so I had a kid follow me on my walk...

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    so I had a kid follow me on my walk...

    I live in a condo community - fairly quiet one as a good portion don't live their year round (for most it's their good weather second home).  I took Ari for our loop around the trail that's in the property and I had a kid come up to me asking if I'd seen his cat (poor thing) and gave me a flyer with his kitty's picture on it.  I hadn't seen the cat but promised (truthfully) that I would keep my eyes out for him and do my best to either catch him or give a call to let him and his parents know where he was last spotted.

    I really don't know how old the kid was - but young (I am a terrible guesser at kids ages, I put him around 7 ish).  Anyway, he starts walking with me and talking.  So I politely ask where his parents are and he tells me at home.  He's just gabbing away, asking me questions about Ari (who meanwhile I'm trying to hold her down from kissing him to death and/or knocking him over).  We get to the beginning of the loop and he's still there - so I tell him that his parents probably wouldn't like him walking around with a stranger and that he should go home and continue to look for his cat.  He says I'll look for the cat in the woods with you!  I couldn't shake him.  The loop only takes about 20ish minutes to walk, if Ari and I are not diverting over to the river.  He was a cute kid, pretty darn funny - and good around Ari which was nice.  

    But, I was quite surprised that this kid was sooo trusting.  Maybe it was the way (and where) I was brought up but I would NEVER have done anything like that.  I was also nervous that his father and mother would be upset with me for whatever reason.  Indeed his father was waiting at the end of the loop (where their condo unit was) and I introduced myself and Ari and said your son is quite trusting (in a tone that meant he shouldn't be following strangers, without saying as much with his son right there).  His father looked at me and said I know and I am sorry, you have a dog which is probably the reason - then gave his son a good talking to about wondering off with people he doesn't know! 

    For those of you with kids - wouldn't this scare you, or how have you taught your kids about interacting with strangers?  I mean as far as strangers go, I'm quite harmless hehe and I may have a cute puppy and all (and I'm female, I hate to stereotype but you here more about stay away from strange men...) but that doesn't mean anything really I could be some crazy lady who lures kids using a dog!  I was blown away, I grew up with it drilled in my head, you don't talk to strangers, you don't go anywhere with them, and no matter how nice they seem (or what they may give you) get your parents first before accepting anything or going anywhere with them. 

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    Sounds like our parents had similar fears and taught us the same thing.

    If I had been that boys parent I would have been frantic and searching for him furiously!

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    the_gopher
    For those of you with kids - wouldn't this scare you, or how have you taught your kids about interacting with strangers? 

    We've kept it simple. No talking to people you do not know, even if they know your name. Never approach someone in a car...come and get one of us. Mine are 5 and 7 and they finally play out front without me out there, but I do check every 5 mins or so. My daughter is naturally very mindful of rules and like a mother hen with her brother tho I never ask her to do much in the way of watching him...that's my responsibility. But she's always quick to come running and say "Eli broke the branch on that treeee....Eli is digging in the diiirt....Eli knocked over my biiike" sorta thing LOL.

    Honestly the biggest way to avoid that is simply being there staring while they play...but as I said I have a certain amt of trust which they've both earned to let them outside without me for short periods. If I didn't feel safe doing so in this neighborhood we'd likely move. Most all the neighbors know each other and are at least nodding acquaintences and that more than anything is a deterrent for crimes of many sorts.

     

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    How sad that we live in a world where children have to be drilled to be terrified of darn near everything.  I don't blame any parent for being super careful, I'm just sad that kids miss so much.  I grew up in a totally different time and we all wandered the neighborhood without fear.  The only warning I remember is don't take candy from strangers!  If a pedophile had told me a lost dog story I'm sure I would have hopped right in the car!

    You did all you could and I think most of us nowadays would have felt the same.

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    JackieG

    The only warning I remember is don't take candy from strangers!  If a pedophile had told me a lost dog story I'm sure I would have hopped right in the car!

    I would have hopped in the car as well, just as long as it wasn't a white van. Of course everyone knew, kidnappers only drove white vans.

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     I'm much more relaxed now that I'm back in my hometown.  When I was in TBay I was nervous about Kale, though he played outside all the time with his friends.  He knows not to talk to adult strangers, adults to him being anyone over 12...  He knows not to go near vehicles, especially if they are running.  He also has about a block radius where he can play.

    Here, he's all over the place.  He's 9, so not too too young, but  young enough that he still has to check in fairly often.  He also knows that there is safety in numbers.  And like a typicle kid, he doesn't care to play outside by himself, and is usually with a group of 4 or 5 kids.  

    Tyler who grew up in the city is more concervative than me.  He is just to the point now where he doesn't freak if he can't see Kale out the window.