Would it be wrong of me

"wrong" - not really.  It's never wrong to 'miss' them.  But don't just jump into it without a TON of thots and without talking it over with your folks, etc. 

Bottom line ... she's not Princess.  We can 'want' them back ... but you know, she was one of a kind!  There won't ever be another 'Princess'. 

Think about it for a minute ... would you really WANT to truly replace **her**??  Was she that run of the mill?  Was she that "ordinary" that you can just go snag another dog who **looks** like her and have it the same?

No, of course not.  Because she was special.  Think of the things she did that made you know how much she loved YOU.  Could anybuddy else do that the same?  Nope.

Now, you may like the breeds - she may LOOK like Princess.  But you know what?  This dog is absolutely unique and special TOO.  So, it wouldn't be wrong to want her -- but it would be wrong to expect her to just simply "be like Princess".  That would limit her to being something she's not.  And it would take away from you the experience of learning to love another dog SPECIFICALLY because **they** are unique.

I'm not scolding you -- not at all.  I've lost too many and I've shed far far far too many tears not to understand how you feel.  But that's what they've all taught me -- to love each for exactly WHO they are and all the new love and NEW experiences and new incredible wonderful awesome things that next dog is.

If Princess were replaceable you wouldn't have loved her so much.  Loss is so hard.  I lost my Prissy about 15 years ago.  She was my heart dog -- and to this day (so many many years later) all I have to do is type her name and tears come.  When I cross Rainbow Bridge myself ... and there's a whole darned crowd waiting for me ... you can bet I will greet each one individually -- BECAUSE they were each and every one special.  Muffin the Intrepid was an English Cocker and Billy's an English cocker.  alike?  Nope.  not even close. 

I don't blame you for being attracted to her ... but don't get her to 'replace' Princess. That just plain won't work. 

I usually wind up wanting NOT the same breed again -- simply because I don't want to try to 'replace' somebuddy.  Other's feel differently.  That's FINE. 

This may help you process your grief -- but good for you for looking!!

I don't think it's wrong at all. If you're ready to bring another dog into your life, then go for it. We rescued Sassy about a year after we lost our other lab, Jake, but the only reason we waited so long was because we were selling our house and buying a different one. I will warn you of one thing though. Although Sassy looks very much like Jake did, she's completely different in personality. That was fine with us, but for some people, it might be tough to realize that the new dog isn't the same as the one you lost.

I lost my little Sophie, My Heart, almost two years ago.  A couple of months later I got another little puppy that looked so much like my little girl.  I did not do it to replace her, but to help take away the emptiness that I felt in my heart.  I named her Treasure kind of as a tribute to my little Sophie, who was my treasure.  Well, Treasure has truly become a Treasure to me, just because of who SHE is, and not because of Sophie.  Treasure is alot like Sophie, but she is her own little self, and I love her so very much.  Very shortly after I got Treasure, I found out that the father of my little Sophie had babies (the mother of Sophie was no longer being bred.)  Because I still missed my Sophie so very much, I took one of those puppies also.  She is Olivia and shares Sophie's middle name of Joy.  Olivia is such a sweet little girl and is such a joy to me.  I almost did not get her, but am so glad that I did. 

Neither one of these little girls replaced my Sophie, and they shouldn't, because Sophie will always have a very special place in my heart that can never be filled by another.  But, each of these two, along with my other girls, have their own space and makes my life so much brighter and better because of who THEY are.  They have helped to take some of the pain and tears away and have brought laughter back into my life.  Am I glad I got them, oh, Yes I am--for who they are.  Even though I see parts of Sophie in each of them, and I'll admit I love that, and I love them for who they are.

I think it would be fine for you to get the female, but just remember that she won't replace Princess.  Keep that special place in your heart for Princess and give your new dog a special place of their own.  They will fill it up and bring back laughter and love to your life. 

Keep Princess in your heart and mind...and she's never far from you.  Pictures, memories, talking about her will keep her always close by. 

Is it wrong to want a dog that looks like her?  No way. 

Is it the right time to bring in another dog?  Only you and yours can answer that.  Think long and hard about it before you act.  When the time is right, you will know it.  When the time is right, you will feel it like a biological clock ticking.

I've been there, we all have. 

 I talked to my mom today I called her and was like I went to the animal control site she said for what I really don't want another dog thats it I want Princess and she said why would you want another dog why the same breed, why so it can remind you of Princess and upset you even more. I don't know it's just so hard for me :(

No dont think of it like that! With so many abused or needy homes in this world there is nothing wrong with opening your heart to another.

Especially with breeds who can sometimes be misunderstood by the public. You'd eb doing a great service to Princess by taking in one of her own.....I think Princess would be proud and look down saying "Hey look at my momma giving another girl a chance". I think you should get her NOT to replace Princess but as a dedication to her and her wonderful breed! Like I said.....she would be proud indeed!

I don't think it's wrong to want the same breed again... If you think it is time, then go and take her, I know I would.

Just, don't do the mistake of looking for Princess in that dog... Princess was unique, you loved her very much, but she is gone now. The new dog is a new dog, and don't believe that she could replace Princess in any way. It wouldn't be fair to both of them...

My advice is that you give yourself time to heal and when you will fell that you're ready, take a new dog (the rott or any other) to fill the emptiness.

Good luck...
 

 Like everyone has said, there's nothing wrong with wanting another dog that resembles Princess.  But if your mindset is still that you want another dog JUST LIKE her, then you're just going to be dissappointed.  It won't be fair to you or to her, going into it like that.  You will be too busy looking for things that make her Princess, to notice and really appreciate the things that make her her own dog.  If you're thinking that way, my advice would be to wait a bit.  You will know when the time is right.  Princess will send you a sign of some sort that will make you smile and say OK.  And then maybe a rottie will be in your future, in her memory, rather than in her place.

huskymom

 Like everyone has said, there's nothing wrong with wanting another dog that resembles Princess.  But if your mindset is still that you want another dog JUST LIKE her, then you're just going to be dissappointed.  It won't be fair to you or to her, going into it like that.  You will be too busy looking for things that make her Princess, to notice and really appreciate the things that make her her own dog.  If you're thinking that way, my advice would be to wait a bit.  You will know when the time is right.  Princess will send you a sign of some sort that will make you smile and say OK.  And then maybe a rottie will be in your future, in her memory, rather than in her place.

Not to mention it's not fair to the new dog to keep having that comparison. "Well, Princess knew not to bark when I'm taking a nap... Princess wouldn't have eaten my new pair of shoes... Princess always knew when I needed her to comfort me...." etc. etc. etc. It is SOOOO easy to fall into the trap of wanting the new dog to behave exactly like the old one, especially if they look alike, and it's just not a fun situation for anyone. Even though on an intellectual level you know that they aren't the same, it can sometimes be really hard to keep from wanting them to be the same, you know?

I have been away from my computer for a few days.  I just want to see what you decided to do about the Rotts you found at the shelter.  If nothing yet, I think you will be offering either of these Rotts a wonderful home.   Having lost 2 Rotties I understand the attachment to the breed.  They are so loving and so devoted.  I think you should go with your heart, no dog is the same personality, they are very different same breed or not.  I think you will love either of them as much as your  Princess and they will love you equally as well.  Take it from me....You wont forget her,

 have not made up my mind, it's not the breed even tho Princess was half rottie I always wanted one but I miss her so much and just want her back I have been thinking alot about it I am leaning towards not getting them don't think I could love him or her the way they need to be loved like I said in my other post I actually don't want another dog but seeing them and they look just like her in those picture's just really hard without having Princess around some days are ok but then others are not I really do miss her

I picked Bonnie Blue because she did look like April as a baby.  Is she another April? No way, she is entirely different in personality, and that is great, she is a little dear and very peppy. *S* love her.  I'm glad I picked her, so go ahead if it feels right for you.  Can she replace Princess, no, but you will love her I'm sure.   Good luck on your decision.

Wrong?? not sure about that...but it would seem you have a concern about it.  When you lose a soul puppy it is normal to want to do anything to bring them back. As long as you realize this girl is not   Princess you may be able to build a brand new relationship with her, starting a new adventure.

I have my grandchildren talk to the new dog / pup about the lost one. They pour out to the eager listener the hurt and longing, they tell tales and brag, they cry and eventually they know this new dog is a great dog as well.  It takes a loooooooooong time to be better than good. Givent the chance I believe most dogs can achieve it.

If you can not see this rott as her ownself, then you will do a diservice all around.  She will never have the love she must surrely long for, you will not have Princess and someone else may miss out on a dog they could love dearly.

Could you try to foster her ? Bring her home , and give it a try, if you can not bond then talk to Rott rescue to see if they will take her.  The worst that could happen is you give it a try and by taking her out of the shelter you save her life.  The best is you find she is a kindred sister to Princess, one who echos her heart and loyalty but gives you a different path and challenges.

keep us all posted, and the very best to both of you.

Bonita of Bwana 

I know how you are feeling, we lost Shadow in Jan. I still get tears on some days, better on others.  Our puppy Rocky is taking the pain away with all the love and laughs he is giving us.