Well, that was creepy...

Plenty of good advice.  As for me, I'd be "creepy" back, and get as much info on HIM as possible.  Get a picture of HIM and post it with a note that advises NOT to release any information to him.... or anyone, really.

If I had a name, I might search some of the criminal databases that are publicly available. 

Since you have repeatedly turned him down, there is no "nice" side to this.  At it's best, this situation is "sad"... at worst...it's a whole other story.

For your sake, I hope this just turns out to be sad and that he clearly gets the message and finds someone who reciprocates the interest in pursuing a relationship with him.

I would be livid if someone gave my personal information out like this, they have no idea who this person is, even if they did, one would think they would have talked with you first. 

You would also think, if the man had a picture of you, he would know your name... Idiots!    The picture aspect would unnerve me to no end, that would make me the most uncomfortable, I would want to know when and where it was taken.

As women, most of us want to be nice.  If he calls you again, please be as forthright as possible and state I'm just not interested, ask him to repeat from calling you, tell him he's making you feel uncomfortable.  IMO, the police would be more apt to make personal contact with him, if he knew under no circumstances is he to contact you.  If he calls again, call the police. 

Do you know if he gave you a home number since you believe he's married?  If you don't know his name, there are free sites on the net that will allow you to do a reverse number search.  Cause after the police, I would call his wife.

Vary your routine from time to time.  I used to run, and people got used to me at a certain time, they would say 'I didn't see you yesterday" at first I thought how nice, then it dawned on me, this isn't always a good thing.

Trust your instincts.  Do what feels right to you.  Walk softly and carry a big stick;-)

Liilith

Walk softly and carry a big stick;-)

Or... walk with a big dog carrying a big stick.  

Or walk with a big stick and a big dog who is also carrying a big stick!

Tina - be safe and trust your gut.

Bear - Start stockpiling the big sticks.... 

My ex stalked me -- for several months after I booted him out.  He broke in the house (and of course the dogs saw him as "daddy";), cost me my job (because he showed up there wrecking havoc), etc. 

After he broke in the 2d time, I went to my friend who does rescue and I said "I need to borrow ... er foster ... a dog.  ONE WHO DOES NOT LIKE MEN!!"

She picked up the leash in her hand and said "How's this?" (150 pound Chesapeak Bay Retriever -- a HUGE dog) -- and her comment was "I don't *know* if he likes men or not -- but he's BIG!!"

 I took Reuben home.  He was a complete mush.  But even the other dogs felt safer around him.  And when my ex called me the next night I said "You should see the new dog I have!  The only problem is I guess he doesn't like men ... Sandra told me he was an 'unknown' and to be REALLY careful!!  But he's HUMUNGOUS -- like 150 pounds -- sitting in my CRX his head bopped the ceiling and his feet extended all the way forward and he was SITTING in the seat!!"

"But chicken ... you're a hard habit to break"

"better break i!"

 "big dog who doesn't like men" -- Best lie I ever told.  Ex never came back -- I haven't heard from him in twelve years!!

Protect yourself. DO call the cops.  DO report it.  DO raise caine at work.  I would tell security at work -- I would ask for an interview with security.  Your boss doesn't need negative publicity about a stalker at the track!! 

janobonano

Liilith

Walk softly and carry a big stick;-)

 

Or... walk with a big dog carrying a big stick.  

Or...go out an adopt another large dog or two or three........

Seriously though--be safe.  Go with your gut.  If contacting the police feels right, then do it--best to get a record of it at any rate. 

I did do a search on public databases for criminal records/sex offenders - nothing.  He gave me his whole name and I did look it up in the phone book to check the number he gave me - it matches and his address is listed - I would guess it is his home.  I have a call in to an attorney friend of mine and am thinking I might have him send the guy a letter on my behalf telling him to buzz off.

I haven't heard from the man again and am trying not to make a mountain out of a molehill.  I can't control that he may have mistaken my politeness and small talk as a sign of interest, but am still puzzled by the fact he had a picture of me on his person.  I've had guys say some pretty strange things and try to convince me I should go out with them over the years, but nothing like this. 

Maybe the morons over at the track figured he was an old guy and harmless.  Or maybe they thought I'd be glad to hear from him - it is a small place, relatively friendly atmosphere considering it is a gambling establishment.  I don't know and haven't heard back from the manager - I'll have to follow up with him, though as a courtesy, I'd think he'd want to let me know something. 

My neighbor across the street has 2 Dobermans - maybe I'll borrow them for a few days.