Try Again War Movies ??

 My hub served in Nam also, as a C-130 navigator...did a lot of body transports, and one thing he never did was mention the war again, and he would never watch a movie about it, although he would watch other war movies.  It was a highly emotional time for him, and one he didn't want to keep reliving.  You know your hub the best...guess I would just ask him first. 

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  You know your hub the best...guess I would just ask him first. 

That's kind of what I am thinking , I have a weird cinderella type remake in for the grandkids the  satelite is out thanks to the darn storms .. He will not be home for a few hours and I can watch it in the AM... That's cool with me. After being an ER nurse and Oncology staff for ages I can't imagine wanting to relive everything I saw either. Even after 27 years I am not always sure what to bring up ... Guys can be so darn moody about weird things ....

   Bonita of Bwana

 I don't know that I would call it being moody, so much as being sensitive.  Our forefathers were proud of their service in the WW's and loved to tell their stories to family and friends, and we loved to hear the stories.  Those who served in Viet Nam got a different reception when it was over, and although they could be proud of their service to country, there were too many people not feeling the same way.  And it hurt...they were not honored in the same way their fathers were...

Don't get me wrong, I fully appreciate how really lopsided the return was for the guys in the VietNam war and any other action our country has sent soldiers to fight in.  I am much younger than Bob But my older siblings had a lot  to say about the war.  All of the Men in my family except my youngest brother were in the Military,  and baby Brother was in Military school from 13 on...

When Bob went to Vietnam I was 4 years old, when he came home he was soon on wife number 2 since the military did not protect him as they were supposed to instead allowing her to get a divorce and cited him for abandonment!  It was beyond rough on Bob, His second wife was the widow of a close friend who was like 7 months pregnant when he returned, he helped her get through the end of that pregnancy and then adopted her daughter.   Nope that war was rough in more ways than you can count. Men are simply odd creatures.  I adore the man so do not think for one minute I don't.  We are the yin to each other's yang. He is a triple degree Engineer, I am  an artist and RN.  I was fascinated when he got his last knee surgery watching avidly the film of the procedure while he hurled in a waste basket.  I get bogged down by emotion and he pushed threw with common sense.   I remember when a friend wanted to watch  the Apocalypse, I hated it he loved it, But then when the group discussed it he shut down conversation with a rough "It was just a Movie" remark...  Working ER I handled more gundshots and knifings than I like to remember, But it has never stopped me from being the first at the side of an injury, human or animal.  And working Oncology , after a while you developed a sixth sense and it was painful to be at a party and see some one and just "know" ... you still smiled and tried not to say anything all the while wondering if they knew .

I don't think on a Good day I could ever call Bob "sensitve"....  in 27 years I bet I can count the days when I have seen him truly emotional on both hands.   Caring, loving and concerned totally but sensitive... nah.... that one would never fit my darling man.  I asked if he wanted to watch the movie and he said said "What ever"  so I popped it in,   I spent the entire time thinking about the plot and the characters , he seemed lost in thought , I worried it was too much ans asked him he grumbled " Just watch the movie"  when it was over I waited wondering what the mood would be,   it was fine once he was able to switch to golf.  My bad I had forgotten there was a pro am on.....

Bonita of Bwana

Bonita - Not sure if this helpful or something you already know, more of an FYI -- but I would keep your DH away from We Were Soldiers. It's a Vietnam file (starring Mel Gibson), and is based on the book by Joe Galloway. Despite being a Hollywood film the the battle scenes were made to be very accurate and I know it was very hard for a lot of the men (who the film was about) to see, but they were grateful that there story was told.
 
Hope you can find some good ones that fit the bill.

Most of what I really know about the Viet Nam War comes from Lee, who didn't have a problem talking about it. OTOH, most of his missions were classified due to location but his specialty was C-4 demolitions. And 9 confirmed sniper kills. He never really discussed Viet Nam movies but many of them were not all that accurate to begin with. The one military type movie he had a high regard for was "G. I. Jane." This echoed what I had learned from my Asst. Scoutmaster in Scouts. He was an Army Ranger and he brought in one of his instructors. That teacher was the kind of guy that could "teach you to eat things that would make a billy goat puke." Anyway, Lee stated that "GI Jane" was the most accurate depiction of life in bud/S.

But every war is hell. FIL was in WWII but I don't see him watching a lot of movies about that. No special trauma, he's just not into watching movies. He was in the 9th USAF 410th Light Bomber Group. He had more than one job. He worked the mess hall. But, being of german descent and able to speak german, he was a translator and caretaker for german POWs. I think it affected him that most of the soldiers captured were younger than him and were okay when they weren't conscripted into the ***. They kept their barracks clean, did any job asked, and some were even good at handicrafts. FIL has a large plaster of paris medallion of the american eagle made for him by a POW.

Men are odd creatures and war is a crucible that sometimes redefines a man.

My dad was in Vietnam.  And knowing him, he'd say it was fine and would watch the movie, but it wouldn't be good.  He also can't listen to CCR.  His thing is, that he really, really wants too.  If he does though, he'll have flashbacks and won't be able to recognize family and friends.  So I usually err on the side of caution and if something makes me wonder if I should share with him, I don't.