at him without hating him.  My timeframe was pushed up, simply because he was confined in a crate, not an outdoor kennel with access to a potty place, so I had to go get him.  He was the same dog.  Nothing about him had changed.  He seemed contrite, but I've no idea if it was my mood or that he knew what he did was wrong.  But even that was fleeting. 

The only thing that changed permanently was my trust in him.  I know for certain now, that I will never again trust him to be alone with my kids.  Or any kids.  But that was a change in me, not him.  He never was trustworthy around them.  I just never knew how much.  He was no different.  I was.  I still love him.  But at the time, I wasn't sure I would.

Look at Oly.  Try and see a difference in her.  Do it in your own time.  Your head already knows.  Your heart will catch up.  The only thing you can do is learn from this.  

My absolute condolences on the poor kitty.  :(

 I am so sorry. I've tears for your Rosco, as well as tears for you. I can understand the feelings you have towards your dog but, as you have said, time will heal that wound. I just don't know what to say. Wish there was something to make this sadness all go away for you.