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No good deed goes unpunished....

Posted : 1/22/2007 11:57:57 AM

I know I am having my own lil' pity party here but I need to vent to people that understand.

Last month I was approached by a gentleman at a pet adoption event looking for a temporary shelter for his dog while he moved here from Miami. He's going through a bankrupcy and having to live with his brother who will not allow the dog to live there. The funny thing was I had gone to elementary school with this guy! I did not mention that to him since he was very GQ and there I was - no make-up, stringy hair cause I just wash and go on adoption days, frumpy worn clothes..etc.
I bought it hook, line and sinker! Especially since I first misunderstood and had said I would bring her up on Saturday's to get her adopted and he was horrified and shouted "NO! I just need a place for her to stay!". *SIGH* I REALLY believed him in spite of everyone telling me he would dump the dog on me.

He brings Nala over before Christmas. She is a lovely Clow/Shar Pei mix and about 7 years old. Unfortunately she did not get along with my failed foster (who was also dumped on me with promises of monetary help to get her UTD on shots & spay which I have never seen) so I had to keep them separate.

After a month now he tells me to find her a good home - see ya! WTH! The way the two of them were at my house I thought he really loved her and I wanted to help someone who was doing the right thing and trying to keep his dog (or so I thought!). She has missed him this entire time and I have no records on her medical status! I am so p*ssed I think I would punch him out if I could find him! This from a wall-flower type.

*Sigh* Now I have to go back to the head of the rescue and ask for help and admit she was right and I was wrong! Our rescue is so small and we do not have a lot of funds - Lord knows I don't that is why I volunteer my time since I do not have money to give them!

I am so sick of worthless people and I am so sick of being 'bit' when I try to help!

Anyone know where I can go to have the 'sucker' removed from my forehead which everyone seems to see but me!

Thanks to all for letting me vent! AAAAGGGGHHHHH!

MissMandy

Posted : 1/22/2007 12:23:55 PM

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. People are so heartless sometimes, and I won't ever understand why. This poor, poor dog. Just dumped because she was no longer convenient.

But please don't beat yourself up over this. You did the right thing 110%. All you wanted to do was help this poor dog, and you had her best interests at heart the whole time. Don't let anyone give you a hard time about it.

Did you have this man sign any type of agreement when he "temporarily" handed her over to you? If so, you may be able to seek legal action. I wish something could be done to have him take responsibility for his negligence.

rredbird

Posted : 1/22/2007 12:57:30 PM

Thanks. IF I thought the guy had any money I would sue for "doggie" support LOL!

I guess what I am most upset with is that my husband and I told him we understand people have hard times and were willing to keep her another month or two for him but he is just like "Its best if you find her a new home!". I thought he was a better person than that. There's also the fact that I will never want to do this for someone else after getting burned like this.

Mookies Mom

Posted : 1/22/2007 12:57:57 PM

Please, Don't beat your self up about this. The world needs MORE people like you who see the potential for goodness in others and the things around them. It's truly sad that this guy made the CHOICE to be irresponsible. What you did was the right thing to do; your choice was to follow your heart. I definitley don't see the words "sucker" on your forehead, not unless its spelled compassion.

miranadobe

Posted : 1/22/2007 1:11:12 PM

Sometimes an owner in that sort of situation thinks he's actually doing the dog a favor - that you're bound to be more sucessful at finding his baby a good home than he is. Sadly, he doesn't understand the impact it puts onto you. And, sadly, I've seen people do this before, also.

If you felt as though this guy was capable of taking her back and maybe needed to be pushed into accepting his responsibility back, I know this sounds really odd and weird, but... if you really believe you will have a tough time placing her, then I'd tell him point blank.
"Look, your dog doesn't have much of a chance with anyone but you (because of x.y.z reasons including whatever distress she's experienced being away from him.) and that in the long run, it would be better for you to work out your situation than face the alternative of humane euth."
Now, that sounds incredibly revolting, I know! But, I've seen that threat of "you need to make this work - you are not doing your dog any favors by giving up" really force someone to take a look at their priorities and deal with their responsibilities if they honestly love their dogs and have just lost perspective.
BUT, again, this presumes you believe this man could really be good to her and take care of her. Obviously not going to put her into the hands of someone who will dump her again, anyway.
Whatever happens, I hope this little girl gets the best possible out of the rest of her life. Every animal deserves as much, and thank you for even taking her in - you have given her a better life just by being with you, I'm sure.