funny how some things work out..........

I'm curious how you found your half sis or how she found you.  Did she know about you?

Makes you wonder if your mom knew she wouldn't do a good job of raising you and your sister, which is why she left y'all with your dad.  I would tend to believe that anyway.  Though I'm sure it was difficult at times to grow up without a mother figure, seems to me your dad did a fine job all on his own.  Do you see your maternal grandparents at all?

scrubsfiend

I'm curious how you found your half sis or how she found you.  Did she know about you?

Makes you wonder if your mom knew she wouldn't do a good job of raising you and your sister, which is why she left y'all with your dad.  I would tend to believe that anyway.  Though I'm sure it was difficult at times to grow up without a mother figure, seems to me your dad did a fine job all on his own.  Do you see your maternal grandparents at all?

i knew about her since she was born from my mom's parents - who I've probably only seen maybe 5 times in my whole life. So i knew her name, about two years ago I searched her name on myspace & I found her. She knew about me & my sister - but not much.  its been neat being able to talk to her - its disturbing how much we look alike. lol.  I dont really know about what was going on with my mom - from what I know it sounded like 'she wasn't ready' to be a mom - but a little late after having two kids dont ya think!?!

There wasn't much grandparent influence, my dad's mom died when I was really little, and my grandpa was a huge alcoholic & I maybe saw him a handful of times growing up.  Then on my mom's side - i didn't get to see her parents much either. I literally can count on one hand how many times I've seen them. 

Ya my dad did the best he could, the look on his face with the recent 'update' was priceless - I think alot of times he thought he could do better - as I'm sure many parents think. But I think he really knew that it could've been WAY worse.

I'm just happy that even though I've never met my half sis in person - I can still be there in some way even if its on the computer or on the phone - through this phase of her life. She seems really level headed & has said many times that she doesn't want to be anything like her mom, now I know why!  

Being raised by a guy has its advantages  - how many girls do you know that knew how to change oil in  a truck by the age of 7???? LOL

it also has it's disadvantages - like i still have no clue about fashion or what to do with my hair!! HAHA.

thanks for reading my post though, i was just so shocked it had to tell someone!

akyramoto82

Being raised by a guy has its advantages  - how many girls do you know that knew how to change oil in  a truck by the age of 7???? LOL

it also has it's disadvantages - like i still have no clue about fashion or what to do with my hair!! HAHA

I can relate! My sister was much older and wanted very little to do with me so IT was pretty much myself and 3 of my 4 brothers growing up. When I met Hubby #1 his sisters freaked me out! He was the only boy and the oldest his 4 sisters were just toooo girly to be real. They all took to their bed when they had a period, I was out riding or working doubles, They actually plucked each other's eyebrows and on occasion shaved each others legs  Yecch !! sorry just tooo much sister closeness for me!  So when it came time to plan our wedding I was super efficient and knew what I wanted, I did not waste a tremendous amount of time when dressing for the wedding, I mean how hard can it be to brush your hair, and put on a light make up?? They spent months and months carrying huge bunders and swatches of a million things. I would sit there with a patient smile and be thinking Pick something already Sheesh!!  I was not a full blown tomboy because my mom was a Southern type debutante, I had th emeaning of ladylike pounded into my head from birth. But I could haul hay , clean the stable and out race any of them on horse back, held my own in cars too except I did not take part in maintnenace, knew how but why bother, calling my brothers for a ride saved me over 2 years of insurance, gas, and upkeep and I never had to look for a parking spot either... I know lazy snot huh?  After growing up in the company of way more guys than girls I am still not comfortable with women to the extent of having many women friends. Sometimes they just get tooo picky on things they can't change...  kind of caught in the middle. when they would sweat what to wear to a company function I would wander in look at one store find 2 things to try on and bought it, my friend Donna and I went shopping a few times and I wanted to pull my hair out. She would ooooh and ahhh over a dozen things try all of them on , some several times and then want to go to another store without having bought 1 thing... I just wanted to find a bar and a strong drink after the second store ! IT was just too much , especially when her husband would not have cared if she had bougth everything that tickled her fancy!!

Oh well different strokes don't ya know!

As for your mom, it is odd how things work out sometimes isn't it??  Your dad did a great job with you , it must stink to be your 1/2 sister though,

Bonita of Bwana

Bonita of Bwana

Sometimes they just get tooo picky on things they can't change...  kind of caught in the middle. when they would sweat what to wear to a company function I would wander in look at one store find 2 things to try on and bought it, my friend Donna and I went shopping a few times and I wanted to pull my hair out. She would ooooh and ahhh over a dozen things try all of them on , some several times and then want to go to another store without having bought 1 thing... I just wanted to find a bar and a strong drink after the second store ! IT was just too much , especially when her husband would not have cared if she had bougth everything that tickled her fancy!!

oh man the shopping kills me!!

I've been so lucky that my best friend is not a girly girl. Some things I just dont understand.  the shopping drives me INSANE!! get in get out, go do something else! ironically my BF really enjoys shopping, he 'likes' clothes.  right now i'm wearing a sweatshirt that is almost 10 years old & has ten million holes in it, it still keeps me warm, so i'm still wearing it LOL. I dont think he'd EVER wear a sweatshirt like this.

Wow, that's incredible.

There's a show we sometimes watch called "the Locator." It's very touching to watch that. I'm glad you are getting along with your half-sister and hope things work out that way.

DW gave up a daughter for adoption in 1973. Such decisions were made for her. That's how things were in south Texas back in the 70's. Anyway, in 1995, her daughter found her through the Edna Gladney Home in Ft. Worth, Texas. That is where E was born. She had been adopted by a well-off family in Princeton, New Jersey. Raised jewish, she hasn't really declared a religion as an adult. They flew DW up to Newark, NJ and picked her up from there. She got to visit New York City.

In 2000, DW and I got married and her daughter, adoptive mother and sister came down for it and her daughter was her maid of honor. We had a renaissance wedding at Scarborough Faire in Waxahachie, Tx.

In 2005, we flew up to New Jersey (my first visit to the Northeast) to see her get married. Her husband, of pure scottish descent, (he looks like a young Sean Connery with long hair), wore a full kit and kaboodle (dress kilt, sporan, etc.)

Feb. 14, 2008, E gave birth to Malia, our granddaughter.

This is currently the pic for our pc's desktop background.